If she feels her brother and I are'nt doing the right thing; she will come over with a belt!! HE won't say anything to her!! How can i stop this??? My kids hate her!! What should i do?
2006-09-25 12:42:34 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My sister-in-law; the one i am referring to...is a tyrant! She runs the whole family! She bosses everyone! Even her own mother!! No one will stand up tp her!! I am a little intimidated...HELP!!!
2006-09-25 13:44:49 · update #1
Your 7th answer....by "mocollette" says it ALL!
You DO sound like a GOOD MOM who wants & needs to protect her children. You DO NOT have to put up with this behavior, this ABUSE of your children. And yes, it IS abuse, it is illegal & you can get help. If you talking to her & your husband doesn't work & you do not want to go to the police right away......call a GOOD lawyer or legal aide if you cannot afford one.
Also, while you may not need to go to a shelter, there are people there who can advise you,AND there are local supprt groups in most communities.
If you are active in a religious group (church, synagogue, mosque) you can enlist the aid of the leader.
You did not say the ages of your children, if any are babies & you nurse or used to, a La Leche League leader might help you or steer you to someone who can help.
HANG TIGHT......GOOD LUCK....G-D BLESS &
KEEP PROTECTING your kids!
2006-09-25 13:56:30 · answer #1 · answered by thewarriorcrone 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, that is your husband. If he cannot stick up for his wife and kids, then what is his problem? To protect your kids from the belt (and a mute husband) tell her if she ever lays a hand (or belt) on your kids, you will call the police. She isn't a mother and using a belt on any child, can get you thrown in jail. You sound like a great mother that loves you kids. Good Luck, Sweetie!
2006-09-25 20:03:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stand up for your kids. She may scare you, but think of what she is doing to your children. Next time she gets the belt stand in front of your kids and send them to their rooms. Tell her to leave your house and she is not welcomed back until she understands YOU ARE THE PARENTS! If you live with her... MOVE OUT!!! If she still spanks your child after you have warned her, call the police. Your husband's family might not like it, but oh well, do whats right for your kids.
2006-09-25 20:53:11 · answer #3 · answered by loopy lizzy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have the right to not allow her to care for the kids. You also have the right to not allow her into your home. Now, as far as the kids hating her, not sure. Maybe she is a witch, maybe she is the only one who actually sets rules and standards and expects the kids to act properly, which would of course make her the enemy in their minds. Little hard to tell many of these things from your question.
2006-09-25 19:52:46 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her taht you dont discipline your children that way and that she needs to consint form you before she lays a hand on your children if it happens again you have already warned her then tell her to get out of your house your children are not her neating post. And if it happens again call the cops and she will be charged...
2006-09-25 19:48:06 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hit her with that damn belt. She can go to jail for doing that to your children. It isn't her right, and according to the government (which I don't agree with, I don't agree with hitting your children, but I don't believe its the governments right to tell us what we can and cant do with our children) it isn't even your right. She has NO right what so ever to do this, so I would suggest pressing charges on her. If your husband won't do anything about it, then you have to for the good of your children.
2006-09-25 19:46:40 · answer #6 · answered by Vix 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your the parent, If someone else disobays your rules, don't leave her alone with your kids, or be near her for that matter. You have every right
Good Luck
2006-09-26 04:59:19 · answer #7 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"how can I stop this??"
Tell her that these are your children and if she touches them again, you will call the cops on her and file abuse charges.
Your the parent and as a parent, you agreed when you birthed these children to protect them. Now it is time to protect them.
2006-09-25 23:36:04 · answer #8 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to keep her hands the F*CK OFF OF YOUR KIDS!!!!
Tell her that it is NOT her place, and that you and your hubby are managing just fine.
Tell her that if she continues to do this, you will call the police for harrassment.
Also, I would tell your children that they do not have to listen to her.
2006-09-25 19:46:15 · answer #9 · answered by Jalena 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They are your kids, you have to let her know that, and if she doesn't like the way you are parenting them, tell them to stay away.
2006-09-25 20:34:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋