We started out as friends years back and now I started luving her.
We spent hours on phone, when we meet we are together for hours and are very comfortable in talking with each other and get along perfectly.
I really like her very much and I luv her but the problem is I know the luv is only Mentally. She has got a decent face but she can never satisfy me as far as physical attraction goes (almost no physical attraction)
Due to this, I think tht though I propose this gal, I should be having a not so serious relationship and/or also continue to search for tht perfect gal.
So after reviewing – You guyz think I should go ahead and propose her?
Please be serious – its very important issue to me
2006-09-25 09:10:35 · 31 answers · asked by Romps 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you people are confusing the issue with marriage...... please i am talking about proposing the gal to be my GF only and havent though about marriage and stuff
2006-09-25 09:14:59 · update #1
If you don't love everything about her than do not propose to her.
2006-09-25 09:21:03 · answer #1 · answered by Samantha Jo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To make your marriage work, you must love and accept everything about her. A physical relationship is a fundamental part of a marriage and without that attraction, you obviously realize the physical satisfaction will never be there. To me, if you love her on a mental level like you say, the physical love will eventually reveal itself to you. You will love her, all of her, with no doubts, fears, or unfulfilled desires. She will be your everything. If you were paralyzed and unable to have a physical relationship, would you be happy with her? When you are eighty and even viagra doesn't work, would you be happy with her companionship? If so, then maybe that should tell you something. At the end of the day, your friendship is what carries you through, not your phsical relationship. Decide what is most important to you and follow your heart. Best of luck!
2006-09-25 09:19:50 · answer #2 · answered by ncmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Physical attraction should be there. You need to be with this person 24/7. So how could you will live with someone who don't attract you physically. Unless there is so much mental to mental perfection. Also if this is bothering you than definitely there is a issue and if this was not bothering you, you would not ask this question. So think again. I had a same situation i had to deal with. He was in so love with me, when i was on the phone with him i loved him but as soon he will come see me, my feelings were not the same. so again think about it but not to long its just going to get more confusion. ilbj4e@yahoo.com
2006-09-25 09:19:27 · answer #3 · answered by Alisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not propose. It doesn't sound like you love her any more than a friend. If she isn't attractive to you, then something is wrong. I find that when I really like someone, they become more attractive. I have been attracted to not-so-attractive guys because their personalities have been amazing. Their insides are reflected on the outside.
If I were that girl, I would feel horrible if you proposed and then found out that you were not physically attracted to me.
You should love ALL of her.
2006-09-25 09:15:53 · answer #4 · answered by agentm006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not physically attracted to the girl you don't need to propose to her, because even if you do get married you are going to spend the rest of your life looking at other women and trying to find the one who satisfies your eyes and that is not fair to this girl. I think you need to figure out what u want physically because that seems to be a big deal for you
2006-09-25 09:15:15 · answer #5 · answered by shorty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't thinl you should propose. Your "soulmate" will turn you on in every way not just mentally. no matter what anyone says, sex is a huge part of a relationship it should never be the most important part but we're talking about someone your considering asking to spend the rest of their life with you. And it would never be fair to her, there is someone who will find her attractive. And if she couldnt fulfill your needs sexually you cant fulfill her needs emotionally and around it goes.
2006-09-25 09:20:51 · answer #6 · answered by daiseynavigator 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT PROPOSE! If this gal only attracts you mentally, that is simply not enough to get married. You need to find someone who attracts you in all ways, and on all levels - only then do you propose as that gal would be "the one." Don't propose to this one -- move on and find someone better!
2006-09-25 09:13:25 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT propose to her. She deserves someone better. She deserves someone who loves her mentally, finds her physically attractive, and doesn't post questions on Yahoo about her.
End it with her today and let her find a man who loves her completely because you sure don't.
Keep searching for someone different and let her do the same.
2006-09-25 09:15:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't love the "whole" person, it's not going to work. although looks shouldn't matter, you need to be attractive to more than just a person's mind. you may be in love her heart and her mind but you also need to be in lover with her body. i'm not saying that looks are everything but they are important. no matter what other people may say. if you don't love the entire package then i suggest not proposing to the girl. good luck!
2006-09-25 09:18:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhmmm ......please do this girl a favor and move on with your life! Your relationship is never ever going to last simply because you do not love everything about her. Marrying her for her mind only would be a great dis-service to her...no...to both of you.
Marriage is not to be entered into lightly...or with the notion of getting a divorce when things go sour.
2006-09-25 09:16:53 · answer #10 · answered by shortfrog 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look man if you talkin about marriage which i think you are, no you dont purpose to this women cause you are not attracked to her you said it yourself and if that is a important thing to you then no but if its not then dont it was so important to me always so was a good personailty too and now i am gonna get engagded this winter and people say you can do better you have done better blah blah blah look i'm happy i love her thats all that matters if you love her and can get past the looks you will be okay
2006-09-25 09:15:37 · answer #11 · answered by tip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋