My cousin alex is gettinf married and he never has time for me anymore he is always w/his wife he has forgotten completly about me ever since his girl fiance has come in his life he has forgot bout me he has only spoken to me in 4 years only once!There getting married and if I go to there wedding then They won't notice me noone gives me any attention I am all alone my cousin alex was always there for me I bet if I go to his wedding he won't notice me then what is the piont of giong he's not giong to notice me!I bet if I didn't go then he won't even notice what to do!! e-mail me at lil_miss278764@yahoo.com
2006-09-25 10:27:35 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
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2006-09-25 10:37:23 · answer #1 · answered by ♥qiqqleszxbaybeeh ! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow...sounds to me like you need to get out and meet some more people! It's not very healthy to have only one person as a friend in your life, because things like this happen.
First things first, though -- go to the wedding. I know it'll mean a lot to your cousin. And if they have dollar dances (where people at the reception can dance with the bride or groom for a dollar) be sure to get in line! Tell your cousin how happy for him you are and that you miss the time you used to spend together -- but emphasize that you are happy for him. Not everyone is lucky enough to find a special someone.
Then you seriously need to take some time to go out into the world and meet some folks. Go out there and get involved in some groups with the sameinterests as you. Join some clubs and/or a church. Get more people into your life so that the next time something like this happens (because it will), you have lots of people in your life to distract you and keep you busy.
2006-09-25 17:38:09 · answer #2 · answered by Lauren L 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are times throughout our lives when new doors are opened for us. This is one of those times in your cousin's life; the door of marriage and a new family has opened, and he is beginning a new chapter of his life.
It seems like the two of you are close, and for the sake of your friendship, perhaps you should try to see that this is a very happy and exciting time for him and his fiance. Rather than focus on your need for his attention and recognition, be happy for the love that he has found and know that your relationship with your cousin will always be there, even after the wedding is over.
2006-09-25 18:43:19 · answer #3 · answered by crazytxbride 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, if he's only spoken to you once in 4 years, it sounds like he actually hasn't been there for you in quite a while.
If you've been invited to his wedding, then obviously they've thought about you, and I'm sure he'd be happy to have you there. You should make a point of saying hello and congratulations. But don't expect anyone to make a big fuss over you - this is his wedding, and everyone will be focussed on them.
2006-09-25 19:34:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your problem. And at the wedding if he does not seem to notice you it will because it ALL ABOUT THEM DAY.You need to visit with him before the wedding, with the feeling you have it will only cause tension between you two and you will never retain that closeness again. You are going to have to grow up. Sorry to be tough on you, but that is what will happen.
2006-09-25 17:39:18 · answer #5 · answered by shortansassy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why you are in dire need of all your cousins' attention. First of all, it's not your wedding, secondly, your cousin seems to have a life so you should get one as well! It's rather pathetic you don't want to go to your cousin's wedding just because you want to be noticed.
2006-09-25 18:00:07 · answer #6 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go to the wedding. Tell him how you feel that it bothers you that he doesn't talk to you anymore. Maybe you can work things out.
Good Luck!
2006-09-25 18:45:31 · answer #7 · answered by poohbaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get some time with him and talk to him but on the flip side you need to understand that he is in a new place that you are at yet. He's in a place that he is adding someone to his house (his family) and right now, he's totally wrapped up in that. I'm sure you are seeing that. So he's gonna be busy for a while.but he still needs to pay attention to you and other people. I hope you like his wife to be because she's gonna be around. You need to go and celebrate his marriage because when things even out and Alex finally chills out and you really get a chance to know his wife and you discover you like her and you still love alex, you'll regret not having gone. I know you are angry at him for ignoring you.
you really need to sit him down and work out the problems. it sounds like you need to schedule some you and alex time. Alex needs time with his fiancee but he's totally letting responsibility to be with his family go to be with her. it's good for the potential to marriage but bad for the relationships he currently has. it means the marriage has a pretty good shot at working. but he still needs to invest in all of you because you are still there. try instituting a family game night and invite the young lady as well. and then have a girls nite in (no, alex is NOT invited) and then have the guys have a guys night out and then a couples night where your parents get together with alex and his fiancee. the point is to get alex and his fiancee to bond with the entire family instead of being off by themselves. also get the kids and alex and the fiancee (we'll call her jill fior this yahoo answers) to go out and do stuff. go to a science museum one week, or an amusement park the next week, errand running the next week with loads of talking and really find out what they are all about just stuff you guys like to do. it alex and jill time. you also need one on one time with alex and one on one time with jill since she is joining your family. I say you need the time with jill because you are so close to alex. resenting jill is a bad idea because alex LOVES her. it doesn't mean he loves you any less it's just that he has a different type of relationship with you than he does with her. he loves her in the husband wife way whereas he loves you in the cousin way and he loves hs mom in the mother son way and those are three completely different types of relationships and THAT is why jill isn't a threat. He willl spend most of his time with jill because she is the most importnat person in his life because the wife will trump every relationhip, even the mother. mother will come second. but as the little buddy/cousin, you'll still be high on his totem pole of people to hang with when jill and his mom aren't available. a good example is kirk camereron (cause I keep picturing him as alex for some reason.) think about alex an DJ from full house. the episode where Kirk comes back and completely ignores DJ to roughhouse with the guys. The situation is a littl different but I bet some of the feelings are the same. I'm posting the link. Kirk had left all geeky, but he was DJ's buddy, and come back all well, kirk. so DJ gets mad and treats him bad and she tried to hang but he ignores her. So he is compeltely cluesless and finally clues in and her dad talks to her and then kirk talks to her and then they finally get a clue (men can be SO clueless!) and once the great mess is straightened out kirk realizes that he's made terrible mistake by totally ignoring DJ and that she's been putting all the effort into their relationship and he's just been running off to join her dad. He ends up going ice skating with her and things get back on track.
My point is they had to communicate. Your'e not going ot get anywhere if you don't commuicate.
I do have some good news for you though. One day, in the distanct future (depending onyour age, which I'm guessing to be 14) you ae going to enter the same stage that alex is at. you are going to be so enamoured with someone and you are going to want to be in the same family with THEM! Yes, sweetie! you know all the crazy stuff he's doing? It's gonna happen to you! LOL! It's called love. And you're gonna like it! Alex found it first because he is older. And it's normal. But he needs to balance it. I hope this answer helps you out!
2006-09-25 23:05:00 · answer #8 · answered by leeanndemon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go. WHen u see him by him self go and talk to him rush threw the crowd!!!!!! U have to squish in whenever there r too
2006-09-25 17:32:36 · answer #9 · answered by da202101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU must get over it. things happen. You have time now to look for your Mr. Right.
2006-09-25 17:38:25 · answer #10 · answered by Sugar 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋