How can i tell him that he is bad at sex? My bf sucks at it and he thinks that he is really good at it.He trys to do new moves but they they are not good.If any of you guys are good at it answer this.
2006-09-25 11:52:16 · 30 answers · asked by yoyo007 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-09-25 11:54:50 · answer #1 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably not a good idea to tell him that he sucks. If he really is bad it's only going to make him worse - his confidence will plummet and you'll suffer more :-( Instead let him know when he's doing something that works for you. Hopefully he'll catch on to what works and doesn't work for you. If he's smart he'll try to make sure you're feeling good. Nothing wrong with giving him little hints about something new you might want to try too.
2006-09-25 11:58:06 · answer #2 · answered by sunssecret 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this problem with an ex...notice I said ex. I actually had him doing what I wanted in the end. One thing I did was to take control. He liked it and I got him to slow his *** down. Another thing I did was to leave random articles around like "The way to please a woman" He felt like it was his new idea little did he know I had planted the article so he would improve. Just DON"T tell him he sucks and if you do have a talk do it OUTSIDE of the bedroom it will hurt less.
2006-09-25 12:04:22 · answer #3 · answered by shewaxetheloquent 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best thing to do in this scenario... be gentle. A man's ego is not one to fool around with.
When you two are making love, say things like "I really like when you (fill in the blank)".
You could try a masturbation show in front of him and show him how you like to do it to yourself. He will most likely get very excited by this.
As you are doing this, take his hand and move it to where you want to be touched. He will love how hot and demanding you are, and you can kinda guide him along the way, telling him to move it this way or that way... whatever feels the best for you.
If all else fails, take the upper-hand and get aggressive.
My man is very good at pleasing me, but sometimes he slacks... so I have to get down and dirty and show him how its done.
If he doesn't get the hint... you will have to be frank with him and tell him like it is (Gently!) and discuss what you want from your physical relationship. When you two make love, give him directions. Guys like it when ya talk dirty!
2006-09-25 12:00:09 · answer #4 · answered by Elkie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well most guys I know want to know if they are bad. Sounds like you'll have to break it to him in a slow and caring way. Maybe ask him first how you can do a better job to please him. Or if there are certain things he likes or dislikes. Then turn the tables on him and tell him what you like and how to really get you going. When a man sees that he is genuinely getting you off, nothing gives him greater satisfaction. You'll be surprised at how he'll ask you what else he can do to please you.
2006-09-25 11:59:05 · answer #5 · answered by coolbeanfive 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't neccessarily have to tell him hes bad, but be truthful. Let him know by playing sexual games what you like. There are many books about different games you can play in the bedroom. Guide him and express your feelings without being mean.
2006-09-25 11:57:02 · answer #6 · answered by Di M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be honest with him when the two of you are alone you dont want to put him on blast with people around and you also dont want to say it to where you are gonna hurt his feelings. men are really sensitive when it comes to how they work it. the best way is to take control and tell him this is how i like and then when he is on top let him know you want it fast, slow, hard, to the left more, to the right more, deeper. take control and once you have told him how you like it he will continue to do eventually without you having to tell him. like when you give him head he lets you know how you gotta tell him too. even if he's gonna go down town you gotta tell him then too.
2006-09-25 12:16:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right. My advice is that you tell him that you feel like taking control in the bedroom for a little while. You show him what you like and he'll learn soon enough what good sex is. Help him by saying ooooh I like that when he gets it right. Teach him and I'm sure he'll learn fast.
2006-09-25 11:58:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say to take charge in the bedroom tell him what you like and don't like and how you like it done there is nothing wrong with that. Maybe he was with a girl who liked it the way he does it to you and he is falling back on that. So just say things like i would really like it if you could do this that away. and he will learn in time.
2006-09-25 11:57:34 · answer #9 · answered by ali L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so are you comparing him with your last lovers sometimes a guy will think he is doing a good no one will tell him, there are ways of telling him with out hurting his feelings need to be open with him tell him that you want to learn to please each other tell him the stuff is not doing for you you to might look at a magazine to try differnt things ask him if you are doing good at it also a learning tool in your relasinship
2006-09-25 12:15:50 · answer #10 · answered by dave m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not ever tell a man he is terrible. the best way to a mans mind is to make him think he is good , since he is so good in bed ,,,now it is your turn to make him feel good while you she does all the moves , she has to do all talking and the moves. trust me this will work if you can make him feel like a king.
2006-09-25 12:08:54 · answer #11 · answered by sebastiano s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋