I almost dropped the "L" word on the gf for the first time a couple of nights ago, and in hindsight, wish I would have. It was a very good/positive emotional moment. Question: should I wait for another similar moment or does it matter? Can I drop it out of the blue and still have a positive effect? I have told women I love them before (and thought I meant it), but have never felt anything close to what I feel for her now and want to get this right.
And before anyone accuses me of alterior motives, I want to say I really am falling in love with her and I am as convinced as I can be that she is with me. I am not exactly scared, but definitely a little gunshy.
2006-09-25 11:32:23 · 8 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have 2 options. You can be all gushy-squishy and make a big "MOMENT" out of it...
Or, you can be having a laugh, hug her and say happily "I love you, you're so great!" and keep doing whatever you were doing. In this case, your tone of voice should be the same as if you're saying "That was great!" - very cool, upbeat, happy. She'll either ignore you and let it pass, smile and think you "slipped" and feel good, or make you tell her again seriously.
(If it were me, I'd prefer option 2- it would give me a chance to digest it, and decide how I felt, rather than feeling forced to say ILY too.)
2006-09-25 11:40:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you guys have been together a reasonable length of time then I feel she will respect your feelings. Wait for a good time so you can have the opportunity to tell her why you love her incase she has questions of that sort. It is good to hear that a man still can love because a lot of them are dogs and are not ever trying to be serious. I give you a thumbs up for that all in itself.
2006-09-25 18:37:42 · answer #2 · answered by Miss T 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, out of the blue is ok, but it depends on the moment. for example, if she is talking about how her friends are talking about her behind her back or whatever, it probally isnt the best time.:but just wait for a good time, when she is in a good mood, like before, and tell her. it doesnt have to be exactly like the moment before, but if it felt like it was right to you, then do it when you feel like that again. i know it sounds cheasy, but listen to your heart.....it will really tell you when is the right time. good luck!
2006-09-25 18:38:25 · answer #3 · answered by Ellen 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you really think she feels the same there is no risk involved, go for it , but wait for one of those special moments
2006-09-25 18:37:23 · answer #4 · answered by giddy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you truely mean it with all your heart, it shouldnt matter about a "special moment". but you've got to be sure you do, dont say it if you dont mean it 100%.
2006-09-25 18:37:28 · answer #5 · answered by yourprettyhot123 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't do it man...I swear you will regret it.
2006-09-25 18:35:20 · answer #6 · answered by mike Z 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont say anything you dont mean for sure!
2006-09-25 18:35:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
wrt "I love you", it's ladies first.
2006-09-25 18:35:19 · answer #8 · answered by Answers1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋