Any words of advise for a broken heart?

Question

My relationship of 2 years has ended due to his alcohol abuse. Any advise or encouraging words? My heart is broken and I am starting to slump here.

Answer 1

I was in a relationship for 5 years,it started off great.I thought he was the one.Then he got into a motorcycle accident and got hurt bad,became addicted to pain pills.I stayed for 2 years hoping it would all change,but it got worse.He was abusive and spent all my money on drugs.I got real sick and tried to kill myself too,till one day I realized I deserve much better than this.It hurt to walk away I was even scared.But it got better as time went on.I kept myself busy with friends and family,I found new hobbies and old ones to.And my life returned to normal.He's still out there doing the same things so I thank God I not with him no more and that he gave me the courage to walk away and move on.Keep your head up,it hurts bad I know,but it does get better.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Did you try and help him get help for it? Because giving up alcohol is not an easy task...if you feel in your heart that you did all you could to help him with his problem...then you should somewhat feel at ease. Cause you know you did your part as a partner in the relationship. Now if he didn't want to fix the problem...then I can understand how the breakup was hard..you must have really been in love and two years is a long time. You didn't leave cause you wanted to...you left because you had to. You too should have put each other first in the relationship...and it seems like he chose the alcohol over you...if he can't put you first...then you're better off without him. But really the first step was to figure out whether he had control over it or it had control over him, that way it might help for you to see if it was the right decision to leave or stay, you get what I'm saying? You look like a strong woman...and your strength is what will get you through this. It's okay to cry...but don't make it a habit...it can affect your entire life style. There are plenty more men out there for you..if you feel you need to move on. I was the alcoholic in my relationship...it I was blessed to have my husband by my side to help me out..he kept me focused and showed me that when I'm unhappy or depressed or having too much fun..that I don't have to drink. If you still really want to be with this man...make sure you (and him) have tried EVERYTHING you could to make it work. I hope I was able to help!!! Smile...life gets better!!!

Answer 4

A relationship ending is a hard time on you. And hearing things like you're better off or time heals all wounds and all the others I know don't seem to help at all right now. But time does have a way of helping to heal the heartaches and shinning a light onto things that will help you see things differently than you can right now. One of the best things that I can think to say is that alcohol abuse is an addiction that will not only cost you emotionally but financially as well. Or it will eat away at any glimpse of happiness that you might try and have so, hopefully with time you will see that you are really better off. Best of luck to you and hope your broken heart starts to mend soon. Take care.

Answer 5

I'm not going to tell you that years from now you may not still love him. Sometimes love just isn't enough. Time does make it easier to deal with the hurt but if it was really love it will never go away entirely. You will however see that love in a different light. You'll see him and yourself in a different light. Toxic relationships are just plain tough but you'll definately make it through this. You know you've done the right thing. Can you imagine bringing children up with this man? Explaining to them why daddy is mad, why he this, why he that? The arguments they'll witness. Children of alcoholics have lots of problems well into adulthood. Do you want that for them? Do you want to be paying out all that money for DUI's, lawyers, going to court, driving him to work for a year because his liscense is suspended? What if he kills someone on the road and you didn't stop him from getting in the car? I could go on and on because I've seen it. My daughter married an alcoholic and lives this life. Don't you live it too. Save yourself from a load of heartache. Move on even though it hurts.

Answer 6

You're better off without him.. If he wouldn't give up alcohol for you then he never really loved you and your relationship wouldn't of worked out because you'd always know that the alcohol was more important than you. Take a week or two to mope and realize that you are better off and it's his loss not yours. Then get a few friends together and go out and have some fun. You'll find someone better. At least you got out of the realtionship now and not later when it gets worse. Good Luck in finding someone new.

Answer 7

Cheer up. When you fall off the horse you get up and ride again. There are lots of people in the world that will be better for you. This guy will always hold a special place in your heart but it didn't work out, you have learned a good lesson on the dangers of substance abuse, so watch out for that in the future. Surround yourself with positive upbeat supportive friends and keep your eyes out for the right one that can enrich your life instead of tearing it down.

Answer 8

alcohol abuse is a hard demon to overcome,speaking from personal experience.here are some encouraging words.your heart may be broken now,but that will only last for a little while.you just freed yourself from a lifetime of abuse,both physical and mental.alcoholics tend to harbor resentment toward those that are closest to them.you dont need all that.hold your head up and move on.one day youll be glad hes gone.best thing for your heart,just pick up the peices and move on.put it back together yourself,and let the right one find you.

Answer 9

You were very brave and did the right thing getting out. It will hurt but try and focus on other things if you can. The pain goes (I know you hate hearing that) but its the truth...if you have to think about it, think about why it ended and be glad you can move on. Do you exercise? read books? get lost in something that takes your mind away from it..throw yourself into work..that got me thru some bad times...good luck and feel better. The best way to get over a guy is to get under a new one..bit rude that ..dont take it too seriously...

Answer 10

Realize that it's not your fault that he drank. It was his decision, and you had to make a decision to save yourself. You made the right decision.

Allow yourself to grieve for your relationship. It lasted for two years and you put in quite a commitment to it. Go ahead and cry, get angry, talk to a friend, listen to some sad music.

Then, when you are done grieving, take care of yourself. Don't worry about meeting anyone for a while. Become your #1 priority. Become your own best friend. Make yourself pretty and take yourself out.

You'll be fine, and when you're ready, you'll meet someone who is worthy of your time and energy. Look at it this way: now you know what to look for in a person, because you won't stand for this nonsense anymore; now you have higher standards for yourself.