What's the best way to move on, and forget.
2006-09-25 13:11:23 · 21 answers · asked by Brittany S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well you can never forget what a person has done to you and yeah u gotta move on cause if u stay in the spot where your at now then where is it gonna take u in life? U have to move on for yourself get consuling or even a close friend..Im not gonna tell my life story but I been through things like that at a very earlier age in life and i know its hard but luckily I had a friend who will always be by my side and i can tell her ANYTHING.When it happened to me i told myself, "Oh God..now what?Whats the point of life anymore?" but I moved on and i thought I never would so if I can make it i now you can make it.
2006-09-25 13:26:49 · answer #1 · answered by cici 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am 25 and was raped last year by a friend who I trusted. In result of that I got pregnant and kept the baby which I don't regret. I haven't gotten professional help but my b/f is my support system. He talks to me and he accepts the baby as his own. Talking to him and having him by my side is helping me alot. I am slowly forgetting about it , its hard because I have a baby who looks like the person but she is making me really strong and I know I can beat it. If you need someone to talk too let me know , I have been there and still going thru it.Also pray to God that he gives you strenght to over come this , thats what I have been doing. I also forgave the person who did it , my pastor told me it hurts but if you don't forgive you will let it rule your life forever , he's sleeping good at night while you are crying , forgive him and let him know you will be okay and God will make him suffer very soon.Good Luck
2006-09-26 00:06:21 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ Army Wife ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are so many ways to move on but they depend on :
Age
Is this person still in your life?
Do you want to confront and/or have this person arrested?
Where are you now in your life?
Are you having back flashes or are afraid of men?
You made the first step already by starting to talk about it. Some people need professional help others just need a person to talk to, it seems the more you get it out the better you feel.
If you are having problems with intimacy with men you may need professional help.
2006-09-25 20:21:56 · answer #3 · answered by lajefa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Professional help could be your best bet. I don't believe there are any quick solutions to this, but in my very UNprofessional opinion, one of the first things you need to do is to understand that none of it was your fault...that the person who did that to you was WRONG and it had nothing to do with anything you did.
If this is something you're still keeping a secret, you may wish to consider letting it out, or that person may harm someone else as well. If this happened to you and you are still here...trying to move past it, then you are a survivor and you are strong. You WILL get past it, but speak to someone who is a professional. You don't HAVE to do it alone.
2006-09-25 20:13:33 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, that tramatization will always be with you. However, you have to rise above it. If you can't, you are still being the victim and allowing that "close family member" to rape your life from you too. You need to ask yourself if you can live with that. Forgetting is impossible, but enabling yourself to let go isn't. Find your focus. Don't let that bastard haunt you or he will always win.
2006-09-25 20:15:39 · answer #5 · answered by blackwidow 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god, I think you should move out of the house and try to forget what had happen. They shouldn't o these things like*RAPED* to you. And also it's a close family member.
2006-09-25 20:15:29 · answer #6 · answered by xoxo§kailey§ 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You never really forget but therapy, psychological help DOES make it much easier to deal with & will change the way you relate to your loved ones.....I was raped at ages 12-14 by my stepfather
2006-09-25 20:16:02 · answer #7 · answered by Catcanscratch 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
seek counseling. realize it was not your fault.,,, have you confronted or had contact with this family member? not suggesting it. just asking. ask yourself what do you want.... how do you feel . can you forgive. but this is a job for an expert. this is a question that should not be taken lightly.. i pray you will pursue the help that you need.
2006-09-25 20:17:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A terrible person has violated you and you deserve help. Call a victim's center and talk to someone about it. You can call 911 for assistance anytime.
2006-09-25 20:16:51 · answer #9 · answered by whrldpz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By not letting it rule your life. If you do..that person whens by putting you down. You have to get up and fight your way back and prove to yourself, the that person and to the world that nothing can knock you down.
Life your life to the fulliest
2006-09-25 20:14:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋