I'm a 16 year old girl. I'm a great kid...I'm an A honor roll student. I don't drink, smoke, do drugs, sneak around, I don't have sex with random people or anyone for that matter...I don't yell at them. I do what I am told useless I forget but as soon as I remember, I go do it. I'm not saying that I would like to go out and do those things. I mean, I love my brain cells. And I believe in waiting til marriage for sex. I'm just saying that I would like them to back off a little. My best friend's mom asked me if I wanted her to adopt me. She has been asking me for like the last 3 years. Do you think I should let her. I love her and her family. I know they would treat me right. But why must they treat me badly?... How could I get them to lighten up a little?
2006-09-25 12:27:54 · 15 answers · asked by stacey_marie_08 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
your parents are just been parents they no whats out there and just been protective they will ease up they love you and want to keep you safe as for your friends mom she needs to back off its none of her business so but out ....your parents no whats best in the end trust me its hard been a parent today they just want whats best for you : )
2006-09-25 12:32:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations. I think you are a great young lady too. I'll hazard a guess that you are beautiful too, and when looking at you, your parents think of all the things that ever happened in the world to hurt young ladies like you. There are a lot of them. Give your parents a little credit that you have the background to have the maturity you show. Look at their fears for you as a kind of love. Establish closer communication with them. Start by making a copy of your question, and some of the answers, and discuss them with your Mom first, and tell her , truly, that you will tell her before you drink, use drugs, or have premarital sex, if she will ease off a little. Be more open with her, and she will communicate with your Dad, and trust you more. Be grateful that they love you enough to care. Sadly, many parents don't.
2006-09-25 12:42:55 · answer #2 · answered by choo-Choos Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How bad do they treat you? They are probably worried about you running off, they have raised a great child all this time and do not anything to destroy how wonderful you are. Are you an only child? Do they treat our siblings like this also, or is it just you? Maybe you should do some thing that shows them your independence, like getting a job, that way you become less dependent on your parents and they have to begin letting go. Also, try to get a scholarship to a great university far away. That way you get your freedom, college is covered, and your parents will have to give you space.
2006-09-25 12:34:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the person you aer because of your parents and in life you will proably be the same way towards your kids because this is how your were taught. Success comes from disipline, strength, and independance you sound like all that just deal with their love and rules a little longer your almost 18 then you can bust loose and you will see you still go by their guidelines in life.
2006-09-25 12:48:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're parents are uptight becuase they care about you. They are protecting you. I'm not quite understanding the whole adopting thing. You have you're own parents. Just let her adopt her own lovely child. Just start making plans to go out with your friends. eventually your mom and dad will loosen up a bit.
2006-09-25 12:30:37 · answer #5 · answered by sellatieeat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should sit down and talk to your parents and ask them why their so over protected. See what they say b/f making any type of move. Then maybe their just scared of today's society, so much is going on. Then you tell them that you are a responsible person and ask your parents for a chances.
2006-09-25 12:35:30 · answer #6 · answered by Live love laugh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about you just talk to you parents and tell them how you feel. The most likely love you enough that they are scared for you, that's why they are so controlling. But they don't know what's going on with you and inside your head. You have to talk to them and make them realize that you are growing up and you want more freedom. =)
2006-09-25 12:31:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't leave your family, but I would suggest talking to them and asking for time without them to hang with your friends. They're not treating you badly, they just love you and don't want anything bad to happen to you. Let them know you'll be careful and tell them that you'll follow all their rules, etc, etc.
2006-09-25 12:30:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to your parents about this they should see what a great kid you are and trust you enough to let you go out if they do let you don't let them down that trust as little as it is will be gone forever
2006-09-25 12:38:04 · answer #9 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to answer you because you really haven't told us what they are doing that you consider to be over-controlling.
But for what it's worth, you're going to be 18 in just two years (a very short time when you think of your whole life) - stick it out.
2006-09-25 12:32:34 · answer #10 · answered by RT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋