so me and my bf got into a BIG *** fight today...it all started after we got back from school and went to his house. we were watching tv and he asked me if he's good in bed and i told yes and then he asked me if there was n e thing that wasnt good about it and i said "honestly?" and he said "yea" so i said "i wish it was longer" [when hes under pressure he gets nervous and thats why sometimes its short] then he stayed quiet then he started trippin bout it. is it my fault that tha fight happened? i mean, he asked me to be honest..but i dont know...just tell me wat you think..
2006-09-25 12:01:55 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i meant he always tells me to be honest not he told me to be honest then and there
2006-09-25 12:03:14 · update #1
oh well talking about how long he is really isn't a Good thing. that would hurt any man.
so go and tell him his length is just fine its just sometimes you can tell when he is under pressure and that's when is isn't as ling that's all but most the time its great
i think that would help but next time when you talk about something that important to a man be gentle about it
2006-09-25 12:05:23 · answer #1 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he didn't really want to hear the truth, unless the truth was an overwhelming confirmation of his masculine/sexual prowess.
But, really, people don't want "honest" answers to these types of questions -- they just want some sort of affirmation or confirmation that they are doing a wonderful job of pleasing you. It is something *very* personal - so if you answer negatively, the guy cannot help but take it personal. If you had asked the question, what would you have wanted to hear? That is how you should have answered. The only thing to do now is either act like it never happened and/or giving him an overwhelming endorsement of how much you love him and love being with him esp. in bed.
2006-09-25 12:04:08 · answer #2 · answered by J.Z. 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absoluty not! He just didn't want to hear the truth. Honestly sounds like he has some growing up to do. Don't go after him and when hes trippin on you just simply explain that you love and care for him and if he asks a question he should really want to know the answer and not what he thinks the answer should be. Otherwise he wouldn't have to ask. Be strong he'll come around. NOT YOUR FAULT!
2006-09-25 12:06:56 · answer #3 · answered by Di M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they always want honesty but cant ever handle it ... its a part of being human and having feelings.
never be really honest about it -- until u are married that is bc then he knows hes stupid to get mad bc hes probably not getting it that often as it is and doesnt want to hinder his chances further.
but on the other hand remember whether you would prefer a lil white lie to spare feelings or the truth that will most likely hurt badly. what if you asked him something and he said you smelled bad or something *hypothetical of course* that would hurt and you would probably respond in the same manner as he did in this situation. just remember ... some things are better left unsaid.
2006-09-25 12:06:32 · answer #4 · answered by johnnys_angel_82 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
Your not wrong you were only telling him the truth right? Well he asked a question and he wanted a truthful answer and he got it. So tell him, " whats the big deal I still love you no matter how bad in bed you are" and let him know your sorry for hurting his feelings but you were just saying the truth.
2006-09-25 12:06:14 · answer #5 · answered by Pretty me :) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ha. Apparently, he wanted you to stroke his ego, not have an adult conversation. Good for you for assuming he wanted to talk seriously. Talk to him about it, tell him the only reason why you said that is because you want to be honest and to be able to speak freely with him now and in the future. Make sure when you do tell him these things that you know you are willing to work on it with him...I'm sure he won't complain about that!
2006-09-25 12:10:40 · answer #6 · answered by Miss smarty pants 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl trust me...you didn't say anything wrong...I'm sure hes just feeling insecure about it..all guys are like that when it comes to there manhood..don't worry about it ...when he realizes that he was wrong for trippen on you about it...he'll come to you and appoligize...just next time he asks you to be honest tell him and if he starts trippen again tell him that he should be glad that your being honest and thats what relationships are about and that you love him enough to be honest with him.
2006-09-25 12:13:47 · answer #7 · answered by Kaos 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like it hurt his feelings that you were honest with him. You were right to be open and honest, it's his problem that he's not mature enough to handle it properly. Just reassure him that you love being with him and he'll chill out when his ego heals a little.
2006-09-25 12:04:12 · answer #8 · answered by wellbeing 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh my, you were honest with him?? don't EVER do that when it comes to sex!! He will probably never get over it but that is just guys! mine goes to short also, and I made the mistake of telling him!! I will never live it down, Oh well not my fault lol
2006-09-25 12:04:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not really your fault. You were just too honest, but sometimes, it's better to lie in situations like that.
2006-09-25 12:04:03 · answer #10 · answered by Caribbean Blue 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋