what are your REAL thoughts on dating a single mother with a 4 year old daughter?
2006-09-25 12:34:02 · 16 answers · asked by lil_mama0625 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
seriously...the first thought on my mind will be....damn that kid is sooo pretty...just like her mom...listen if i love a woman i will love her kid(s)...cause they are part of her...her world...i mean how can u not love them if you really love this lady?...i m 28 by the way not a teenager:)
2006-09-25 12:37:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Younger guys don't like it because they don't understand. I personally don't mind it, I actually prefer a woman who already has a child because I have children. I married a girl who had a daughter that was 5. I think most guys are concerned with the Father of the child more than anything. Will the guy bring drama, etc? I actually had some drama from my wife's daughter father and it did start to create problems. If it's drama free....then you should be fine. MOST single woman who have children are more responsible, which is a good thing. That's what younger guys don't understand. They just want a girl who can leave whenever they want and can do whatever they want. You're probably going to meet more responsible men being that you have a daughter and more responsible guys will approach you. But, like always, watchout for those dogs!! lol
2006-09-25 20:27:43 · answer #2 · answered by vmdv15 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a single mother with 2 children, I found that kids did limit my possibilities - but not in bad way. Quite honestly, anyone who accepts that you have other priorities and responsibilities and that understands you are a "package" deal, is definitely someone worth getting to know. If he believes that your children are so called "baggage", he most certainly would not be the type of man that I'd be interested in at all. He more than likely is someone who would disrespect you in other areas of your relationship as time went on. Having children should create a higher standard for the type of man you want involved in your life. Don't settle for anything less. And also make sure that you date him for some time (say 4-6 months) getting to know him first before introducing him to your kids. There are quite a few sickos out there that would jump at the opportunity to have a relationship with a needy single mother simply just to have access to her children, if you know what I mean. And above everything else, trust your instincts!!
2006-09-25 19:43:28 · answer #3 · answered by Pearl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seeing how I ended up marrying one, I'm more than qualified to answer this.
Unless YOU are fixed, then I definetly recommend that ALL men with no kids absolutely stay away from single moms, 110%. I've had my share of single moms before meeting my wife and it only takes 1 to get me to say that. My wife has 2 boys and I have 1 boy and 1 girl. But before we got married, I was sure to get myself fixed. I enjoy spending time with my wife and NOT having to change diapers.
But back to your question, I seriously recommend that single men, especially those with no kids do not date single mothers. But I also suggest the same to women also, not to date men with kids unless they also have kids. But here's why I especially say it to men to NOT date a single mom. The woman has the final say in if she will get an abortion, should she accidentally get pregnant, the man can protest all he wants, but in the end, it is the woman who has the final say so. And odds are, a mother is not going to have an abortion over a woman with no kids. And what I have experienced, one of the excuses was "Its immoral" and "against gods will" to have an abortion, but it was obviously OK to have sex, thats NOT immoral or against gods will.
2006-09-25 19:47:03 · answer #4 · answered by jeff the drunk 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont see anything wrong with it I would date a single mother, As long as the feelings are there
2006-09-25 19:37:27 · answer #5 · answered by Good ole boy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im a single mother with a4 year old daughter and men love my daughter, of course she is probably prettier than yours. She gets me a lot of dates!
2006-09-25 19:36:08 · answer #6 · answered by Ariel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dated a girl with Two boys and it was cool and another with a 2 year old gir and it wus cool LIKE MY mother told me You take a chicken You take the CHICKS
2006-09-25 19:42:21 · answer #7 · answered by jcs_one 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a man that has been married, to a woman for 35 yrs (before she passed away) and when I met her, as we dated, and when we got married She was 6yrs older than me and she had TWO boys (1was 4 and1 was 5)!!!! YES -- YES --- YES we men DO DATE, MARRY and YES WE ADOPT THEIR KIDS!!!!!! If they won't date and/or marry you because you have children then RUN BABY RUN!!!! Then FIND A "REAL" MAN!!!!!
2006-09-25 19:49:29 · answer #8 · answered by xxx69forall 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dated a woman who had 2 kids...before we had are own. Younger guys might hate that...but if you wait for the right one...all willbe cool.
2006-09-25 19:40:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the woman. If she's worth dating, I could care less if she has kids.
2006-09-25 19:38:23 · answer #10 · answered by Derrrr 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋