He has already been in a group home for his behaviour. My mother is constantly trying to make changes with certain issues but he refuses to take responsibility for outrageous and hurtful behaviour. He is violent towards my little sister and step-father. I just recently had an altercation with him several days ago with my two year-old daughter in the room. His anger is uncontrollable. My mom is at her wits end and is asking for help from CAS, not to "get rid" of him, but obviously the home setting is not benifitting him or my family that has to put up with this EVERY DAY! They just want my mom to "tough" it out. That his behaviour is all normal teenage things.....I was a teenager not too long ago and I don't recall this kind of horrid, vindictive horse's a** bull crap attitude? What to do?
2006-09-25 14:34:26 · 9 answers · asked by ConCon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This dear mom has already "toughed" it out in more ways than any one can imagine and I suggest that this out of control 15 year old boy be placed in a foster home so this family can get on with their lives and the sooner the better for all concerned too as well as for the 15 year old boy too.
If this isn't done right away this boy WILL for sure take everyone down with him when he goes so far as to do such harm to everyone.
I believe this boy can be saved but not at home because he's already tested the grounds and found out he can and has gotten away with everything so far and he surely doesn't give a damn about his mother or anyone else right now.
I hate to see any family torn apart like this one but for the boy's and the families sake a foster home is better then jail and that sounds like this is where is may be headed if no action is taken right now.
Remember this is for the boy's sake as well as for the family too. This boy has his whole life ahead of him and for this reason I believe a foster home might be the answer to his problem as well as for the family too.
Thank you for your concern and I pray that the boy gets all the real help he deserves as well as his family too.
2006-09-25 14:45:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gawd, I wish I had a magic elixir that would put the whammy on obnoxious 15 year olds. The only thing I can suggest is to tough it out as was suggested to you by CAS. I know that it seems lame and inhumane, but generations of parents have had to put up with 15 year olds insanity and disrespect. Many teens at this age are so incredibly obnoxious and downright selfish and mean. I was incredibly lucky with my own boys. They went through it too, but not as badly as many parents have had to put up with. It is like trying to deal with mad dogs. Impossible to handle or reason with. I found out the hard way with stepchildren that I had been spoiled as far as child rearing goes. My exes children were out of control, disrespectful, deceitful and just plain mean. I wish you and your family luck in dealing with it. Maybe there is a family minister they could talk with to try and figure out exactly why he is so unreasonable? Or possibly counseling?
Best wishes, and your Mom has my undying sympathy.
2006-09-25 22:42:33 · answer #2 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother and father told us that if we endangered the rest of our siblings then we'd have to go.
They said that if you cant follow the rules then you obviously dont need to stay at home. They said they'd always love us, but they wouldnt sacrifice their other children for one who makes the rest miserable.
*shrug* That child needs to be made a ward of the state.
2006-09-25 23:03:00 · answer #3 · answered by the_quetzal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he needs to stay at ur home it will only get worse if hes leaves ur mom needs to do her job and take him to a psch and find out if he has sometihng wrong my sis is the same way
2006-09-25 23:18:37 · answer #4 · answered by josh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand life in your house at the moment must be a living hell with your brother. at his age it is hard to get through to him. BUT he must be made to realize he is making everyones life a misery. i have found you a site to help you. BUT if that fails sign him up for one of the t.v. programmes who can offer there help. good luck.
2006-09-25 21:46:49 · answer #5 · answered by KATIEKAT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my area they have programs that can help you with the child seeing a doctor might help as well . work with his school and ask if there are any agency's that will help you and the family no one has the right to hurt another person
2006-09-25 21:54:59 · answer #6 · answered by missy k 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I got two words for you....MILITARY SCHOOL!!! Either that or you can wait for him to commit a serious crime and be arrested and sent to prison which would be cheaper to you but expensive to taxpayers.
2006-09-25 21:49:14 · answer #7 · answered by truthbetold 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe mom screwed up in raising him... do you have another brother? did he turn out alright?
2006-09-25 21:43:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him to see a psychologist to see if he has ADHD
2006-09-25 21:38:01 · answer #9 · answered by chyna 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋