about 6 months ago i started dating this guy. we considered ourselfs to be bf and gf. but after 3 months he sayes he doesnt want a gf right now, but he wants to stay friends. but nothing has changed in our relationship, we still hang out, we still talk to eachother every day, we see eachother no more/less then when we were "dating", and the sex hasnt slowed down any. i still consider us as a couple but he doesnt. and i dont get it. im 26 and havent dated for about 7 yrs. (i was married and devorced by 19 and wasnt looking for anything. so i feel out of the loop on dating.) hes 31 and was the one to pursue the relationship. i have met his family but he dosnt have any desire for me to meet his friends and wont take me to his bars or hangouts. im not sure what to think of the relationship. ive been sceptical of the relationship from the beginning. and im 95% sure that hes not "cheating". i have yet to find any evidence to suggest that. why not just say were dating? is he hiding something?
2006-09-25 11:17:12 · 16 answers · asked by dsasie1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He likes having a discreet relationship with you, but with benefits. He probably isn't cheating on you because he doesn't want to damage his sexual relationship with you. However he likes to present himself to his circle of friends as single.
2006-09-25 11:28:25 · answer #1 · answered by coolbeanfive 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're guy is unquestionably frightened of dedication an had to sluggish the relationship down earlier it grew to grow to be extreme. He for sure desires to maintain his thoughts open in case something else comes alongside, he could already be seeing human beings, he can then turn around an say its not cheating or he's not breaking apart with you as you at the instant are not relationship. He thinks he's made this sparkling to you and you have time-honored this. He would not care that he's giving mixed indicators. BTW unload his ***!
2016-10-01 08:51:33 · answer #2 · answered by schugmann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that he has a good time with you but he doesnt want nothing serious, stop having sex with him thats all he wants, dont be too available and have some respect for yourself if he already told you he just wants to be friends why r you still acting like a gf? im sorry hun, but he is not serious. let him go and move on that's the best thing to, if he wants something serious he will go back to you.
2006-09-25 11:27:13 · answer #3 · answered by its_me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably hiding something. If he wants to have that kind of relationship, it might be easier for him to accept that he is doing someone wrong. Check up on his stories, the only reason i could see it is because he's in another relationship, and saying that yall aren't dating rests his concience. If all else fails then tell him that your not looking for someone to have a one night stand relationship with.
2006-09-25 11:25:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say it, but, from a guy's perspective, sounds to me that he's looking for free action while he finds something else. If I was to have a girlfriend and was having physical relations with her, its because she's special and for that...were ever I go and who ever I meet, I sure hope that she would be there sharing these moments with me. Alot of guys don't see that this way unfortunately. Play it the way you want but...dont be surprised.
2006-09-25 11:27:12 · answer #5 · answered by chewy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's either hiding something or he really doesn't want a relationship right now.
Go date other people. Go out with other guys. He'll either get possessive and forbid it, or he won't care. If he gets possessive, ask him what he wants. Make him say it out loud, and reiterate to him that if he doesn't want you to see anyone else, you need him to say what he really wants from you.
Most guys are NOT in touch with their feelings, and are scared to death when someone turns on their emotions.
2006-09-25 11:22:20 · answer #6 · answered by l_marie_allen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look if your not gettingwhat you want from him find someone else if you guiys are not together by his standards. then you can go date someone else and play the field and if he says something give him the altermatum either we have a commited relationship or we can see other people trust me if he cares about u he will fall into line or you find soeone else who is better and give u what u want
2006-09-25 11:23:22 · answer #7 · answered by luis_11211 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds very weird..why wouldnt you want the one your with to know all of you entirely..strange how these guys get woman in the first place and stranger why the woman stick about...opposite in my world the girl is everything to me but im nothing to the girl so ive found to many times
2006-09-25 11:24:26 · answer #8 · answered by waveboy7675 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say the guy is just using you, I'm sorry to say. He just seems to want to get the "benefits" from going out with you. He doesn't seem to want to integrate you into his life, like partners should.
Trust your heart in this one. You deserve better.
2006-09-25 11:32:46 · answer #9 · answered by noblehado 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want the label because if something comes along better he wont feel bad about going after it. He has no obligation to you.
2006-09-25 11:25:34 · answer #10 · answered by Hotness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋