ok i'm starting home school but i think that none of my friends that i have care about me anymore..what should i do?
2006-09-25 09:20:52 · 5 answers · asked by Christina F 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Home Schooling
Talk to them. If they are your friends -- true friends --- they will care about you. But first make sure that there isn't some reason that you should not have them for companions. It's good to be friendly to everyone but you can't always be close friends. As long as they are good people and good examples and influence on you then you should keep in contact as much as you can.
Sometimes people will act funny about things because they don't understand when you are not doing exactly the same things as they. You can help "educate" them about home-school by telling them what it is that you are doing. They will be much more relaxed about talking to you when they are no longer afraid that you have become some weirdo from outerspace. It is fear that makes children turn away from one another --- show them that you are a good person and those that matter will care.
Do the very best that you can with your studies every day. My daughter did this and when her friends had trouble in math they came to her with their questions. She even helps to edit their writing papers before they turn them in at school. She was home-schooled and loved it --- now she is in college. You can become a good friend by being able to help your friends when they need a tutor.
And don't fret!!! There are lots and lots of other home-schooled people out there that are willing to become your friend. If you are friendly and pleasant it will be easy to make new friends and keep some older ones too.
The best thing that you can do is care about other people. Show them by your manners and behavior that you are good and kind. After awhile you will be so busy being a friend that you might not notice just how many friends you have. Focus on other people and on their needs --- do your best to be a giver in this world.
2006-09-25 09:56:29 · answer #1 · answered by Barb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they're your friends they'll stick with you through thick AND thin. When I first started being homeschooled a lot of my friends were more popular at the school I used to go to so they didn't seem to mind that I was gone. BUT many of my friends, mostly ones who went to other schools so I didn't see them as much anyways, stuck by me and we're still friends to this day even after I've been homeschooled for six going on seven years now. If you're really worried that you wont have any friends any more, check around. There may be a homeschool group in your area that's filled with lots of homeschooled kids just your age who would love to be friends with you. I know some of the best friends I've got now are ones I met through different homeschooling groups. So even if things may not look the best right now, give it some time. Hope you have fun homeschooling and if you have any questions you can email me at danigurl923@hotmail.com. GOOD LUCK!!
2006-09-25 21:00:30 · answer #2 · answered by rockin2myownbeat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Christina, the best thing you can do is to talk to your friends and share your concerns. Call them up, ask how they're doing and of course make plans with them...you still have weeknights and weekends, right? Do they have the same kind of homework? Perhaps you could do homework with them if you wanted.
If they are truly your friends, they will not treat you badly because you are home educating and if they do? I'd question whether or not that they are really 'true' friends. Lastly, hopefully your parents are giving you opportunities to get with other kids/teens your age...get to know some new ones and making friends with others of all ages is now something that you'll be priviledged to do. My 8 and 12 yo's can switch up for any age child, despite race or gender so they honestly do get along with people of any age...young or old and everything in-between.
2006-09-25 16:29:09 · answer #3 · answered by FreeThinker 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
When we decided to homeschool our children we thought hard about the social impact this would have. My daughters have told me they are thankful for that decision and that our concerns were misplaced. They were never deterred from visiting with their friends or vice versa as long as we the parents were involved in some capacity. We also began to get hooked up with others who homeschooled and so other friendships were established. The girls still were involved in gymnastics, dance and other social activities. They told me the most common reaction from their friends was that they were jealous and wished that they could be homeschooled too. Both are now in university and have great friendships. Hope this helps a little with the adjustment.
2006-09-25 17:39:01 · answer #4 · answered by Therapist King 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Times change. Find new friends by incorporating new hobbies or sports in your life. Join a homeschool group, participate in soccer, or karate classes, start taking guitar lessons, or choir, do volunteer work at the hospital or at the animal shelter...and pretty soon you will have a "new" group of friends!
If you are old enough you can take babysitting or dog-sitting classes and get certified, you can also tutor or join a homeschool study group.
2006-09-26 15:10:48 · answer #5 · answered by schnikey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋