How long does it take to completely know some one before getting married to?

Answer 1

I believe it is hard to TRULY know someone...you may know lots and lots about them, but I think you are always learning more about them as time goes on.

Answer 2

You will never completally know someone. You can however love and trust them. Marriage isn't about knowing it's all right. It's more about being able to understand that you and this person have an agreement to work together towards a common goal for the rest of your lives. That means you may not necasarily need to know everything about them but you should know that you love them and they love you, you both have to love eachother enough to understand that you want to be partners in working through this life together. Marriage makes it you against the world. Plus if I knew every detail about someone what would the fun be. Oh yeah one more thing even if you know weverything about someone they will be completally different in two years so maybe you should think about how you and this person grow together rather than how much you know about them. If they grow in a way that you don't like for a year or two are you willing to wait until they snap out of it. That is through thick and thin right. Better or worse, most people come out of wierd mode in a year or so and in a marriage you will both not like eachother at times. I think these are the things my generation doesn't understand today I am 21. Marriage is not something you can just get over it is a life long commitment to another person. Please use your own head and be smart. I hope I helped have a good day.

Answer 3

Getting to know your partner is a lifelong experience. When you get married, you're committing to continue to get to know this person for the rest of your life.

Unfortunately, you can never completely know someone, so you can never be completely sure that a marriage will work. And it also seems that the older you are, the less time it can take to figure out if you're truly compatible with someone, because your personalities are a little more stable. But even then, people change.

Getting married is one of the biggest risks you can take in your life (having children is probably the only thing that is riskier). With that in mind, it's a good idea to really take your time getting to know someone. There are lots of people in this world who say they regret getting married too soon. There aren't a whole lot of people who regret waiting too long to marry.

It took my fiance and I well over a year for us to feel good about getting engaged. There may be extenuating circumstances, but in most situations I think it's wise to wait at least a year. If you're under 25, I'd wait even longer, because you're still doing some growing up and finding yourself.

Answer 4

Talk. Talk lots and lots before you get married. Talk about everything---good and bad. Tell the other person all the bad things about you, and if they still want to marry you then it is probably ok. But be honest! If you are scared to scare them away, then they arent right for you.

I married my husband after I knew him for only a few months. We've been happily married for years. But we talked. We knew all the good, bad and whatever about each other before we got married so there werent any surprises. All marriages have problems and issues that need to be worked out. Limit the number of problems you will have after you are married by discussing things before hand.

Things you must know about your partner before getting married:
1. Where do you see yourself in 10 years
2. How do you feel about having children? How many? When? How far apart?
3. What are your values on child raising?
4. What are things that you can never give up? (ie: my husband loves racing bikes. I just have to deal with this because he can never give it up)
5. How would your partner feel about moving to a new city for you job?
6. What if you travelled for business?
7. What are your values and spiritual beliefs?
8. What (if any) long-term or congenital diseases do you and your partner have and how will they affect your future life?
9. What if one or both of you loose your jobs/financial security? How will your partner react? What will you do?

See..you have lots to discuss.

Answer 5

If you wait until your knowledge of someone is complete. You will be dead before the marriage. You like everyone else can only marry and hope you know enough, the rest will come as time goes on. You will learn a great deal about your partner but not everything.
Daddy Dave

Answer 6

Well, i believe it's different for different people. I was married before and we were together 2 1/2 years before we married and we stayed married 2 1/2 more years but then we divorced. I've known and been with my now fiance for 1 year and we are about to marry in 2 weeks. We are great togeher. So, i think when you feel comfortable enough.

Answer 7

as the majority have told you , you may never completely know a person. We each have our own mind, and unless you have superpowers you won't be able to read his. tyr not to presume what he is thinking ,as it will be a shock to learn that he feels /thinks differently. people do change ,so what you know for a certainty today ,might not be the same person in 5 or 10 years time.

basically if you have a good guy, you know it. things to worry about is whether he has a short fuse ,alchohol or drug problems, how he treats other people and whether he accepts you as you are. if you know he is not lacking in those aspects , then you know him pretty well. if you know what you are expecting from marriage, you should discuss these issues with him, to get his opinions , such as when and if you want children, how much independance you both require from each other and how finances will be dealt with. good luck and don't worry about being cautious , it shows that you are level headed, instead of rushing in.

Answer 8

I have known my husband for 27 years, been married to him for almost 22 of those years and I can honestly say I still don't know everything about him completely, you never can because you remember things all the time and it can take a lifetime to tell someone about them.

Answer 9

well i can say for me once a year hit i knew if that person was the person i wanted to be with for the rest of my life.but ever one is really diffrent there really is no answer it is all on you.i do by a year you really know a lot of stuff about a person to see if that is who you want to be with.i have been with the man i am going to be married to in 2008 for 3 years and he ask me to marry him last christmas and and had been dating for 2 years.but like i said ever one is diffrent i still learn some thing new a least once a week about my man.so you may never know when you know some one to get married to all i can really say do what your heart says your heart will tell you that is what i did.i hope i answer your question

Answer 10

you are still getting to know them all your life. you get a pretty good running start though the first year or so. I would date them for at least a year then take a year long engagement. THEN actually go through with the wedding to make sure I actually knew them so that would be a total of two years from the time we met from first meeting to wedding date so I'd probably know them pretty well. I'd hope this would be a friend, as well.

Answer 11

I don't think you can ever completely know someone . we all have things that we think about in private and wouldn't want anyone else to know. on the other hand. i think you know if you have found the right person for you. why do you want to marry anyway . cant you just live together . then if it doesn't work out you will save yourself a whole lot of cash