Should I try and get over him?

Question

I fell in love with my best friend six months ago. I told him and he very politely turned me down. Everyone says we are perfect for one another and his parents are desperate for him to ask me out. I've never been in love before and, despite the fact it hurts me every time I see him, I don't want to give it up. Should I be trying to get over him? Or should I just wait for him? We are still incredibly close friends and I see him everyday. I love being around him but, ultimately, it's killing me not to be with him. What d'you reckon...?

Answer 1

oh girl, I feel your pain. honestly I do. You have to get over him, even though it feels like your heart is breaking from the ache of wanting him and loving him and not getting that love in return. take it from someone who has been there. you can love him, everyone can say you would be perfect together, but ultimately....you can't make someone feel something if they don't. I am soooo sorry to have to tell you that. but waiting will only make the pain in your heart worse, because you will have waited and hoped for so much longer that it will take even longer to get over it than it would if you just start telling yourself now that he isn't the one for you. even if you think he is....if you are not the one for him, you have to let him go to save yourself the pain and heartache. waiting won't change any thing. you are already "best friends" so he knows you are a great girl, fun and smart and cool to hang out with....he just doesn't feel that chemistry like you do. if he did, he would have gone for it the second you told him how you felt. the fact that you are still friends proves the point that he thinks you are great and really likes you, just not like that. like a girlfriend. the best way to move on? get a boyfriend. or throw yourself into activities with your friends and not have as much time for him. be too busy to pine over him and wait and hope for somet ing that probably isn't goin g to happen. I mean it. I have been where you are and it sucks, but that is the way it is. if you wait and continue to crush on him, it just makes you look desperate and pathetic and nobody likes that.

Answer 2

"Clamour for food is being heard everywhere, though if each one worked hard, the problem would not arise at all. We talk of stomachs to be filled, but each stomach arrives in the world with two hands. Those hands, if they are kept idle or unskilled, cannot fulfil their assignment of finding the food for the stomach. Work hard - that is the message. And share the gain with others. The harder you work, the greater your gain, the more you can share. Work hard and more omportant still, work together with others in loving kinship"

"Man is endowed with the equipment of senses, reason, feelings, passions and detachment, so that he may keep away from the enticement of pleasures and spend his life in helping, serving, sustaining and saving his fellow men. He has to live in Seva not Bhoga (food)"

___ Bhagavan Sri Sathya Sai Baba said like this

Probably the theme required here is "Give what you command and command what you will", Probably try elevating your stature in society, with what you have, the skills rather than trying to be secured in someotherbody's skills upon which you do not have control over. Raise your stature with your strengths and opportunities ahead and see how the environment then dance to the tunes you play to your strength. a kind of SWOT analysis

Probably a withdrawel from areas where your own Weaknesses are high and Threats are more and maximum involvement where your own Strengths are more and Opportunities are more ... Gradually you shall visualise there are no such areas in this world where you have some interest but you lack ... but for the time being restrainment and withdrawel from a situation where you clearly lack in strength.... "Nethi, Nethi" ... blow the air from within to remove all those ashes of chauff to see THAT Fire of strengths deep within ....

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Answer 3

If he turned you down after you told him you loved him, then "he is just not that into you". Accept it and move on. Not having our feelings returned is painful but it happens to everyone in life.

It sounds as if he likes you very much as a friend. He sounds like a good friend since he is brave enough to be honest with you. If you can and are willing to do it, accept his friendship and enjoy being around him.

Answer 4

HEY Why would you wait for him? He probably would never come around to you anyway. You should tell him how you feel and ask if there is a chance that he wold ever date you. If not forget him and look for greener pastures

Answer 5

did he give you a reason why he turned you down?
does he like someone else?
why dont you just ask him again? go out for movies as friends but then tell how much you like him at the meeting.

Answer 6

i reckon that you guys still be best friends and who knows maybe he'll grow into loving you. Just give it time dont rush him b/c he'll be in pressure just go with the flow trust me he'll give in one day b/c you'll always be thier for him when he needs you

Answer 7

i say keep the friendship i heard the longer the friendship the better the relationship he probaly likes you but thinks it may be not the right time yet so just have fun with him and your friendship may soon blossom into a realtionship

Answer 8

were in the EXACT imean EXACT same boat , wow well im sticking close to him cause i cant be without him and im slowly starting to look at other bo ys soooo it sseems i am sorta getting over him just give me ten more years and it should be passed.

Answer 9

yes you have been in love, your in it now!!! I think you should find someone new... you might like them even more, but that will take your mind off him in the meantime.

Answer 10

continue to be friends with him but, start dating someone else since he doesn't feel the same way about you.