for confessing you are in love with another man but still love your husband and have been faithful, and now they do not want you to yoke with the congregation. I should I look for another or ask to take them to take me back. They have been my extended family for five years. What do you think?
2006-09-25 11:11:24 · 17 answers · asked by marydee92 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
It sounds like you have been painfully misunderstood. To love another man is not a sin but only a temptation. It sounds like you have overcome a powerful temptation and these people just don't get it. You have been honest. I think they have wronged you. Ask God in prayer what He would have you do. Unless they apologize for their misunderstanding I think you would be "casting pearls before swine." [swine with a filthy mind] Keep the faith. God loves you and I do too.
2006-09-25 11:36:56 · answer #1 · answered by cathyhewed1946 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason for the disfellowship is to bring you in to repentence, repentence being a complete turning of your mind away from the sin of adultry. Okay, I KNOW that you didn't cheat with this other guy, but your thoughts and your confidences were NOT with your husband, where they should have been, and this too, can be seen as a form of adultry.
Repent before the Lord first, and then to your husband. Then call your Pastor and ask him to lead you in your repentence to the church so that you can come back because you don't want to be separated from God.
Next time you are tempted in this way, RUN in the other direction, even if it means you quit a job, even if it means you move from the neighborhood, even if it means you move out of state. Better to lose a house than lose your family.
Good luck.
PS: And anyone who advises you to get a divorce is someone whose advice you should NOT take. You didn't commit adultry, and so you have no legal reason for divorce as spelled out by God. Furthermore, God can heal a marriage, even really bad ones, so both you and your husband need to turn to God to seek His blessing, forgiveness, mercy, grace and restoration.
Marriage is about committment, a promise to stay together through thick and thin, for better or for worse, through good times and bad. If you truly love the other guy, that's your misfortune, because you're already married. And you clearly had the good sense to NOT cheat with him, which means that your love for your husband and your committment to him is MORE important to you than this other guy, which means that you don't love him like you think you do.
The heart is wicked and deceitful above all things, remember? Your head can tell your heart to let it go -- so do.
Good luck, and prayers be with you!
2006-09-25 11:20:53 · answer #2 · answered by Rebecca 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A family blood or not should never abandon you or punish you for how you feel. If anything they are the people that you can turn to in your time of need, which sounds like is now. If they cannot help you resolve your issues then maybe they aren't the ideal family you've thought them to be. Spirituality is a way of life. You learn and apply lessons throughout your daily life, big or small. You obviously have questions and need guidance. They should be a help, not a hinderance.
2006-09-25 12:10:11 · answer #3 · answered by msmariana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you made this confession with the purpose of getting help and prayers, they should have supported you in that aspect. But if you are doing this for other reasons, then they may have been too harsh, but justified. Otherwise, if you were wanting help with this, they have lost their first love who is Jesus. They are the ones who are wrong and they don't want to deal with this problem. I'm sorry for you, try a private talk with a preacher from an assembly of God church, they tend to be much more willing to give the benefit of the doubt as they did with me, read my profile and you'll understand.
2006-09-25 11:17:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Greetings,
Unless that other man is Jesus then you are sinning in the eyes of God and don't deserve to belong to any church. As Jesus said if you even think about a person with lust in your mind then you have commited adultery. You are fortunate that you l9ive in modern times for that sin in the biblical times was punishable by death from stoning. Your church only wants to throw you out . Leave your affections for this other man and ask God for forgiveness and repent. Then you need to go back to your husband and ask for his forgiveness. Otherwise you will not be admitted into the kingdom Of God and will be thrown into the lake of fire.
2006-09-25 11:29:15 · answer #5 · answered by cobravetor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is allowed in the Church But only on the Terms of Being unfaithfull or abusive to your spouse. You have already Broken that rule so I would say get a Divorce and Marry the Man you Truly Love with all your Heart. The one that you would willingly die for. That is True Love.
2006-09-25 11:18:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say, but if you want to keep up with your worship at church, you will more then likely have to find a new one. Not to be rude, but most congregations are very adamant once they get their mind to something. Even if you fixed your problem, though I'm not sure it is that quite yet, they won't want you "corrupting" the younger generation, or making them look bad. Sorry, but why not looking for a new place to worship?
2006-09-25 11:16:02 · answer #7 · answered by loser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your married and after another man that isn't good.Work things out with your husband and leave the other man alone (if your church is teaching the bible you should know not to be after any man but your husband.).Even lustful thoughts of another an is sin.Maybe try finding a church that will help you get over him.If he is at that church you need to get away.
2006-09-25 11:20:25 · answer #8 · answered by robert p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, they don't sound like a very supportive congregation to me, so I would look for another one. That's ridiculous. You haven't done anything wrong! I will pray for you. Good luck, and I am impressed with your self control in staying faithful. Keep it up!
2006-09-25 11:14:58 · answer #9 · answered by Hopeful Poster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they are being hypocritical to the Gospel. May he without sin cast the first stone! They are self-righteous. For you to have seen this so soon is but a gift of God. Don't ever become one of them.
May God forgive thy promiscuity, may ye repent and find refuge in the eternal love of the Lord God.
Salam Aliakum
2006-09-25 11:14:19 · answer #10 · answered by Tofu Jesus 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋