I am 43 and pregnant with my third child. I have two other children, but they are 15 and 16 years old. At the littlest, there will be a 15 year age gap between my soon-to-be baby and my youngest right now. How will my teenagers act around it? When the baby is older, it might feel lonely since they will already be out of the house and living by themselves. What is your opinion on this?
2006-09-25 10:51:16 · 8 answers · asked by cookinghamusa 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
That kind of an age gap makes for the BEST teenage birth control!!! Seeing the "real deal" on having an infant in the house will un-glamourize it.
My friend's sister in law has an eighteen year age gap between her youngest two. The baby (he's three) is doted on by all three of his siblings.
2006-09-25 10:54:19 · answer #1 · answered by zippythejessi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My mom and I were pregnant together, actually her grand daughter is 2 weeks older than her son. My feelings get a little hurt sometimes, because I was adopted, and when my mom is asked if her baby boy is her first, she says that he is the first she had naturally. It just kind of hurts my feelings a bit. But as far as the age gap, I can't really say anything about that, there are 22 years and 7 months difference between my new brother and I, I don't know if he will feel lonely, but I know that as an only child, I wasn't lonely. I think that your teenagers will be fine with it, I am fine with my mom and the baby. Good luck.
2006-09-25 12:33:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am the oldest of 5. When my mom delivered her 3rd child I was 12, 4th child I was 14, and 5th child I was 17. I really did enjoy it when my mom had my brothers, I got to help raise them. (Plus, I just really love babies.)
Since then, my mom has gotten pregnant twice and miscarried twice. The second time was when I was 22 and pregnant with my own child. I was still excited, but it did feel a little bit weird that my possible new sibling would have been born after my own and would have been an aunt or uncle as soon as they were born. Kind of like the Father of the Bride II.
But I think that they will having a little one to dote on. I know that once we had my first brother, my sister and I stopped fighting as much.
2006-09-25 11:02:02 · answer #3 · answered by galec777 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who has a huge age-gap between her and her siblings. The only thing she mentioned is, she didn't really get to know her siblings growing up. Your oldest kids will be out of college, maybe married with kids before this new baby even gets to high school. So your new baby may probably feel like he/she is an only child!
2006-09-25 11:00:13 · answer #4 · answered by stuckinamoment 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Basically, you are having an only child. Your older children will probably be fine but be sure not to push any of the day to day care and responsibility off on them or they may resent the new sibling. I have a friend who had the same situation and she used the older child as a baby sitter- he can't stand the new sibling or his mom anymore. You will have lots of time for this new baby but remember to keep her/him in playgroups or well socialized so he/she isn't lonely. Good Luck
2006-09-25 10:59:48 · answer #5 · answered by therealprinsess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had my older two when I was in my 20's...NEVER thought in a million years...I'd be the parent of not one but 2 new children..(second marriage!)...
My daughter was 11 yrs old and my oldest son, was 9 yrs old...when Adam was born...he was born a day BEFORE my daughter turned 12...so they are 11 yrs and a day apart...THEN...I gave birth to Joey...almost 3 yrs later...they were SOOOO excited..cause they adore Adam and now Joey...
THe fact that they are almost OUT of the house at this age..(almost 18!) by the time the "BABY" is old enough to understand about the older children.. they will be in and out of the house so often...it will be natural!
2006-09-25 11:49:34 · answer #6 · answered by just me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My baby brother is 18 years younger than me. I had already moved out by the time he was born. It's like a different generation all together, almost like I am his aunt.
2006-09-25 11:00:17 · answer #7 · answered by withallthesethings 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
im 14 and ilove having my lil bro around...he's 2 and my lil sis is 8months. i love it
2006-09-25 11:24:37 · answer #8 · answered by MoRgAn<3 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋