I always had a hard time climaxing during sex. I have a new boyfriend now and we started having sex, during sex I couldn"t climax, he kept on trying to make me c.u.m., but nothing happened. He felt a little disapointed. Now I am worried that he didn't like the sex, and another thing is that I don't know how to explain to him that it's not his fault, because he still thinks it's cause of him. Oh and if you have any suggestions about what I could do to help me climax more... feel free
2006-09-25 13:36:53 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There about books you can get: http://www.goodvibes.com/ that will help you figure things out. I had the same trouble and found out that I can only climax if I stimulate my clit before he enters, i'm on top and I make sure the clit is stimulated during intercourse. I read this book (Hot Sex by Tracey Cox): http://www.amazon.com/Hot-Sex-How-Tracey-Cox/dp/055338032X/sr=8-1/qid=1159231951/ref=sr_1_1/102-4328654-6995307?ie=UTF8&s=books and it helped a lot. It's helps if you know how to make yourself climax...that way you can help him. Make sure knows it's not your fault. He may be a little bummed but if he likes you, he won't mind experimenting and helping you figure it out. It could also be that you feel to vulnerable during sex. You have to relax and let yourself go.
2006-09-25 13:53:48 · answer #1 · answered by NutterButter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first off, TELL HIM!!! Don't let him go on thinking that he can't satisfy you, because he will eventually leave you for that.
As for why you can't get off, it is most probably a mental thing. I am not saying that your messed in the head, or anything, but that you might need to sit down and really think about how you feel about sex. If, deep down inside, you think it is dirty or wrong, then you will have these problems. How do you feel during sex? Does it feel "bad" or wrong in some way, but your not sure why? If so, then your own subconscious is doing you in. Until you can except that sex is good, and there is nothing wrong with you having it, you will continue to have this prob. You might try a shrink, to be honest. Or, better yet, a sex therapist.
2006-09-25 20:44:14 · answer #2 · answered by Jason W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women simply don't climax during sex. They usually prefer oral or manual stimulation. Just masturbate when you feel the need to have the big O..either that or teach him how to give oral.
2006-09-25 20:39:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to go down on you. Not many females climax from normal sex. If he goes down on you, he most likely will make you feel really good. You need clitoral stimulation to orgasm or else he has to find your G spot.
2006-09-25 20:38:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of women have this problem.
Are you able to climax when you masturbate? If so then show him (tactfully) how your buttons are best pushed.
If not...then you might have a problem relaxing.
Sex (when enjoyed responsibly) should be fun,not a performance based act.
2006-09-25 20:40:08 · answer #5 · answered by Danny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop thinking about climaxing.
Relax. Tell him to take is slow and in your mind go to a place that makes you feel sensual and really hot. Fantasies are a woman's best tool for going places they have never been to before.
For men it is all very manual.
For women it usually more mental.
Also, he doesn't even have to know you are fantasizing, let him think it is him it can't hurt anyone. You get to "get there" and he gets the satisfaction of thinking he got you there.
Good luck.
2006-09-25 20:45:11 · answer #6 · answered by lajefa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you get a vibrator and see if you can climax with that? You should be able to..if not then talk to a doctor or buy special for her lotion/lubricant that makes your area more sensitive.
2006-09-25 20:38:55 · answer #7 · answered by mrs michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is psychological and natural that some people don't climax easily. That is why some people takes sexual induce pills to get their body and mind to ease and more receptive to *** or orgasm. Can you imagine guys do get impotent too. So don't get yourself so workup because you can't *** but more important, you enjoy it and makes him ***.
Have you tried using vib or dildo to stimulate your g-spot to make it more sensitive? Does silk or satin materials simulate you? You got to find something that would 'spark' ur sexual urge inside
2006-09-25 20:45:27 · answer #8 · answered by Nice Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a new product on the market that is suppose to help, ask a pharmacist. Having suffered from the same problem, if I cared about the person, I'd fake it, if not, I didn't bother with an explanation.
2006-09-25 20:41:32 · answer #9 · answered by darkdiva 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so what is the moral of the story? Is this an anti climax movie?
2006-09-25 20:42:10 · answer #10 · answered by captcruzer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋