I've been out with a guy a couple of times, and we enjoy each other's company. Should I sleep with him on the 4th or 5th date, or wait until later?
2006-09-25 10:22:17 · 43 answers · asked by x_filequeen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
stay in school. don't do it.
2006-09-25 10:26:16 · answer #1 · answered by ♫ sf_ca ღ 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Later! Much later!!! Having sex with someone whom you are not in a truly committed relationship with can be risky. What if you get pregnant? What if he's sleeping with other women and brings home a disease.
I hate to sound old fashioned, but I'd wait till you are married or, at the very least, engaged. Wait until you are really sure of each other and trust each other. Otherwise, you are just f***ing like mindless animals, and that does nothing to add value to your life.
2006-09-25 10:22:50 · answer #2 · answered by dualspace 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
most guys will dump you if you haven't slept with them (or any other type of sexual activity) within 3 dates.
Its really up to you as to when you decide to do it. I know in about a minute if I will or will not sleep with someone.. so its all a matter of timeing...
I have on occasion done it on the first, second, and third date.... not usually but occasionally... most the time its around 6 or 7 that we get around to sleeping... but some fooling around from 2-6 - progressing a little at a time....
2006-09-25 10:27:18 · answer #3 · answered by .... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should sleep with him when you feel the time is right. I think too much stress is put on following some sort of number system, like "No kissing on the first date, but the second date is okay." If you want to sleep with him, and he wants to sleep with you, then go for it. If you're two consenting adults who understand the possible consequences of your actions, then you're free to sleep with each other when you feel like it. That's one of the perks of being a grown up! Good luck.
2006-09-25 10:24:37 · answer #4 · answered by spanishmarlena 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That should be something spontaneous, not something prefigured.
If it is done by a formula, that's nothing but game playing.
If you feel like it on the first date, do it. If you don't feel like it after 10 dates even, then don't.
Society just puts up rules, you have to decide what's right for YOU. No one else can (or should)!
2006-09-25 10:24:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully, most guys just want to sleep with someone. After they get what they want, they will move on. They really don't look into consideration of the other person. Believe me, I know. I used to do the same thing. Then, one day, I started thinking about what the other person felt, and how I could have ruined their lives. I think that if you want to sleep with him, you should really make sure of what his intentions are. That will most likely take time, so my suggestion is to wait.
2006-09-25 10:26:26 · answer #6 · answered by Joshua B 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wait until whatever date you feel comfortable. But make it at the same time that his favorite football team is playing. If he is willing to miss his entire football game without dvr'ing or taping it (assuming the feat would last that long), then you know you're in like flint.
2006-09-25 10:25:03 · answer #7 · answered by Tom S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
their is no specific time for sleeping with someone it is when you feel comfortable doing it and him too, if you both feel like it do it just be careful and make sure you know about each others activity just be safe about it so another words if you want to go ahead have some fun if then its alright to wait,
2006-09-25 10:27:29 · answer #8 · answered by andrea c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are not set rules. Usually it is best to wait to get to know someone to be sure enough that you want to be intimate with them.
Sometimes you can know someone very quickly and know they're the one. Sometimes people can be deceiving. It would definitely be good to talk to people that know this person. Get to know who someone is and what kind of life they have before you share such an intimate part of your life.
2006-09-25 10:31:10 · answer #9 · answered by danaluana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your ages. In any case, some wouldn't wait until the 2nd date, others wouldn't give it up until much later.
We won't be there to undo any mistakes you make, only you can answer that question for you. Just be prepared for any negative consequences.
2006-09-25 10:25:02 · answer #10 · answered by live2ride 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i love this question being asked by my female friends. How should I know?!? I do not know you nor him. do what you feel. only you know when the time is right. do not pop the guy too soon. it is good to have really emotins, when he gives you orgasmic kisses, the time is right. some men can really kiss like that:) it is also important he has feelings for you, so it wont be just sex. it really depends how you see this guy for sex only or serious relationship. good luck!
2006-09-25 10:29:47 · answer #11 · answered by pikapoka 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋