We are in our early 30s and we were having an awesome relationship that lasted 6 months. At the beginning I broke up with her since she was going FAST and I asked her to be back together and we did, we did good for months until we started to have missunderstandinds because of her mood changes, I was not doing anything intentionaly. I broke up again on month 6, 3 weeks later I was missing her terrible and once again I wanted to talk with her to see if we can find a better solution other than just break up for silly things, she didn't want to do it, I tried for 2 months and couldn't have her back but she didn't want to let me go oficially but she was going out with her friends. Everything came to an end since I couldn't handle that undecision to take me or leave me. When we were officially separate, almost a month later she called me to ask a silly question and also tell me that she was missing me.
2006-09-25 10:09:05 · 26 answers · asked by livingthe30s 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By then I was not expecting any call and I was trying to recover since it was HARD for me. She said she was missing me and then wanted to take that back. I don't understand why she did that. I know that by not contacting her I am helping myself on recovering sooner, and also and here is my question in that if I want her, what I don't have to do is being in a hot persuit like I was during those 2 months that I didn't get anything. Does it sound smart for me to not to call her if what I want is to have her back or I should try to reach her?
2006-09-25 10:11:18 · update #1
Let her go, it is all head games with her.
2006-09-25 10:13:17 · answer #1 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Sorry. Too much water under the bridge. Trust is really important. Breaking up and reconciling repeatedly doesn't predict doom though. Been there. And married him. He's the most wonderful man in the world and my best friend....it was worth figuring each other out.
Watch out for drama patterns though! Maybe you guys are addicted to the making up part! It can be an intense rush! But it's not easy on the frienship. Take it slow when you get nervous about her indecision. Don't jump up and dump her so you can play the makeup game. Once we realized thats what we were doing and discussed it, we stopped and focused on our friendship. It grew from there. Hope that helps!
2006-09-25 17:18:34 · answer #2 · answered by B*Family 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if the two of you may be getting addicted to game playing in your relationship of "Come here - Go away". If is a difficult and painful place to be in a relationship and could go on for years with no conclusion, if you allow it to.
The two of you need to sit down and have a long talk about what you both want in a relationship and what you are willing to accept and not accept. You might even consider third party counseling.
Remember, it is a lot easier and less painful to let go than it is to hold on.
2006-09-25 17:20:47 · answer #3 · answered by danaluana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems tome that you are the one who cant seem to make up his mind...I think after a while women hate to wait to see if a man wants to be with her (same goes for men)! But i get the impression that you have mixed feelings you dont know what you want out of a relationship. Since you are the one who calls it quits all the time. So jus to give you a tip if your ex-girlfriend is going out with her friends that gives her more options whether or not she wants to be in a relationship or just have her fun with friends. Of course if you have been together for a while then you will always think of her. Reason she took so long to decide if she wants to be with you or could be that she is happy going out with friends, but part of her wants to be with you as well...
She will always miss you as well! If you are serious about wanting to be with her call her...Let her know that you are willing to do what ever it takes, even counciling could help..Good Luck! :)
2006-09-25 17:17:19 · answer #4 · answered by raiderfanmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for only a week, in a week a woman can go through almost every single state of mind and mood, if none of that make her call you, call her in exactly 7 days, when both have had time to think it through. I'm not saying it's gonna work this time, but both will enjoy a reconciliation, which will make both of ya happy at least for a while. It might work, it might not, but that's love.
2006-09-25 17:26:28 · answer #5 · answered by Mossespa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her, you should call. I think you both need to work on the relationship and stop breaking up instead work toward a resolution. ALL relationships have problems, and no two people are perfect. The difference is HOW you handle your differences and how you work out your problems. Communicate and work together and you could have a long loving relationship. Good Luck!! xoxoxo "Happily Married"
2006-09-25 17:20:35 · answer #6 · answered by niclovesjeremy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"She's just not that into you"
I've also found that what problems there were before will just come back. So what you broke up with her about....she still has those tendencies and habits. What was wrong will never become right the second time (or third).
Go through the grieving process and move on.
2006-09-25 17:13:30 · answer #7 · answered by gizbit76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dude...if u 2 have strong feelings than put the silly stuff behind and look at the bright future...nobody is perfect nor is any match...small differences are to b found in any relationship...trust me i gave away everything to find the "perfect" one but it is not possible...now all depends on how much both of you are ready to give up and give into the relationship.
2006-09-25 17:13:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way you will get over this is to fill this void. whether dating someone new or hanging with Friends. oh and by the way, when dating someone new do not use the new girl for a sounding board to talk about the old girl. ladies am i right.
2006-09-25 17:13:10 · answer #9 · answered by fasteddie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just let it go the both of u. U can already see what directions your relationship will go. Save yourselves the headaches and hurt from all the breakups to make ups
2006-09-25 17:13:36 · answer #10 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lady in 30s has so many mood swings just give her space and be friends awhile and go out
2006-09-25 17:13:14 · answer #11 · answered by buggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋