At what age do you feel I should start letting my daughter...?

Question

I would like to know what age I should let my daughter start doing these things...
1. cussing
2. saying things like slu+, pervert, screwed, or suck.
3. Dating
4. Have parties (guy girl)
5. Have a big sleep-over
6. Have boys call her

Please tell me when you have or would let you daughter do these things. I am a first time mother.
Thank you very much.

Answer 1

WOW... that is all I can say...

1) Never in front of me...
2) Never, you should teach your daughter to respect people... ALWAYS!
3)15 in groups, 16 alone ONLY if you know and trust the guy
4)13 ONLY if fully supervised by multiple parents/responsible adults
5)10-12 depending on the maturity level, But keep it fully supervised!
6)13 for phone calls... but be within ear shot to keep tabs on what is being said.. .don't spy, just be smart about it!

Good luck! You only get one chance to raise a respectable, responsible adult! Its starts in childhood!

Answer 2

1. cussing- this should never take place lol

2. saying 'pervert' is okay since that is a viable term
most people say 'suck' that one might be ok too

3. dating depends on what's happening... group dates, 14.... one on one... 15 or so (my parents said no dating until i was 16 and i had a bf at 14 so don't tell her when she can date just tell her that when she gets asked out by a boy you will discuss things)

4. have parties- if she's the one having the party then it will be at your house right.....?? so just make sure that you're there and that you know the people who are coming (guys & girls)

5. big sleepover- these should always be allowed!! if you are talking about with other girls then this is a pretty harmless thing and will prob keep your daughter young for longer.. what else will she be doing instead...?? talking online or on the phone to god knows who....

6. boys calling- whats wrong with this?? maybe have a time limit or an hour-to-call limit but otherwise.. its just the phone.. better to have her on the house phone than on her cell (dont ever read her diary or listen to her convos.. she WILL find out and not trust you anymore..)

7. if you come right out and ask her about things instead of waiting for her to tell you then you will know more about her...
girls want to tell their moms but if something happens in her life and she doesnt tell you right away then the more time goes by the less she will feel like telling you..

Answer 3

I really curb cussing even in high school. I think it can make a girl look bad and I don't want it from a daughter. The words you are listing are not to bad. That is 12 and up stuff. Dating they have to drive a car. Incase they need to leave or have to drive for the guy you never know. So a driver licenses is good. Have a big sleepover we do now with girls and are fun age around 9 Have boys call is again depends on child. It is hard to put an age on that. Middle school age I think.Boy-girl party I think is about 13.I then pick them up of course.That night.

Answer 4

Ok well peersonally I think she should never cuss especially in front of her mother, well maybe once an adult. As far as if she is saying you suck or using suck in a contense like that not before middle school. Dating really depends on her maturity but not before grade 9 boy girl parties can be at 12 or 13 just very well supervised. A big girls sleep over at 11. Boys calling well hopefully be never but relalistically around 11 or 12 as long as thier friends. Its really hard to say though if your daughter is maturing to quickly and at 10 wants a boyfriend that would scare me and I probaly would not be comfortable with it until she was 16, but if she is is smart and isnt as eagar and more on the tom boy level I would be comfortable at 13. TOmboys are less likely to kiss and do anything where as a more girly girl may stasrt earlier

Answer 5

Hmmm.

1. Cussing -- never really, unless that is common practice at your home. She probably does it with her peers if she is going to do it. I am not sure I would ever come out and condone it.

2. Second list of words: same answer as #1, unless she is telling you that someone is a pervert, or someone is a slut....I am not a big fan of suck or screwed, kind of vulgar.

3. Dating -- 16 in groups, 17 alone

4. Parties -- guy girl -- if you are home, 8th grade, or 9th -- pop into the room every so often

5. Big sleep over -- 5th or 6th grade (girls only!!)

6. Boys call -- hmmm, this is tough, but 8th or 9th

I am pretty conservative.

Answer 6

1. 18 is legal age but I still would not permit around my presents.
2. 18 is legal age but I still would not permit around my presents.
3. Dating depends on her age and level of maturity at that point. If she has proven to be responsible all things can be considered.
4. Again depends on her maturity
5. Ummm My 7 and 5 year old have done this.
6. Nothing wrong with boys calling, but I would want to meet and know who they are before I approve of my daughter talking and taking time away from school to see these people as friends.

I would also want to know the parent of the other person she wants to hang out with. This will tell me more about the person/child and his/her background.

Answer 7

1. Never really! Once an adult not much you can do, except like i do with my 21 year-old boy, and say hey lay off, or watch your mouth, not with me, if they get too profane! They/she are gonna do it with their friends and when they think you don't hear anyhow! You can't stop that!
2. These things are gonna slip from her lips anyhow, even if you don't allow it! i can't believe steve asked that slut to the dance instead of me! Steve's a pervert! Screw that or that sux! Just reprimand as you see fit, but don't allow it! Like above, "Hey, watch your mouth!"
3. Serious out in car alone, 16/17, meet the guy, and you'll know your daughter well enuff to tell! Set limits, and make them to be obeyed! if you call her cell in middle of movie, let her know you expect her to answer immediately, and follow-up! Call at various times! Even pop-in where they are supposed to be occasionally! Not to make scene, they don't even have to know you were there! When you drop her off with her friends, or take them and hang out at mall or wherever, at any given age, they can and will have boys meeting them there anyhow! just play it cool, and keep an eye!
4. Coed parties are no big deal at any age, as long as you are supervising to your standards, or you meet and find that the adult(s) in charge will be supervising in a manner you see appropriate!
5.Same as 4! Not co-ed though! when you feel it is appropriate, and wanna put -up with a house full of screaming giggling girls, and at younger ages, whiners who are homesick, or meet and feel confident with parent(s) having sleep-over!
6. No sense putting it off! let them call, then you can hear a lot of what's being said, and know if it's appropriate conversation for her age! they are gonna talk and hang at school anyhow, at least this way you can somewhat monitor the situation!
These are the things I do and have done as a mother/stepmother with 4 boys! I now have a bonus daughter due to my new marriage, and these are the guidelines we will use! She has had and been to co-ed parties, and big sleep-overs, and i constantly remind her to be a lady!
BE A FRIEND, BUT BE A PARENT AND KNOW WHAT'S GOING ON!

Answer 8

1. at age 18
2. at age 18
3. at age 18
4 age 18
5 16
6, 18

Answer 9

I really hope you don’t judge your students or their parents like you did me. If you do, I really feel sorry for them. A teacher is supposed to guide and not judge. They are supposed to be there for support--not ridicule.

1. In my opinion cursing is never an acceptable thing. I feel it shows ignorance. Even though curse words are merely words society has made them out to be politically incorrect. My parents didn't curse and by their example--I didn't curse around them. (What teens do outside the home is of no control to you when it comes to these matters.) I don't curse now that I'm past that stage in my life where it is "cool" and now I know it's just plain stupid.

2. Again--these derogatory statements aren't acceptable. They are plain out rude and I will never allow my children to use these words around me and will discourage them from using outside of my presence.

3. Whenever she wants to. Dating isn't something you can control. They will date regardless of if you want them to.

4. Have parties--depends on what parties you are talking about. I will let my daughter have guy/girl parties anytime at our house. I will be there but I think it's important to give kids/teens trust in knowing they aren't going to do things wrong.

5. Again look above. I don't care about BIG sleepovers. What's the harm? I'll let her do that anytime.

6. Anytime. What's the harm in letting boys call? If it gets in the way of school work I won't allow anyone to call.

I think it all comes down to trust. If a person trusts their children then it's okay for their kids to do anything because they know their child will do the right thing in a situation. If my child breaks my trust--getting bad grades, staying out too late, being disrespectful to other people--I will take away privileges because obviously those privileges are inhibiting her to fulfilling what is truly important to her life at the time. These things are school, positive family relationships, and responsibility.

Answer 10

1..never I would never allow my daughter or son for that matter to cuss in front of me.
2. same thing I don't allow that kind of language period. It is disrespectful.
3. 13 is the age I would let her go places with a guy but as long as there are others around as well.
4. Would not allow my kids to have parties at my house period
5. 8 would be a good age to have a big sleepover as long as you can handle that many kids
6. at about 13 I'd allow boys to call as long as they were respectful.