see, i like this guy and we are very close, but he is my best friends cousin. i dont want to go out with him if im going to ruin my friend ship. this guy i like is realy cute, funny, and we like each other very much. my friend knows he likes me, but she dont know that i like him. can u help me?
2006-09-25 10:07:51 · 8 answers · asked by Kaitie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
not knowing you - i don't know how honest of a person you are. i can only suggest based on what i believe is the best thing and assuming you are a very honest person. first of all, why wouldn't you tell your friend that you are attracted to him? i would think that would be a good thing to do. you don't have to say you want him for the rest of your life and you can't live w/out him...just say that you are attracted to him. she is aware that he is attracted to you so it should run quite smoothly. the other thing is how long have you known him? keep in mind that a lot of great and long term relationships were developed whenever the two people meat through family and/or close friends. you already have things in common being that you are involved w/their family.
i don't know why you would first be asking that you don't want to ruin your friendship. why would you think that? why not think that
it might be a great relationship? you are already starting to think on a negative rather than a positive. if that was my best friend and knowing how honest of a person i am, i would certainly tell her that i am also attracted to the cousin and that you can tell that he is also attacted to you and that you would be interested in going out with him. she is either gonna 'be there' for you and give you the 'go-ahead' or she might bring you add'l info on him about his past and then tell you it's not a good idea. i don't know - but, nevertheless, if she is not for you guys going out with each other, understand the reason she is telling you that and if it's not a bad thing about him, then use your own judgement and follow your heart.....but, always, always, be watching w/your brain. good luck. by the way, i don't know her, but, i sense that she would be happy knowing that her best friend is hooked up w/her cousin. it's sweet. bye.
2006-09-25 10:21:16 · answer #1 · answered by sheshe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.. id say
ask ur friend
if its okay with her
tell her something along the lines of... "i dont want to do anything to jepordize our friendship, so thats why i came to you first... i have a crush on ur cousin, do you think it would be ok if we went out?"
something like that
2006-09-25 10:13:11 · answer #2 · answered by Nick723 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will not ruin yur frndship hw doeds it matter to her
n u can always go out as frnds
2006-09-25 10:12:15 · answer #3 · answered by Angad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out as friends,
2006-09-25 10:09:47 · answer #4 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your best friend and ask her what she thinks, if shes really your best friend, she wont mind
2006-09-25 10:14:16 · answer #5 · answered by highonunicorns 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres no reason u shouldnt go out wit him
2006-09-25 10:11:51 · answer #6 · answered by baby gurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it. its a safe situation. see where it goes, surely it wont go too badly... unless he is the axe murderer or chucky...
2006-09-25 10:12:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure ,but only if he asks you out.
2006-09-25 10:10:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋