Most of all your answers were to beat my daughter's butt,for her bad behavior,and to tell my husband (her dad).But I couldn't swat her butt, i don't like that, my husband might but I wouldn't like it if he did to her.What can i do ???? HELP AGAIN ??? She's very spoil, but get A LOT of attention from us.HELP ME ?
2006-09-25 12:43:48 · 16 answers · asked by sexy s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hmmm.. well if you wont resort to a little old fashion whipping, or at least telling the dad, then you might as well kiss your life goodbye. She is only 6.. right? There comes a time when all children, even younger than 6 is taught right from wrong and if they choose to do the wrong they have to live with the concequences. But main thing is to STICK WITH the consequences. Dont give in, no matter how hard they beg or cry. She is practically running your life now. What will it be like when she is 16. If you do not stop this now, she will be smacking you around when she is older, then at that time, there is not much you can do about it. She is your child, raise her as you would want her to turn out. If she is a spoiled brat.. its because you and your husband have made her this way. Kids only get by with what you let them get by with. If you give them an inch they will try for the mile. But you must stick to some rules and regulations if you want this child to grow up to be accepted in todays society. Learning manners and what NO means is one of the first steps. I do have 2 children, they are 21 and 19 now. My first born was spoiled also, and it was my fault, along with my husbands fault and also the grandmothers fault she was getting by with murder. It took a really long time, but finally with a lot of hard work, we undid all the wrong (spoiling) that we done earlier. It was a long hard road. Today I am proud to say she is studying to be a teacher, she is top of her class, she is a well rounded student, has many, many friends and a heart the size of Texas. So.. something we did to turn her in the right direction worked. You can do this too, just be firm and dont back down. Look at it this way... one day she will thank you for it. Good luck!!! And I mean it from the bottom of my heart.
2006-09-25 12:57:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what your question was yesterday, but judging by this it sounds like you need some major discipline in your household. I don't believe that hitting a kid solves anything either. Instead, you need to try to use time outs or take things away from her that she considers to be special. If your daughter is a beast about staying in time out, then you need to be extra firm with her. Stay calm, yet show her that you are in control. If you put her in a corner of the house and she moves, put her back. Continue to do so until she gets the clue that you aren't messing around. Stop spoiling her too. That is why she is probably a brat to begin with. Don't give her what she wants just to get her to be quiet. Only reward her if she has done something good. Try to create a system for it. For example, placing a chart on the wall that you can put stickers on when she does something you ask or if she has been good for the day. Then, if after she gets say ten stickers on the chart then she gets a reward. Kids get motivated to do things when they know something good will come out of it. I hope this helps even though I don't know how old she is or the whole situation.
2006-09-25 12:58:31 · answer #2 · answered by sexy lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"She's very spoil, but get A LOT of attention from us"
Where's the but? She's spoilt because you give her everything she wants. Try paying a little LESS attention, especially when she is behaving badly. Make a big deal out of it when she does something good and completely ignore her when she does something unacceptable. My daughter used to whine a lot, I told her I don't speak whine and then didn't acknowledge her existence until she stopped. She no longer whines now. If you can't do that, then there is nothing anyone here can say to help. If you refuse to toughen up, she will continue to be spoilt.
2006-09-26 10:39:46 · answer #3 · answered by nativeAZ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so in the same situation and I do spank my daughter take her stuff away and she still dosen't do what she is told she just out and out refuses to listen and between my parents, my ex husband and myself I can not correct the problem I have had to become the bad guy on everything and I hate that but what else can I do. I really feel for you maybe a spank would help if not try taking stuff away restriction mine is only 9 i have a long way to go I am actually looking into bootcamps....goodluck
2006-09-25 12:53:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you likely did something quite incorrect and also you've been punished in an severe way. I admit that it grew to change into into unusual that, at 15, you've been in no way spanked before and on the bare butt at that. besides the very undeniable truth that, that spanking shows how in contact your father - and likely your mom, besides -is about you using drugs. Did the punishment better healthful the crime, that you will be able to communicate? i imagine that it did. the truth that your father warned you that yet another consultation will ensue - in straightforward words worse - in case you take advantage of drugs decrease lower back, ought to convince you to regulate your habit. no longer in straightforward words ought to opt to you're saying sorry, yet you could thank your dad for stressful lots about you. Then, promise to stay removed from marijuana and mean IT.
2016-12-06 02:54:58 · answer #5 · answered by fabiyi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you likely did something quite incorrect and also you've been punished in an severe way. I admit that it grew to change into into unusual that, at 15, you've been in no way spanked before and on the bare butt at that. besides the very undeniable truth that, that spanking shows how in contact your father - and likely your mom, besides -is about you using drugs. Did the punishment better healthful the crime, that you will be able to communicate? i imagine that it did. the truth that your father warned you that yet another consultation will ensue - in straightforward words worse - in case you take advantage of drugs decrease lower back, ought to convince you to regulate your habit. no longer in straightforward words ought to opt to you're saying sorry, yet you could thank your dad for stressful lots about you. Then, promise to stay removed from marijuana and mean IT.
2016-12-02 01:40:41 · answer #6 · answered by spatafora 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello?!?!?!? have you heard of discipline?????? your child is going to grow up not knowing what that is... and you know why?? cause your being too soft on your child and letting him get away with everything, you think that if you punish someone by just grounding them, or taking away their phone privileges that their going to remember what the consequences were in the future??? no.. It's time for you to show her who's boss, send her to her room, don't pay attention to her, make sure she does her homework and that you look over the homework (even if you don't understand it) this child is a miniature you, and you think she's spoil ed is because you let her. Now its time for you to sleep in your bed that you made. Good luck
2006-09-25 13:07:20 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ღαмαиdα♥ღ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spanking your daughter is not the answer. However, your SIX year old child asked you to keep something from YOUR husband. Isn't withholding information the same as lying? Your daughter doesn't want him to know because she knows her behavior was inappropriate. However, if your husband is the one does the disciplining, he needs to know. She struck her grandmother and is mean to her. Is this how you want her to grow up? She'll think that being mean and deceitful is okay. However, you not telling your husband isn't okay. It sounds to me like she rules you. You need to take back control before you cease to have any at all. Save yourself the headache before it's too late.
2006-09-25 12:57:33 · answer #8 · answered by blackwidow 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ain't nothing wrong with beating a child's butt that's the problem you spoil her to much start putting her on punishment taking her things from her telling her NO.
2006-09-29 01:06:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A little bit of corporal punishment never hurt anyone. I'm not advocating beating the kid, but a good spanking might be in order. If you can't do it, your kid will grow up thinking there is no consequences for any bad behavior.
2006-09-25 12:47:14 · answer #10 · answered by parsonsel 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋