my parents are very strict with me. im allowed to have a bf but not allowed to do anything with him like go to the mall or movies. it frustrates me very much. they just set a new rule that i cant go to his house HE has to come over. i heard that strict parents who dont let their child go oout n experience things suffer the consequences of having their child rebel and do everything (sex, weed, etc) all at once since they feel it is their only chance to experience things. i am feeling this way and i feel like the more closed in i am from things the more i want to do them. is this true or does it make sense?
2006-09-25 12:30:15 · 19 answers · asked by koukla 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
tell them to kiss your ***
2006-09-25 12:32:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
When I was younger my parents were the same way with me. They never let me go out and I couldnt even stay at my friends houses. Well I did rebel but never tried any kind of drugs or smoked anything ever. Now I'm 23 and I realize that my parents were just trying to protect me from making horrble mistakes. They let my sister do whatever she wanted because they realized they were so strict with me and guess what. My sister is now 21 and has 3 kids and lives with my mom, has no job no babies daddy. I thank God that my parents were strict with me because now I'm married and have a beautiful daughter. I'm living a pretty good life because my parents were strict with me.
2006-09-25 19:35:01 · answer #2 · answered by I smile because of them ♥ 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That idea about the child rebelling has been around forever, and it is just an excuse for children to try stuff or for parents who don't do their job. Your statement about your parents' rules making you want to do things more shows your immaturity. YOU will be the one who suffers the consequences. Be glad you have caring parents. Don't be in such a hurry to try things because those things are not worth messing up your life.
2006-09-25 20:15:04 · answer #3 · answered by _me_ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this will be an answer from a parent--keep that in mind
How old are you? I don't think you should do much dating until you are 16. Before that group stuff is great and keeps you busy and out of trouble.
I think your parents know what dangerous things are out there. They want the best for you. It isn't always easy to be a teenager--but think about parents. that isn't easy either.
rules without relationships do lead to rebellion. do you have a relationship with your parents? Can you talk to them? Work on that and build up their trust in you. Make good choices now and you will get more freedom as time goes along.
2006-09-25 19:38:38 · answer #4 · answered by T 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didn't have stricked parents and I did alot of things they don't know about. Like I had sex I tried weed blah blah blah but when it came down to my bf they were stricked up til 16 I couldn't go out but when I did I had to be home at 9 I couldn't go to his house unless his mother was thier and she spoke when her. So u need to have a seriuos talk with them thats what I did and explain to them ur not a kid and u know whats rght and wrong, you learned from them! So be serious and then lay down some appropiate rules that you know should go well over with them. And if they agree stick to those rules so you can make new ones later
2006-09-25 19:36:12 · answer #5 · answered by jharris8506 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's terrible! I have a fair idea just how it feels. Anyhow, you've got to stay focused on what's important. While your parents may be overbearing, you can't afford to do wrong cause it's you that'll get hurt. Two wrongs won't make nothing right.
I can see a great opportunity in your situation. Discuss it freely with your boyfriend.If he's anything to offer he should be understanding. There's nothing wrong with doing stuff together at your place.
If you're young, take it slowly. When it comes to eating, bread is a whole lot palatable than dough or anything in between.
2006-09-25 19:46:39 · answer #6 · answered by ChildofGrace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was younger, my parents were strick because of my older brother and sister. I ended up graduating from school early and being on my own and hap ping a ball. I ended up having sex and getting pregnant young. But the thing is, I don't think that your parents are looking at it as "your going to rebel" they are looking at it as "trying to protect you". They LOVE you and are trying to do the best. You just need to sit down with them and try to negotiate. But it also depends on how old you are.
2006-09-25 19:40:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They do this because they love you and want to make sure you have a future. They don't want you to have a baby as a teenager. They want to see you graduate and go off to college. Then get married and have a family. If you feel they are making you give in to temptation talk with them. They might loosen up. As far as the drugs, don't do it. You don't want to be some burn out who wakes up 20 years from now and wonders what did I do with my life.
2006-09-25 21:09:59 · answer #8 · answered by loopy lizzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would depend on your age. Not all kids whose parents were strict rebel and start drinking and smoking weed. I know you will hate to hear this but when you are a parent you will understand why they are the way they are.
2006-09-25 19:34:43 · answer #9 · answered by Jen G 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your parents are doing you a favor. You should respect them, and their wisdom in the situation. They were teenagers, and theyve been in the real world much longer than you have.
Your parents know whats how there to harm you, they know what teenagers and their hormones can do, and most importantly, they know you and your level of maturity.
You make the choice to accept your rules, and to uphold your parents desires for you, or you can choose to think you some how know more than them.
You should be gald theyre being concious parents. If you think things are bad for you now, just try rebeling. i promise you not only will you have to live with the guilt and effects of your foolishness, but you'll also have to deal with them not trusting you.
Ive been a teen, i know how horrible it is to feel like you're an adult and know whats best, but i also know what its like to have that sobering moment were you realize you were horribly wrong about everything, and your parents werent so wrong after all.
2006-09-25 19:35:54 · answer #10 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
They are only doing that because they love you and don't want you to be in danger or end up pregnant or something. You might hate their rules, but just be glad you have parents who care about you so much that they don't want you ending up like kid's whose parents didn't give a **** and ended up with 4 kids and on welfare before they graduated high school.
2006-09-25 19:36:23 · answer #11 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋