I have the feeling that I may be taking the wrong approach to dating because I always end up with the wrong type of guy. I think he's ok and then a few months later, his true colors show, and they are usually ugly (aka, he's not what he seemed). Is there a technique or method to attract a truly good guy? or am I just wasting my time trying to find one? Feeling clueless here!
2006-09-25 14:01:06 · 12 answers · asked by missmarymack 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hiya Cat,
I was at a sushi retaurant the other night, and I overheard an attractive young couple right next to me talking. The guy was talking like a complete jerk. It was all about him, and his ego. Finally the girl looks right at him and says "you are NOT the same man I married." It absolutely floored me, but I was paying my bill and leaving so I turned and looked right at her and said "Yes he is, dear. He is exactly the same man. You just weren't thinking about his personality when you got together with him."
I see it all the time. Girls want a "hunk" and they will reject a sensitive man. "Too weak. Not self-assured enough." Self-assured? You mean cocky and arrogant. Women flock to a cocky and arrogant man. Then they complain later that he's a jerk.
Humility isn't knowing what you're NOT. It's knowing what you ARE. ********* and arrogance are not strengths Cat, they are WEAKNESSES. BLIND SPOTS. A man who does not question himself once in a while cannot improve, adapt, change to new struggles.
So my recomendation is you need to "chart" a guy for a while. You can definitely judge a tree by the fruit that it bears. Look at what kind of "fruit" the guy is producing without knowing that you're looking. And track him for a while, to get rid of false positives cause dby him putting on his best behavior for you.
Then, you need to modify your own behavior to desire someone who is nice. That's the tough part.
Best of luck to you!
2006-09-25 14:30:09 · answer #1 · answered by Jerry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of times what we say we want in a person and what we really want or like in a person are two different things. If your being shallow, i.e. obsessed with looks, image etc. then that's why you end up with men that aren't worth a crap. That's why i always see decent women hanging out with jerkwads for boyfriends. Long story short....you need to mature a little till you realize what's important.
2006-09-25 14:08:31 · answer #2 · answered by Jon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends on what your idea of a good guy is as well. Not everybody is perfect, and there isn't anyody that will fit your expectations 100%. But don't give up hope, there are many of us around, but in a way like a needle in a medium size hay stack lol. Best Wishes =)
2006-09-25 14:03:56 · answer #3 · answered by ME2010 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is with the aid of fact ladies many times like undesirable boys and maximum of them are purely 24-karat gold-diggers, its become difficult on the two sexes. i will in easy terms ask a woman out if im under the impact of alcohol in any different case the shyness is purely too lots to incorporate, that's what's incorrect with the sturdy men, too shy to declare something.
2016-10-17 23:35:23 · answer #4 · answered by cardish 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me rushing to find a guy probably will be harder than letting the guy come to u . U also shouldn't look for the hottest guy that has a nasty personality but then again don't look for butt ugly guys either choose a guy that has same likes as u or has a nice personality and is a gentleman
2006-09-25 14:11:11 · answer #5 · answered by Peyton J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all dont go after looks. Personality is the best thing. Do you enjoy the same things inlife. Are you a jealous person. Be a friend first then date. You will go further
2006-09-25 14:03:48 · answer #6 · answered by Bob G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
REMEMBER the good old Chinese saying: Good man dont come easy....
hahaha, if you meet a guy says he likes u and wants to marry u in three days, it mostly is not a good sign.
2006-09-25 14:13:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take your tie before dating a guy get to know him and let him know you are about what makes you happy what are your likes and dislikes what are your short time goals what are your long time goals become friends before you make any kind of commitment wishing you the best
2006-09-25 14:06:52 · answer #8 · answered by goldia4063 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Subconsciously girls want to date assh0les, they always ended up jerking around the good guys
2006-09-25 14:04:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GL. finding a good guy is like trying to find a good girl.........so few and so far between
2006-09-25 14:03:42 · answer #10 · answered by swright76@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋