If I go, that means I have to take a day off of work and miss pay all for some lady I don't know. I feel bad and I know I should be there for my boyfriend, he wants me to go and meet some other family members as well, but I don't want to. Should I just suck it up and go or how should I tell my boyfriend in a nice way that Im not going?
2006-09-25 10:26:13 · 13 answers · asked by Cat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
After reading this I wanted to clarify a few things... He has never mentioned this aunt before and just found out she passed. Also, I have missed a few days of work previous because my daughter was sick so I feel that I may be pushing it with work. I have no problem meeting family but Im just not comfortable going to a funeral to do so. Im not really trying to be cold or mean. I care about my boyfriend, but I just dont feel like I should sacrifice work for someone I don't know
2006-09-25 10:46:26 · update #1
it is understanding that you do not feel confertable losing the money but he also needs your support for the death of his family member. You need to decide what is important your unconfertable feelings or his need for you to be there for him. If you choose to not go it may tell him you do not care and may make a difference in your relationship. This is up to you.
2006-09-25 10:32:38 · answer #1 · answered by susan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would mean alot to hinm if u were there with him PLUS he wants u to meet the rest of his family. Thats a big thing because many women would feel bad if they 're bf had a family matter and didn't include her. So if he ask that u go to be with im then u should because after all a family member dead and Im sure he's hurt over it, I know u don't know the lady but u know him and he wants u to be there with him.
Think about it for a moment if were u and something happen and u wanted him to be by ur side and he said no because ( whatever reason) if would hurt u that he would think enough of u and ur relationship to be with u even if it wasn't much or nothing he could do but just be there in support for u.
Asking u to go to a family funeral and meet the family is a big thing in relationships.If u feel anything for him u will take off and be with ur man.
2006-09-25 14:36:04 · answer #2 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was close to this aunt and he wants some emotional support then thats one thing, if he's only wanting you to meet his family then that can happen during the holidays. If it weren't for the missing work and pay I'd say go but I do understand that missing work and pay is a big sacrifice just to meet his family when you can meet them at some other time under more pleasent circumstances.
2006-09-25 10:34:36 · answer #3 · answered by Tower of T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm so sorry on your loss. It could be a detrimental feeling to lose a toddler, i won't be in a position to even start to think of the discomfort you're feeling. i think of out of those 3, As I Lay Me Down is the main suitable decision. Ut is approximately dying, and being so close that dying isn't any impediment. i would not propose the different 2 in spite of the indisputable fact that. different songs that are stable are: one million. One candy Day - Mariah Carey/Boyz 2 adult males. 2. You develop Me Up - Westlife. 3. Tears in Heaven - Eric Clapton.
2016-10-01 08:48:48 · answer #4 · answered by spies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants you to go to his aunts funeral to meet the family? I know I would not want to meet new people at a family members funeral. It would be awkward for everyone. Just tell him the things you said here, and offer to meet the family during the upcoming holidays.
2006-09-25 18:45:36 · answer #5 · answered by blindfredd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love your boyfriend? Do you consider marrying him? If so, then just go.
Not going will send a clear message that he doesn't mean that much to you.
This isn't about the aunt. It's about him wanting to get more family oriented with you.
If you don't go and use that lame excuse of missing 1 day of work then you are sending a negative message. If you keep on behaving that way, you will lose him.
2006-09-25 10:34:17 · answer #6 · answered by rick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it will put your job in jepardy , that's one thing but "not wanting to go" is a poor excuse. That's what a relationship is...being there for each other not just for the good things but the tough times, too. If you pass on this one, don't expect him to be there for you at some point when you ask him to be.It sounds like it's important to him to have you there beside him. He's reaching out to you. I think the right thing to do is to be selfless this time and be there for him.
2006-09-25 12:02:52 · answer #7 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants you to meet his family, that's a good sign, but you might tell him you don't feel comfortable meeting them in the context of a funeral. Personally, it's seems a bit tacky for him to want to introduce you that way.
2006-09-25 10:28:42 · answer #8 · answered by live2ride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta decide if you wanna be there for your boyfriend or get some extra pay.
I'm sure there'll be another time you can get that pay but the funeral means a lot to your boyfriend and I think you should be there for him because if you were in his shoes I think you'd want him to be there for you too.
But it's up to you-you can get the pay or you can be there for your boyfriend who really needs you.
2006-09-25 10:35:32 · answer #9 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how long u've been w/him. Did he put this aunt in high reguards?? If you can afford to b there 4 him. If not, send flowers on your behalf, there will be other family reunions other than in a time of mourning.
2006-09-25 10:33:13 · answer #10 · answered by carmella.2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋