My boyfriend and I aren't getting along right now. He never sees my side of things, for example: I was hanging out with him the other night but left early because I was tired, he said that he was going to stay home, instead he went and smoked weed and drank with his downstairs neighbor and his neighbor's girlfriend for 2 hrs because he wanted to ask his neighbor to help him fix his car. I told him I was upset because he NEVER tells me when he is going out until the next day. His response was that he didn't go out because he never left his property. In the more than a year and a half we have been together he has never told me when he was going out with friends before he did it. He tells me that I'm not his mother and he doesn't need permission to go out and he tells me the next day so why am I upset. He just doesn't get my point. I just think it's nice to know when your bf goes out. Should I just ignore him for a day or so and hope he thinks about how he's been treating me?
2006-09-25 11:54:55 · 16 answers · asked by sleep2dream65 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And just for more info, his work schedule changed recently and he has to work all day Saturday and Sunday so yesterday I called him to tell him how sad I was that I didn't see him and that I missed him and his response was basically "too bad, deal with it" I told him that he could have been more comforting but he just said that I needed to hear that I have to deal with it because that's the reality. He told me to get a hobby. I just feel like I am always "dealing" with the circumstances of his life (him being married and going through a divorce, him having a 4 yr old daughter and the dysfunctional relationship he has with her, his strange bar cook hours of having to work til 3am and having weird days off, him not having a license and me having to teach him) and I just don't feel appreciated. I would love for him to just say, "I appreciate you so much and I realize that you have alot to deal with being with me so thanks" but I need to hear that alot because there is alot to deal with
2006-09-25 12:00:27 · update #1
People are missing my point, how bout this one, should I tell him that I don't want to talk to him until he thinks about the way he treats me and realizes how much I do for him and that I deserve better responses from him than "deal with it" or do I talk to him and if I don't get the gratitude that I am looking for see this as it being a relationship that I shouldn't be in?
2006-09-25 12:09:45 · update #2
Yes, but he sounds immature too. So don't worry about it.
2006-09-25 11:58:08 · answer #1 · answered by Beejr 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No it is not immature, however if he can not understand ur point of view then this will soon become a bigger problem. I feel that if he can not communicate that he going to be hanging out with the fellas until after the fact, then maybe he is not really out with the fellas. Let him know that it is not about being his mother, because you are his woman and you feel that that is part of the respect that he should have for you.
2006-09-25 12:01:31 · answer #2 · answered by fedup&gettingoverit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretty much! Look, don't try to ignore your BF because that realy is a turn off. I mean don't you just hate it if someone do the same to you. That might make the relaltionship go the wrong way. Just talk about things and know each other's feelings. I hope this help you out!
2006-09-25 12:00:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has a life outside of you why doe's he have to tell you he's going out you don't own him and he's not doing anything wrong . you were tired right and he went to see a neighbor , if he had told you he was going would you not have been tired and gone with him?? don't be so childish he's not cheating on you if that was the case then you'd have something to complain and pout about
2006-09-25 12:01:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're assuming he thinks at all- he's a pot-head and smoking weed doesn't really get a person "thinking" all that much. He doesn't get your point because he's stoned.
And you want him? I mean.. this is the guy of your dreams?? This is the man you want to be with and love and want to make happy and spend your life loving?
I think you should ignore him for about 30-60 years, my dear.
2006-09-25 12:00:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No!
stay calm about it,
now for a couple of days just dont ask his whereabouts, u dont give urs either if do so now.
let him feel you are no more concerned about what he is doing and where, but be as good as you have been always in other ways!
probabaly he doesnt like being dominated.
2006-09-25 12:00:26 · answer #6 · answered by krishna 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should just talk to him instead of ignoring him. Because in my opinion and probably many others, it is rude to ignore a loved one such as your boyfriend. Talk to him and if he understands he'll tell you why he treated you this way.
2006-09-25 11:57:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is immature to do that.......you should realize that any man hates to tell you what their plans are and that they dint see anything from a woman's point of view... that's just the way a man is.
if he dint work on the relationship with you and dint respect you than you should probably leave him and find a man that does.....
2006-09-25 12:02:14 · answer #8 · answered by sherry p 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no. us guys like time alone with others sometimes. not sexually but just get out.ignore him and it will make things worse.he likes you but give him his room to drink a beer or even burn one
2006-09-25 12:00:07 · answer #9 · answered by Billy T 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For this particular scenario, the answer is yes.
2006-09-25 12:29:48 · answer #10 · answered by webmail0806 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋