Hi there, I met this guy about three weeks ago. i feel like I have known him for years (he would be my second) he is very nice to me. he gives me flowers everyday, he drives from work to drive me home from school. (i'm my late twenties as is he) and we have petted a little and even talked about doing it. he told me he would feel no different about me than he does now if I were to do it with him. I really want to but I do not know if he is testing me or not.what should I do?
2006-09-25 12:33:21 · 24 answers · asked by anna p 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'm a guy and let me tell you one thing we all do that if you sleep with me i will still love you and all kind of ****!!!! but please be carefull i learned from my mistakes, and even if i have to wait 20years to know someone i'll do it! love is not sex, love is what you feel for onother person,to be with that person, 3weeks?? please girl i think your more special than that.....wait and learn him better... or maybe i just sound gay to every one, but i think girls have so many stuff to feel good about themself, and when a guy comes and breaks there heart's thy are not the same/ good luck.Christian
2006-09-25 12:44:38 · answer #1 · answered by CHRISTIAN C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel he is testing you than it's time for a heart to heart talk with him. Tell him how you feel...he's not a mind reader he's just a guy who enjoys being with you. If he's not pressuring you or setting expectations on you than what's the problem? You cannot think with your emotions think with your mind. Ask him if the relationship is growing or if he's just having fun. It seems like you really care for this guy. You need to tell him how you feel so the relationship can move forward. If he doesn't feel the same way as you I wouldn't give myself to him. You deserve respect and committment and if he isn't willing to commit than you have your answer. He sounds like a very sweet guy and like a keeper. It appears you already have his respect. Talk it over with him, you'll feel so much better getting everything out in the open. Good Luck.
2006-09-25 19:46:16 · answer #2 · answered by sfss50 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long should you wait to have sex with a guy you like? Until you're either engaged or married. Save yourself the problems of unwanted pregnancy, AIDS, std's, herpes, feeling used, and losing your self-respect.
If you don't want to wait for marriage, then I'd say after dating exclusively for at least 4-5 months, and after you have talked openly about birth control, your current sexual health, and other issues.
Meanwhile, this sounds really horrible. " he told me he would feel no different about me than he does now if I were to do it with him."
So what he's saying is having sex with you won't make any difference to him? Like it's meaningless whether you do him or not? Wow- what a jerk!
2006-09-25 19:39:52 · answer #3 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him some, seems like a nice guy dont think he would wait 3 weeks just to do you. Just to not want to continue the relationship after. Three weeks is a long time to wait.
2006-09-25 19:37:50 · answer #4 · answered by thealternativemind 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
As much as I respect baileykats answer, this is the real world. Its not the huge complicated decision that so many people make it out to be. Do you like him? Do you believe he likes you? Do you see a future with this guy? If the answers are yes, then light some candles, thrown on some Otis Redding, and have a great night
2006-09-25 19:41:27 · answer #5 · answered by Monsta DT 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You only know him for three weeks, how much you know him? Normally a guy don't give girl flower everyday, unless he do it very often to other girl too. What's the rush? Give yourself sometime to know him better.
2006-09-25 22:16:15 · answer #6 · answered by Tan D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one make sure your ready and for two you could talk to someone for a month does'nt mean that you know them. And three be prepare for what may come cause by having sex with him now he could call you an hoe in the future for having sex with him so soon. think about
2006-09-25 19:41:35 · answer #7 · answered by Live love laugh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T GIVE IN! Such things should be left till after marriage. Guys often dun lose much in such incidents. Gals stand to lose more, what if he got what he wanted and just leave you later? "Play hard to get", if he understands your point and waits, this will be a guy who loves u and not just trying to be with you for sex. Think twice!
2006-09-25 21:23:49 · answer #8 · answered by axix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
getting imtimate would be the last stage in a relationship, considering your age?
get to know each another well, personality and character wise and if alls well . . . personal commitment like being intimate physically should be considered?
getting intimate too soon may advance the relationship into a false sense of security ( and taking each another fpr granted ) and after that " fun" fades, feelings may also fade.
its all entirely up to each individual.
2006-09-25 19:59:11 · answer #9 · answered by superyoyogirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first of all try to get a job or use a condum (for protection!) if you are going to do it because you might get some bundles of joy. If you think that you wouldn't like to just tell him that you don't feel comfortable with doing it and just leave it at that.
2006-09-25 19:38:39 · answer #10 · answered by Morgan R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋