There's this girl at my school who got saved about a year ago. Thing is, now she's out practically splashing people with holy water. Anything you do, she has a Bible verse. "Don't do that because Mark says..." it never ends. She's so adamant about judging people and telling them why they're wrong. But then she turns around and will make fun of somebody's hairstyle. It's getting mad annoying. If I make a joke, she'll say, "You shouldn't say that because Luke says..."
I'm a Christian, but I think it's wrong to go around and get on EVERYBODY for swearing or getting a tattoo or being gay or sleeping in church...I mean, nobody's perfect, so it's senseless to go around and point out everyone's fault, especially when she's gossiping about people three seconds later....it's your average holier-than-thou thing going on...what should I do?
2006-09-25 11:36:25 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
when she is being judgemental, just say something like "take care of the log in your own eye before you point out the speck in someone else's", or another phrase in the bible.
remind her if god is her judge (which im sure she is quick to point out), then let god be everyone else's judge too.
2006-09-25 11:41:32 · answer #1 · answered by ~Selene~ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Obviously the poor girl has no wisdom. Maybe in a nice way you could become friends with her and teach her some. Or pray for her that with all the reading of the bible she is doing God may direct her towards some words of wisdom. She is certainly not doing people any good if she is walking around judging people. We are not perfect and if she's makes fun of people she is not being a light. The bible say not to let your good be evil spoken of. If she wants to talk the talk she must walk the walk all the time and not just when she wants to. I hope you will be able to help her understand that it is in the way we live our life that our Christin experience is able to help people to want to live better. She truly is doing more harm then good. Maybe you were brought into her life to help her see the light. Don't get angry with her just help her to understand through some Scriptures she needs to use more wisdom and she can't be the judge only God can. Good luck and May God Bless You.
2006-09-25 19:01:56 · answer #2 · answered by purrfectsandcastle 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was the same way, when I was newly saved. The judgmental Christians taught me that. They are a very small percentage. She might see something within in herself, so that it is easy to point out others faults (less attention on her). Bring up her shortcomings, every time you see them. Ask her if that statement is something that Jesus would do or say. Then ask her if that is showing the love of Christ. If that doesn't work, tell her that she is not God and should not be judging anyone since she is not perfect.
2006-09-25 18:48:29 · answer #3 · answered by croc hunter fan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I would definetly try talking to her. It's really sad that all the people that she's talking to, who arn't Chrsitians, are getting the exact same impression. That's why so many people are turned off to Christianity, people tend to abuse it to the point where it's flat out rejected.
Try talking with her, and look up some Bible verses that have to do with judgement. As people have said before me, the verse about removing the log from your own eye before you remove the splinter from someone elses is a good one.
Good luck :)
2006-09-25 18:46:29 · answer #4 · answered by Lo 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully, she will mature as she grows in the Lord and realize that she's not judge and jury -- only God is. At this stage, pointing out her own hypocrisy is only going to make her mad and shove her even deeper into her holier-than-thou mode.
Maybe you and a couple of Christian friends should take her aside and gently, but firmly read Proverbs 10:12 to her. "Hatred stirreth up strifes: but love covereth all sins."
There's no need to be aggressive since that'll only put her on the defense. Just explain to her that no one except Christ is perfect and that what she's doing is hurtful, not only to the person being criticized but to her own walk with the Lord.
God is love, and we're supposed to reflect His compassion to the world. He didn't send Jesus to condemn us, and we don't have the right to condemn anyone else, either. Maybe if she sees that she's bringing dishonor to God, she'll rethink her actions.
2006-09-25 18:44:57 · answer #5 · answered by Wolfeblayde 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You may want to toss a little 'holy water' back at her with the bible verse, 'why do you talk about the splinter in your brother's eye when you've got a rafter in your own eye. Take care of yourself and leave the rest to ...' (paraphrased, obviously) Or, you may want to try to 'turn the other cheek,' avoid socializing with her after expaining your stand. It doesn't matter what a person's beliefs are, when someone behaves in this fashion, it is often because deep down (sometimes not so deep), that person feels pretty inferior or bad or not-good-as others. Superiority behaviors are usually the flip side of inferiority feelings.
- With this in mind, if she IS a friend, it should be worth a try to talk to her. Yes?
2006-09-25 18:43:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Find the verse in the Bible where it says that we aren't supposed to judge one another. Memorize the verse, the name of the book, the number of the chapter and the number of the verse. It will stick in your mind better if you do your own research. When your friend starts her routine, quote your verse with the directions on where to find it in the Good Book.
That should help. But do it with love.
2006-09-25 19:44:38 · answer #7 · answered by anyone 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you've been personally offended by this girl, since you mentioned that she said something about your joke. Perhaps your own offense makes the things she says to others bigger in her eyes. We're all guilty of hipocrisy from time to time. I recommend that you work out your problem with her, either by just forgiving her or talking to her about it. Hopefully that will help you get her other behavior in proper perspective.
2006-09-26 01:27:29 · answer #8 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Joyce Meyers call them "Sister super-christian", these are the Christians that believe they have gotten it down to a science, mostly it's self-righteousness. Don't worry, sooner or later she'll hit the proverbial brick wall and she'll have to fall of her high horse. You should point out to her that Paul said that we are not to criticize those of lesser faith, meaning, anyone who is not a believer or one who is struggling with their faith.
2006-09-25 19:23:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
How about telling her to look for perfection within herself and quit trying to save the world.
I'd tell her to save her religeous platitudes for when she gets her clergy credentials.
Nothing you say is likely to change her, though. Religeous fanatics are harder to reform or rid oneself of than insurance sales people.
2006-09-25 18:55:32 · answer #10 · answered by Beejee 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋