Ok before ya'll think i need to see a docter or what not. I beileve that its just a small weakness that took me years to figure out. I even found out theres such a word 'clingy'. Smothering is simular if im not mistaken?
I'm in my 20's so does that make me a late bloomer to all this? There are women who like the attention and some that dont. But in general they hate clingy guys right? Either because of past relationships or just annoyed & tierd of them. I dont want to be a victim of being a clingy guy. Recently ive been talking with this gal hours away from where I live for 3 and half weeks. We have lots in common & can talk about anything for days. To make the story short a friend of hers gave me a warning oneday. That she is worried I was being a little clingy? & right then and there I felt stupid and ashamed. Cause the next following day I sent her a small gift But she calls me every now & then. Should I ignore her calls for sometime? cuz she knows I'd call her back?
2006-09-25
13:17:50
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It's for my own sake just incase we dont work out or in the future meet another gal so hopefully I wont make the same mistakes. Pls no immature comments. Keep it straight forward guys! Thanx!
2006-09-25
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Nah, don't ignore her calls. Talk to her. Maybe her friend is right and maybe she is not. See how it goes. And don't be afraid to ask this girl you like how she feels. That's how we learn. You are right. Some women like the attention and some don't. It is a matter of personal taste. Don't bother getting all emotional over what somebody says to you. Just think it over and adjust if you think you need to. No big deal.
2006-09-25 13:26:41
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answered by Anonymous
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Sometimes I am afraid of being too "clingy" with girls that I am greatly attracted to... so I hear ya on this one
Just realize that you are looking for someone that will make you happy... not just someone to be obsessed over.
Lay off for a little while and play it cool as if you have a lot going on and you are happy without her. Do this and if she likes you, she will eventually come for you... if not, there are always more fish in the sea
2006-09-25 20:22:26
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answered by benh316 2
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1. Don't ignore her calls. She'll get annoyed if you do. Ignoring a girl's calls is a VERY BAD idea.
2. If she doesn't mind the endless chatter, keep talking! Remember, everyone's mind is different. Heavy attachment is sometimes good. But if she ever sounds like she wants to stop talking/etc, stop.
If you follow the simple rule, "If she's fine with it, go right ahead" you'll be fine. Make sure to notice if she changes demeanor.
2006-09-25 20:33:15
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answered by DarkDespair5 1
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Oh it's a fine line you have to walk to please a woman. Pay too much attention and you're clingy, but pay too little attention and you don't care. Just live your own life, bro. Give her time when you have time, but don't wait around wasting away til she calls. A relationship is 50/50.. half for you, half for her. The second you put 100% into a relationship, you are no longer yourself.
2006-09-25 20:26:20
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answered by embryoyo 1
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Playing games like ignoring the person you care for is silly. If you care for this person and you want to send gifts and make calls then do so. HOWEVER, if you feel as though you are making the other person uncomfortable or that your feelings are not reciprocated, then perhaps you should evaluate your behavior.
2006-09-25 20:24:50
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answered by Charlee's Mama 3
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ya i know some clingy guys and they can get annoying after a while but sometimes its nice so ignore some calls, and dont be crazy over her all the time. play hard to get and it should turn out better. and dont be so predictable.......
2006-09-25 20:21:11
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answered by dazed.and.confused 2
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i think the friend might be jealous because if you were being clingy she would not be in contact with you and she definately wouldnt be phoning you unless she is playing games with you if you are not too sure ask her if she thinks you are being too clingy with her and tell her someone one of her friends has gave you a warning.
2006-09-25 20:23:37
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answered by luvlifeshell 2
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well, I guess what I would do is to just chill a little....give them attention, but make them come to you in a sense as well. In other words, show interest, but not tooooo much interest...let it grow.
2006-09-25 20:23:51
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answered by ME2010 3
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Just lay off a little
2006-09-25 20:18:59
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answered by Lilolme 2
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