Did you get married and have children young? Are you still together?

Question

I am 25 years old, my wife is 23. My wife and I have been together for 5 years and married for 2 years.

We plan to have our first child next year when I am almost 27 and she is 24 years old.

When people find out our ages they seem to make a lot of comments about statistics and how we will end up divorced.

I really don’t feel we are too young to be married or be parents.

We own a house, have completed college, and have careers.

We are happy together and very committed to one another.

I honestly believe we will never divorce, but I feel like people hope young love fails.

I guess I am feeling discouraged!

Did you get married and have children young?

Are you still with your spouse?

Answer 1

Married at 16 and 19. Two kids by 19 and 21. Now, 25 years later we are still happily married. My oldest is now a minister (married with two kids), and the youngest seems to be headed with his wife into the part-time missions. Guess that blows away the stats! Our #1 belief has been that if you find divorce acceptable, you probably will be getting a divorce! Why try to resolve conflicts if all you need to do is get a lawyer, and get out and lead your own life. At least that is what the world tells us to do. I don't understand why people aren't more supportive of marriage in general. Yes. we have had struggles. One time 15 years into the marriage we realized we were too busy listening to everyone else, about what we should do. And how we missed so much getting married early. And how we spend too much time together, that we need to go out with just 'the girls' or just 'the guys'. We realized we were pulling apart, and we realized we just needed to recommit and close off those people in our lives that were negative to our marriage. We basically gave 6 months to just our family. No sports, scouting, bowling league. Nothing. Yep, it was hard but we realized we needed to realign our thinking in that our marriage came first, followed by being parents. We started to go to a church, and found a wonderful positive atmosphere for our marriage. No more keeping up with Joneses mentality for us. Even if the road got bumpy at church, we just got off that track and never looked back. Keep thining positive. It is so sad to hear "do you think this marriage will work?" I heard it twice recently, when each boy was married. How awful. and the comment came from family. (one was even from church). I tell them "why would you think marriage should end in failure?" "expect to fail, you will fail. expect success, and you will be sucessful" enjoy your lifetime together :)

Answer 2

Yes we were married young and had a daughter and the marriage lasted 17 years and then it fell apart. That does not mean that will happen to you and your wife. Don't get discouraged. Just enjoy your life and your family. Don't worry about what other people think or say. Be happy with what you have now. The odds are in your favor but even if it doesn't work out you will have had children together an no one can take that away from either one of you. Life is good, enjoy it!

Answer 3

My mom was 18 and my dad was 21 when they had me....they were married 16 years, together 18. They divorced when I was 18. My dad's parents married when they were 17 and 19. They had 10 children and stayed married. My grandmother is now a widow. My fiance and I have 2 children and have been together 4 years. We are very happy. I gues it all just depends if both people give more than they take in a relationship. Good luck and if you really try, you can make things work and be married forever.

Answer 4

Don't listen to the negativity. It sounds like you two have a strong foundation being that you have careers and a home. I say go for it. Don't worry about what MAY happen in the future. Focus on the here and now and I'm sure you two will be great parents.

I was a young mother at the age of 20 and got married at age 25 and we didn't last due to my ex being the selfish person that he is. Every situation is different, so don't base your decision on what other people have to say about your age because it doesn't matter.

Answer 5

I am 22, my husband is 22 and we have a three year old son, one on the way also, we haven't been married very long but I say the hell with the people who tell you that just because that has more in likely happened to them doesn't mean it will to you, my parents got married around 25 they were high school sweet hearts and are still together. It depends on the couple if you are committed and she is I think it will last a life time.

Answer 6

We married young ( 18 and 19 ) and we are still together. We also had are daughter at ages 18 and 19. We have been together for over 3 years now and I am pregnant with our second child. We have things to work out still , but I guess we are doing okay.

Answer 7

I got married to my husband when I was 19 and he was 18 (dated each other a yr before marriage). We had a daughter before we were married. Well we are 27 now and are still married. I love that we did this early, I know by the time our children are old enough to move out and have kids of their own that we will still be young enough to enjoy our lives, each other, and will be able to play with the grand kids when they come to visit. I never worried about peoples reaction to our relationship because it was just that, OUR relationship. Just worry about you 2 and not everyone else. People do wish for love to fail, makes them have a chance to say, "I told ya so". Just ignore it, love each other everyday and take care of each other. You are what matters now, no one else.

Answer 8

Yes, I was 18, my husband was 22. We've been married 46 years. Had our first child when I was 20. We've never regretted getting married young. We had our ups- and- downs as any couple will have. But, divorce was never an option for either of us. We took our vows seriously (til death do we part) I think it all depends on if you are truly in love.... After children come along, there is a adjustment period for both of you. But it's that way if you're young or old.
Best wishes to both of you....

Answer 9

I was married young and divorced a few years later. Marrying young has nothing to do with staying together or splitting apart. The ex was a controlling, egotistical, sheet of brown toilet paper who wanted a slave/maid with about a brain. As long as you want to make each other happy, you will be happy. Make sure that you take time to be kind, loving, and romantic. The same things that it takes to get a spouse, are the same things to keep them. Treat her the way that you want to be treated. No matter what always treat each other with unconditional love. If you never neglect one another, your marriage and family will grow in number,depth, and love.

Answer 10

I don't know what your definition of young exactly is.

I got married when I was 19 and my husband was 20, after only knowing each other one day less than 6 months. We had our daughter two months before we had been married two years, and we are still together now. I haven't finished college and he hasn't gone to college and we don't own our own home.

Honestly, you are more set than we ever were and when the two of you purpose that you will be together for the rest of your lives, then if you are truly serious about it, then you will stay together for the rest of your lives.

Good Luck. And you really aren't too young.