Why does my boyfriend prefer to masterbate to porn on the net then make love to me sometimes? Please help, I am having problems accepting it. He is totally infactuated with me and has been for a long time before we even started dating, but why the need to masterbate when I am more than willing to make love on a regular basis??
2006-09-25 09:45:19 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sometimes we as men just need to masturbate for the pure pleasure of it along with our imaginations. Certain things men fantasize about that we can't fantasize about when we make love to our girlfriends. I don't think my girlfriend would want me to fantasize about something when making love to her. We both want to concentrate on each other and enjoy each other only. Men as human beings are different than women in that way. We constantly think about sex even if it is unconsciously. Masturbating in no way means that we don't love our girlfriend or that we enjoy masturbating more than making love to our girlfriend. It is just that we need both. My girlfriend is OK with it and sometimes watches me and helps me and that is really something to experience.
2006-09-25 09:54:38 · answer #1 · answered by Bogie Boy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My guess is your boyfriend started this habit before dating you and has continued. He might be shy on this subject or think that a female has a less sex drive. My guess is he might not understand what a "regular basis" for you is. You should probably talk with him about this. Or maybe watch some porn with him and show him how much better you are in person! The best way to stop a habit is incentives. Give him coupons for sexual acts.
2006-09-25 10:04:14 · answer #2 · answered by Mark S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't take it too hard. The key word here is sometimes. If it's a lot...yes worry. Once and a while, don't sweat it. Why not sweat it? Think about it using yourself. Wouldn't, or isn't it, nice sometimes to be able to give yourself pleasure and not have to worry about anything or anyone else while doing it? I know it sounds greedy, but it's natural. No worries if there other person is being gratified, no worries if your breath is okay, no distractions from your pleasure and no one else to please. Sound like something you have felt yourself? I thought so. Me too.
Now, if BF is always playing to porn solo, that's a problem beyond the scope of this writing. Good Luck
2006-09-25 09:51:40 · answer #3 · answered by Thomas 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
probably because he's too afraid to ask you to do the freaky stuff he watches in porno's. He doesn't know how to initiate his desires to you, so he takes the easy way out by watching porn. Nothing wrong with watching porn. But if he prefers it to the real thing, thats a huge issue that will impact your relationship negatively. You should talk to him about it. Seriously.
2006-09-25 09:48:55 · answer #4 · answered by three6ty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try sitting on the floor while he "shakes hands with shorty". Maybe you can help. It might will be fun. There's nothing wrong with "choking the chicken". At least he's giving his man seed to a kleenex and not another woman. Porn is good!
2006-09-25 09:48:23 · answer #5 · answered by denverbroncos1973 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes a guy just needs to blow a nut and doesn't want to through all that love making.
2006-09-25 09:48:29 · answer #6 · answered by G-man 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That way he can get initial excitement out of his system. SO when he is with you he can last longer and not come too soon.
2006-09-25 09:49:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Also He is with himself and accepts himself, perhaps he hides certain fantasies from you because he thinks you will judge him or call him a sick freek,
2015-04-11 01:54:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may suck at sex
he may want to try different positions
talk to him see why he masterbate it will not hurt to ask
2006-09-25 09:51:19 · answer #9 · answered by Dj Vs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you masturbate you have more control of the pressure in the right spots.
2006-09-25 09:48:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋