Is it your opinion that families of abused children do not also suffer when they learn of the abuse?

Question

People speak of helping the children.
People speak as if the entire family abused the children.

Does no one think of the family members who discover the abuse and have no part in it? Do they not also suffer?

Answer 1

i think everyone who is involved suffers .. and everyone deserves help when they learn of abuse ..
it can shake up the whole family to learn of such a thing
of course bob xx

Answer 2

Actually, it depends. In the UNICEF we talked about topics like this, some families don't even take a damn about the abuse, they don't really want to talk about the abuse at all and there are others who really suffer, their family name suffers and people distance from them. Mind you, it depends on the type of people who speak but we admit that if an abuse ever happens people usually conclude with a generalized mind. And about those innocent family members, as I said it depends but if they suffer it's because of their relation to the child. Have a nice day!

Answer 3

You're right that all non-abusing members suffer in some way. In most cases the victim receives counseling. The rest of the family may also receive counseling. The primary focus, however, must be on the victim to ensure they are not re-victimized. I worked in the human services field for over 21 years. I saw far too many child abuse cases. Too little is done for the victims and their families to help them heal from the abuse. It's a failure of our society.

Answer 4

Yes they do suffer. Some even feel guilty though they may have been thousands of miles away, across the ocean, in a different country, and could not have prevented the atrocity. I don't know exactly what situation you refer to, but prayer is given for all who become victimized by abuse, directly or indirectly.

Answer 5

"Do they not also suffer?"
Let me simply play the Devil's advocate...(Yes, the hockey team)

Yes, but isn't that an imagined pain? "Oh, someone out there must be worse-off than me, I can only imagine how they must feel."
I mean, I've been abused once. Actually, I've been abused 19,874,786,580^24x; once you factor in all possible minutei and perterbations of the definitions of "abuse". Then, of course, there is the "problem" of ...what if one gets hurt and decides to view the whole rig-a-marole in a positive light. "Law" just can't handle that, can it? Nor can many people; their imagined pains for the "harmed" ones trumps any fortitude gained in a trial by fire.
Wanna help children? How about learning that sometimes respecting someone is different from protecting them; and respecting them may even be better - for them and us.

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"atrocity"...that's one I haven't heard! and
"directly or indirectly" Yeah that reminds me - gotta love that iatrogenic victimization!!! The LEGAL way to abuse someone!!!

Answer 6

If a family had the intent to be abusive, they will not help them.
If they find someone that is abusive and try to stop them, they will help them.
Many families that are abusive, tend to be abusive together; but this is not always the case.

My uncle told me that he would spank his children when they mis-behaved and I would tell him not to and have to tried to physically restrain family members from doing it.

It depends all on the individuals.

Answer 7

Sure they might - but not half as much as the child who under goes the abuse him/herself.....

And lets face it - most family members are aware of the abuse and turn a blind eye to it.

Answer 8

Yes, I think they would suffer as well, blaming themselves for not seeing it and such, and that would be horrible.

But let's not diminish the victims here. The real victims of child abuse are the children.

Answer 9

Of course they would!
Knowing what took place to your beloved child would cut to the heart!

Answer 10

No is it really abuse or is it disciplin.