I am in a relationship where I am so much in love ..Things seems wonderful , but I am suffering in the relationship because things might not work because of different belief ...She has me to convert ...I am not feelign comfortable with her belief, but yet she wants me in ..I love her so much that I can't move on ...I'm in a total state of ambivalence since a couple of months searchign for options, leave, stay and try to save the relationship, convert without being comfortable ...what do you think about that ..?
She said if I don't convert, things migtht be impossible to continue ..but I'm stuck by love , I can't move on ..
2006-09-25 10:02:13 · 8 answers · asked by bobby s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are both that much in love neither one of you would have to be forced to convert to anything.Your beliefs are what makes you who you are.Don't lose your identity.
2006-09-25 10:10:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...you're in a bit of a pickle. I am curious as to what your individual beliefs are. It's said that you both can't hold onto your own rather than converting, but then if down the road the two of you decide to have kids, the issue will once again be brought up. If you are not comfortable, I advise you to not convert because if you were to do so, it could cause you to become very resentful of her over time. And for her to basically give you an ultimatum is not right either.
2006-09-25 10:05:39 · answer #2 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she cant expect u to give up on what u believe,i mean u dont expect that from her eather..ask her why she has such a big problem with u having not the same believe..the love between u and her should not break because of that,nothing should ever be in a way of two people who love eatch other...
and u should tell her that.but u should also think about what u will do when she still wants u to convert..i mean think about it if u love her so much that u would convert for her!!
good luck
2006-09-25 10:18:22 · answer #3 · answered by starlight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As I comprehend your question it extremely is: How is it achievable to choose for to not have confidence? Isnt that comparable to figuring out to not choose for, devoid of figuring out? An sensible individual can concurrently carry 2 collectively unique concepts of their thoughts on an identical time. only considering you carry something on your thoughts would not symbolize a determination to stick, and perceive your self with that concept, and cope with that concept as an extension of your self. protecting a psychological thought isn't comparable to an emotional dedication. you are able to think of approximately being in love with 2 women human beings devoid of unquestionably being in love with the two. you are able to wish you have been in love with somebody, yet not have the means to make your self love them. a extreme existence-long non secular determination is a undertaking of the top AND of the midsection. you may make a determination head, coronary heart, the two yet not neither. Your coronary heart can have confidence whilst your head doesnt... you're in for a great number of guilt after the actuality of your movements. Your head can have confidence whilst your coronary heart doesnt wherein case you're in for some superficiality, contrivance, and sadness, or you are able to have confidence with the two your head and coronary heart... wherein case you ought to additionally pray that reality and faith coincide. whilst they dont theres sadness, and whilst they do there is a few shape and intending to existence. Its ok in case you dont prefer existence to have meaning in case you do not have confidence. not being believed has by no skill stopped the actuality from being genuine, only from being acted upon.
2016-10-01 08:48:12 · answer #4 · answered by spies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to go with what you believe, if you do what she wants and you convert, you may be miserable the rest of your life,
2006-09-25 10:04:40 · answer #5 · answered by rich2481 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
convert to what
2006-09-25 10:04:03 · answer #6 · answered by megamom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't sacrifice your religion unless you have a change in beliefs.
2006-09-25 10:04:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him
2006-09-25 10:04:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋