my boyfriend gave me a ring and a necklace today...he said he found the ring on the beach in road island (it's ruby and diamond) and he bought the necklace (it's hemp) we've been going out for 3 weeks and he always tries to make out whenever given the chance. do you think he wants sex? oh yeah, and i'm only 14!!!
2006-09-25 09:35:29 · 46 answers · asked by melody 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He may want sex...or he may really respect you.
Maybe he just wanted to give you something he found, and a cord necklace as a momento of his he thinking about you at the store. I wouldn't take take seriously, and I wouldn't keep the ring if you feel he is asking for something more then a thank you. Other wise he may think you are okay to be pressured into something you don't feel you have the strength to reject. Take it from someone who has been there. I let the pressure turn against what I knew was right. I lost a gift I could have given to my husband someday...something I could never get back. He was careful and it was only once...but things didn't work out as we expected and I ended up pregnant at 15.No matter how careful you are it can happen after only once. I had the baby and gave it up for adoption so it would have a good chance in life to be happy and have to grown parents. (I met my son a few years ago, and he was very grateful I was so unselfish, and let him live,and have a great life with 2 wonderful mature parents.).
That boyfriend who said he'd love me till he died and would always be there for me, got another girl pregnant and married her one month before I had his baby. My heart was broken and my life was forever changed. I grieved the loss of my virginity ...my baby and the boy I gave in too... for years and years. It also made me have a hard time believeing in men. Please wait and have more respect for yourself....even if he doesn't. You are worth waiting for..if he doesn't think so...he not worth wasting your time on.
ps I was from a wonderful loving family, went to private schools . and had a wonderful life...I let myself down, my parents down and God. Believe me ...you're worth waiting for. Finish school and college if that is your dream...no one else can complete your dreams for you ...but you!!
2006-09-25 09:57:13 · answer #1 · answered by Grandma Coffee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three weeks is not long at all to be jumping into anything that serious. There are way more steps to be taking before you two get to that major one. You dont know even half as much as you need to know this guy as well as he needs to know about you. You dont want to do this if you feel pressured. I dont think he is wanting sex or is trying to force it upon you. It sounds like he just likes kissing you and being with you every moment he can get. If i were you i would slow it down a lot. Dont give him what he wants all the time, or he will end up expecting more from you.Show him that theres so much more in this relationship than kissing and making out. Do romantic things, such as picnics, movies anything at all, enjoying each other without having to make out. Once he realizes that theres more to it than that, he will wait for you.And if he doesnt this relationship i will have to tell you...wont last if this guy is pressuring you and wants what he wants. If he loves you he wont bug you or do anything you dont want. And if i were you i wouldnt sleep with anyone making that big of a step with anyone you dont love or who doesnt love or respect you.
2006-09-25 09:42:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know his age, but he likely wouldn't turn down sex. You need to do the thinking for the both of you, don't offer sex and don't agree to it if he brings it up. A loving, long-term, committed relationship is what is required before considering sex, a second-hand ring and a hemp necklace doesn't even come close.
2006-09-25 09:40:01 · answer #3 · answered by live2ride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a silly question! If he's trying to make out with you every time you're with him, of course he wants sex! That's perfectly natural at your age (I presume that he's about your age?).
The complication is, you're not legal yet -- and if he's about the same age, neither is he. If you want to have sex with him, that's your choice. But understand that you could be giving him a criminal record that will follow him for the rest of his life (the courts almost always blame the boy in these cases, even if the girl was the aggressor). No matter how much he wants you, no matter what kind of gifts he gives you, no matter how much you love him, the law says that you're too young for sex. You're better off telling him no, IMO. And if he breaks up with you because you wouldn't put out, he never really loved you at all.
2006-09-25 09:43:17 · answer #4 · answered by D'archangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babygirl, I know that you already know the answer to your own question. You're just waiting for someone to tell you okay. If you didn't, you wouldn't put your age on here. Also, you didn't say how old he was? I bet he's just little bit older than you. Anyway, GameGiver is a realistic dude and I know you're gonna do what you're gonna do, but please don't do it because this cheap-a-- dude found you a dirty ring and bought you a grass necklace. Get your gold diggin' game up for real!
2006-09-25 09:51:19 · answer #5 · answered by GameGiver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys expect sex within a month, I asked every single one of my guy friends and most of them told me this same answer. But your too young to do anything like that anyways. You should just tell him that you are interested in getting to know him better, but not in a physical relantionship, yet, tell him your waiting until you get married, if she says okay and sticks around, then stay with him, if he says that you need to think realistically, and that everyone is doing it, then you don't need a guy like that, by the time 9 months come around you'll be left on your own.
2006-09-25 09:44:04 · answer #6 · answered by Cool Chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants the piece! But u know what ur only 14 save ur self. Protect ur virginity. How old is he any way? Set the boundary if u don't want to have sex tell him! Tell him this while ur not alone, just go out to eat and say it quietly to him or tell him over the phone. If he doesn't accept who u are then end it with him.
2006-09-25 09:39:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey he probly isn't even thinking about sex, making out is okay to a point. When he start's rubbing in places he shouldn't be is when it is time to tell him you don't like that and you want to wait. If you aren't ready for sex and you shouldn't be than talk about it with him and if he doesn't understand than he isn't worth your time. Becareful if you do decide to have sex use a condom and birthcontrol, I think you should wait untill you are ready. Good luck and never let a boy to rush you into anything you are not ready for
2006-09-25 09:40:59 · answer #8 · answered by mommy2faithat19#3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he want sex? Uh, yes. He is a teenage boy, all hormones and concert t-shirts. However, his expectations are irrelevant. You should only do what you want to do and what you are ready to do. As for whether he expects sex, stop thinking about it in those terms. Instead, just assume he isn't expecting, just hoping. This is because "expecting" implies that he is entitled to it simply because he wants it. Finally, always remember there are ways to give pleasure other than intercourse.
2006-09-25 09:40:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally i think your too young to be accepting any kind of gifts that arent teddy bears or cute lil nicknacks. He probably has the idea of..if you give a girl jewelery she'll have sex....the best way to find out his intentions is to simply ask him. If it does not work out between the two of you...its ok, your young and you have your whole life ahead of you to fall in love. Tell him that your not ready or that you probably won't be ready for a long time. Talk to him and ask for honesty.
2006-09-25 09:40:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋