I'm interested in BDSM....?

Question

I'm wondering how I could try it out, safely. I mean I'm really curious to try it, but I don't think I could trust someone I hardly know to tie me up. Any suggestions on how I could start getting into it?

Haha, if only it were that easy. I mean I asked my ex and he completely exploded on me saying how I was sick to even think that.

Answer 1

You shouldn't let an unknown tie you up. First get to know someone. Meet him/her a few times, to get to know each other.
BDSM dating is just like any other dating.

Here are some links to help you find like minded people.

Try the FetishScene for links to clubs in your area...
http://www.fetishscene.com/

The following four sites specialize in BDSM related personals:
http://www.alt.com
http://www.bdsmdatelink.com/
http://www.bondage.com
http://www.collarme.com

Collarme is totally free.

Answer 2

Do a search on yahoo for bdsm resources and see if meetings are organized (munches). There you can check out the local scene and see if there are people there with who look interesting.

Build a relationship first (with a person who is "in" to things Alt.com might work) and when some trust has been established (have lunch a couple of times, date), then negotiate a scene and have at it.

Don't exclude females from your list, it might appear safer if it is not a problem.

The other alternative would be make a wish list and discuss it with a pay for play person.

Please have someone know where you go, there are too many crazies out here.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Try it with a woman friend. That's how I first tried bondage. We started talking about it and from one thing came another.

You could also try to find a local BDSM club on the web and go to a munch, which is just a social gathering but of people in the scene. The idea is just to get to know each other and meet like minded people.

Answer 5

Try self bondage. Sometime alone, tie yourself up. Some rules that are important--ALWAYS have a release available to you such as a key in reach or a slipnot in reach and the important thing is it must be in reach. Another important thing is if you tie something so that it constricts the flow of blood, don't let it stay too long. NEVER tie around your neck, never.

Depending upon your reasons, here is a scenario for you. Fold over some long narrow lengths of fabric (from an old pillow case or sheet or such) which you will use to tie yourself. Fabric won't leave the kinds of marks that string, rope, or chains might, but note the progression. Tie your feet together at the ankles. Tie another length around one wrist (again, secure but not so tight it cuts off the blood flow). Tie a loop in one end of still another length, but in the other end, tie it between your feet to the tie around your ankles. Thread the loose end of the tie around your wrist through the loop of the end tied to your feet. Now, whether you kneel or lay on your side on the floor or a bed, put your hands behind you and pull up the length that will connect your hands and feet, pull it almost snug while holdin the loose end from the wrist tie. Then, behind you, loop the loose end of the wrist tie around the other wrist. Then lay there. Get the feeling of that and experiment with the fantasies you imagine. Now release and find your costume--you could be naked, or you dress in the costume according to your fantasy, like work clothes that someone tied you up there, or a towel, or the ancient slave tunic*. Now repeat, imagining yourself in that scene.

There are variations galore. You might tie yourself to your bed to sleep, spread-eagle (remember, a slip knot and you must be able to reach the release line). If you aren't good at knots, make a loop, grasp it, and turn your hand a few times so the twist of the length secures the loop line. You might experiment with lengths of line around your chest, between your legs and bottom, etc. Patiently experience the restrictions of the ties, pull on them (but not so hard that they come loose or tear your flesh) and experience your fantasies--for that is why you do it, or to punish yourself or both, but NEVER injure yourself or put yourself in risk of injury without someone you trust around to catch you.

*tunics were either a one or two-piece cover. Think of two bath towels tied together at two corners along one short side, your head goes between and one towel drapes across your front and the other across your back. You may tie a cord or very small chain around your waist. The one piece long piece of fabric and was one of two types. It either was draped over one shoulder or had a hole in the middle for your head (like a long poncho). Again, the cord or small chain around the middle was convenient. Now if you flop out or show too much when bending over, etc. don't cover, and if the width of your fabric isn't fully as wide as you are, don't cover. If in the two-piece tunic one corner drops off the shoulder, don't catch it. The slave's tunic is basic cover for the slave and the slave was not permitted full modesty. So go about your housekeeping chores like this until it feels normal and at the end tie yourself up for a time or for the night. There is so much more, but you get the idea.

Answer 6

If you're an adult, go to one of the local get-togethers or "munches" as they are called. That way you can get to know people in a safe social situation and discuss mutual interests and needs. Usually information about munches can be found on the net or in "alternative" free commun ity newspapers.

You can also try it "virtually" on the net in anonymous chatrooms with suitable people.

Answer 7

LMAO. Get a boyfriend or a friend, a guy I mean and do it.

Answer 8

Not in an all ages forum.

Answer 9

I don't know, but I admire your willing attitude!

Answer 10

get a guy and go for it