Well, after a few terrifying pregnancy scares, i've been thinking that my bf and I need to stop having sex until we are in better places in our lives, hopefully married, or at the very least, able to afford a child. I know that it's going to be hard for both of us to do this, but I honestly think it's probably the best thing for us to do....at least until we are more equipped to handle the consequences of sex. What's the best way to tell him? Do you feel that it would be wrong to have done it all this time, and then all of the sudden, start depriving him?
2006-09-25 10:25:14 · 19 answers · asked by LibraT 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I do know birth control is an option, and it's an option I do use. However, birth control fails, and i'm just getting too paranoid with it all. By the way, he has also mentioned stopping before, because he knows that neither of us are ready for kids...but, we never took that option before.
2006-09-25 10:31:11 · update #1
Being protected is totally better than any unplanned pregnancy. Since you are using birthcontrol and you still feel paranoid talk to a gynecologist and ask him or her to recommend the most effective birth control. You need to be informed correctly not just by hear say. Speak to some kind of a doctor and ask as many questions to make you feel comfortable with your birth control. On the other hand your true feelings about having sex might have come out with those pregnancy scares. You might have not been ready and did it anyways to please you boyfriend. If you had sex and are now having regrets you don't have to keep on having sex just because your boyfriend will feel deprived. If he loves you he will understand you and your feelings just tell him the truth
2006-09-25 10:38:23 · answer #1 · answered by joanna1_84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you just typed should be enough. Tell him just that and seew what he says. If you are so terrified of pregnancy then why are you still have sex with out an condom and birth control pills.
I'm going to tell you just like I tell my friends
if you go near the water with no shoes on your feet will get wet.. If you dont want them to get wet stay away from the water...
Understand.... if you are old enoough to have sex then you should be old enough to know how to talk to one...... You two should be mature enough to handle a conversation or an issue that risies in the realtionship
2006-09-25 10:32:34 · answer #2 · answered by Tee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is your body and you need to do what is best for you. I think you need to sit him down and tell him that while you enjoy the intimacy aspect of your relationship, you feel that you two have rushed into things really fast and now you need time to analize the situation. Tell him that is not a no to him, or in any way a rejection and that you are still his girl but you want time for you two to establish a more solid relationship before you continue the sexual part of it. If he loves you he will be completly supportive, if he is not then you are better off finding out now than before you acually got pregnant.
2006-09-25 10:30:19 · answer #3 · answered by confusedpatricia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of withholding sex get birth control pills or condoms. I understand that you don't want to be pregnant at a young age and you want to be financially stable. Definitely think about going to the doctor and getting put on birth control. Good Luck!
2006-09-25 10:31:42 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya maybe ure just too guilty with unwanted pregnancies.... The guys will never understand it.... U were thr all the time for him, u wanted to do it n stuff coz u like it too, but when such stuff happens u really start feeling weird.... Talking to the doctor is a good advise.... Maybe stoppin wont help, as its too difficult.... discuss this with him, ask him wot u'll can do... he needs 2 understand wot u're goin thru, n not think that ure just too emotional or sumthing
2006-09-25 11:31:30 · answer #5 · answered by dd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tread carefully. You have been giving it to him all this time and NOW you want to take it way. Don't think he will like that much. Besides, haven't you heard of all the birth control that there is out there, now a days.
2006-09-25 10:28:49 · answer #6 · answered by oddbutterfly1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you against using protection or you just not interested in sex ? There are still ways you guys can continue on without that big of a drastic change.
2006-09-25 10:32:00 · answer #7 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's fair to withhold sex like that.
Actually I think it's pretty crazy, and I'd dump any boyfriend or girlfriend of mine who tried to do it.
Why don't you just go on the pill, or get an IUD, or use the ring, or begin using some other form of contraception, in addition to condoms?
2006-09-25 10:28:44 · answer #8 · answered by Emily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you guys just be really careful with birth control and condoms and all of that stuff.
2006-09-25 10:27:29 · answer #9 · answered by im_just_me_612 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think anything is wrong. just tell him you want to have the relationship revolve around other things too. like going place...traveling...or doing other things than just having sex.
2006-09-25 10:30:08 · answer #10 · answered by AdioSurfChick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋