I hate to beat a dead horse, but I tell ya. It is hard for me to shake the young fella. I posted before and asked you all about me (a 29 year old woman) dating an 18 year old guy. He is really nice, mature, and has a good JOB!!! He is being very respectful (since I followed your advice before and told him to take a hike) and not calling regularly. I told him that we could be friends, but right now a relationship is not the thing. I am having second thoughts. I really miss him, and I think it is unfair for age to be the ONLY roadblock to a relationship with him. I can see us together in the future. Just as I was getting over the whole thing, he called to check on me. I thought it was sweet. I JUST DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO!!! I really like him, but society and some of my friends won't approve of it. Is there anyone out there that has had, or is currently experiencing a similar thing as me?
2006-09-25 11:10:44 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No. But who cares what society thinks. If they are really your friends they will get over it. If you really like him and want to be together then just do it. You may regret not doing it later!
2006-09-25 11:14:26 · answer #1 · answered by sapphire 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go with your heart. i am in a similar situation the guy I am with is seven years younger then me. (the same age as my baby brother by the way) I had a hard time with it at first but the relationship has turned into a healthy relationship and both of us seem happier then ever. I love him. There is nothing saying that you have to marry him enjoy your time with him and see what happens maybe it will fizzle and die one day or it may be your life's partner either way let what others say or think bother you not. Enjoy and have fun together.
2006-09-25 18:18:38 · answer #2 · answered by njredgrl32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think his having a job and being mature is a realistic gauge for you to factor in, as far as the differences in age.
Admit it.
The boy is:
YOUNG (18 with raging hormons to "drug" unresolved issues you have within yourself).
HANDSOME with a JOB (which means your comming across older men who may not have a job, for reasons unknown to you and may not care).
OPEN TO ANYTHING (which means he's easy to take advantage of because young guys explore at that age and are more adventurous).
The boy is living with his mother-meaning he can spend the money because he's free of responsibilty and spend how he likes. In other words, he has nothing to hamper him which makes him available for you anytime you wish.
My point?
Grow up.
OR
Take care of him and be his mother figure till he's bored with you and he'll find someone younger. HAPPENS ALL THE TIME. HE WON'T BE THERE FOREVER. Unless he's a momma's boy and loves to be taken care of without any personal growth for himself.
But as you say; he's mature and has a job. That means, as he get's older, his choices and taste will change.
How long do you think this is going to last?
2006-09-25 18:30:35 · answer #3 · answered by monkeymustard 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, I'm 48, and he's 28...and we will be together soon...so, yeah. We don't care what "society" thinks. We love each other very much.
2006-09-25 18:16:10 · answer #4 · answered by Evil Wordmonger, LTD LOL 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You naughty girl, LOL. Your letting yourself get manipulated by your peers. Screw them, he's of age, go for it and have fun.
2006-09-25 18:15:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
.you have only yourself to answer to , he's of age and so are you lol just make sure no one gets hurt...... who's to say who you can or cannot see jeez !!
2006-09-25 18:18:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋