my exgirlfriend and I were together three years. 3 months ago she broke up with me, but two weeks after that we start to hang out again then after a couple of weeks we stop talking for about a month, but about a 2 weeks ago i left her a message telling her i miss her and the next day she called me back and told me she loves me and misses me to and she wanted to have a cup of coffe and talk. Ever since then we have been seeing each other. I love her but i dont know if im doing the right thing cause i dont think she wants to get back together yet and still goes out to party on the weekends how should i play it.
2006-09-25 11:33:03 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should confront her. Not in a bad way of course...
Just ask her. "Look, it seems like we shouldn't be broken up. I love, and you love me. So what's the deal? Don't you think we should get back together and work out what went wrong?"
You said in your question "I don't think she wants to get back together..." Well, get rid of that doubt, one way or the other.
2006-09-25 11:38:54 · answer #1 · answered by Jerry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, if she is still going out and partying on the weekend this girl has done figured out she has everything she wants...partying on the weekends, and you to fill in her time during the week. You need to show her that you have a life away from her. Don't make yourself so available to her. Don't answer the phone when she calls the first time...make her call back even if she leaves a message. If you do want to make it work though, the worst thing you can do is actually sleep with someone else. I think you should definitely go out with other girls though, and I don't think you should throw it in her face your doing this, but I would let it slip out during a conversation. Let her know that she needs to make up her mind or she will eventually lose you to someone that actually wants to be with you during the week and the weekend. I do think girls should have friends to go out with every once in a while though, but that isn't the impression I am getting from your question. Good Luck
2006-09-25 11:39:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well hey im cristina, and i think that she does love you but it could be love as in shes in love with you or she just simply loves you for who you are. Maybe she broke up with you because shes not ready to get to the next step, im guessing right now all she wants is to enjoy life and have fun and she may not want to do it while shes with you thinking maybe shes going to hurt you in some way. But go ahead and take her out like nothing changed just give her time to think or tell you what she really wants from you.
2006-09-25 11:39:55 · answer #3 · answered by WhatAreWeGonnaAsk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all she might want some space since you were togther for 3 years second you must sit and talk lay out all the cards on the table and strainght out tell her how you are feeling and ask her what and how she feels about this situation.
2006-09-25 11:39:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may love her, and she may love you a lot, but you may not feel READY to commit only to one another, therefore you should resolve this by speaking to her, about HOW does she love you...
If both of you are willing to have an open relationship until you are ready to bring the relationship to a next level, then you should go for it, but if you are against it, remaining in this relationship will hurt your self esteem, and will become emotionally painful.
2006-09-25 11:47:47 · answer #5 · answered by Julieta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on, pal.......she ain't interested in you....she is a party girl now. Why put yourself in all that ongoing agony??? Take the high road and stop bothing her. Have no contact and after a time, it will all just fade away. In a couple of years, you won't even remember her name!
2006-09-25 11:36:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sure sounds like you truly love her. So, instead of wondering if she wants to get back together...ask her.
It is a risk, and some risks are worth taking. Tell her how you feel and ask her if she wants to try again.
It may fail, she may not want to, but it sounds like it is one of those things you need to take a risk and go for it!
2006-09-25 11:37:57 · answer #7 · answered by beetrippin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably really does care about you but isn't ready to be back together again cuz she is having fun being single. Don't let her think you're waiting around for her though. Good luck!
2006-09-25 11:36:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's using you and her flip-floppy, wishey-washey behaviour is your proof, no matter what she tells you. treat her like you would any other friend and go out and find someone else. don't do it out of spite, do it because going back with her would be a huge mistake and it's time to be good to yourself. unless, of course you enjoy living on the fence with her and getting your feelings squished....
girls are notorious for stringing guys along because they like to have around an admirer and someone to plump up their egos. it's disgusting and they should have to wear a scarlet E to warn everyone they meet.
2006-09-25 11:42:11 · answer #9 · answered by buffysummers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her to be entirely honest, if she isn't ready, or she thinks she is and really isn't you're gonna go down the same route you did the first time. Good Luck.
2006-09-25 11:36:18 · answer #10 · answered by ZombieCola 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋