Last year I accused my father in law of molesting my child, I still don't know if it happened, but he won't speak to us anymore and I do miss him and his wife. How can I properly apologize to make things the way they were before?
2006-09-25 09:06:04 · 19 answers · asked by Angie L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Why would you apologize if you still aren't sure? What if he did, and you expose your child all over again? His reaction could be out of hurt (and he's innocent) but it could also be out of guilt. Protect that child to your dying breath... and trust your maternal instincts.
2006-09-25 09:11:33 · answer #1 · answered by mama_bears_den 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you had suspicions enough to accuse him and you still don't know whether or not it happened, then you really don't need to apologize. You need to let you father-in-law know why you accused him. As a parent, he should understand your situation. As for things reverting back to how they used to be, that won't happen. Too much damage has been done. The only thing you can do, is pave the road to a brighter future. Good Luck!!
2006-09-25 16:18:53 · answer #2 · answered by blackwidow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should have had a little more proof before the accusation but I do commend you for not just ignoring the problem and letting it go on. That would be extremely offensive to anyone if if they didnt do it and you have to understand that. Maybe in time he will understand from a mothers point of few.....protect the child no matter what!....If you are certain it did not happen then you should try and stop by their home for a visit. And just explain your reasoning for the accusation...stress that your child's safety is number one and that is what you were attempting to protect.
2006-09-25 16:11:28 · answer #3 · answered by AUDREY H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you have a reason for accusing him? If not, that was a horrible thing for you to do and I don't know if I would accept an apology. If you did have a reason, then he should understand that you were standing up for your child and just trying to watch out for him/her. Just explain all of that to him.
2006-09-25 16:16:45 · answer #4 · answered by deesjeeper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know that he did not do this now, is that why you want to apologize? Or do you really think deep inside that he may have done this? If you still believe he did this, then I think he should stay away!!!
If not, I would send a heartfelt letter to begin with and let him respond if he wishes. Its easier to say what you want to say w/ out being cut off or hung up on or losing your words in emotions....
2006-09-25 16:09:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
things will NEVER be like they were before. They best way to apologize is to do it, sincerely. but dont expect everything 2 just be OK.
you have seriously wounded your relationship and your child's relationship with grandad. LEARN FROM THIS and keep ur mouth closed until you're certain of wrong doing next time.
2006-09-25 16:32:56 · answer #6 · answered by Johnny Zero 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know why he would feel this way. alot of men have been accused of this, because of the times... I hate to say this but he will most likely never want to be around your daughter or you again. Im going by my feelings on this. because I was in the same boat until they found out people lied out of paranoia. You can only try but I can't say you would suceed
2006-09-25 16:18:28 · answer #7 · answered by Mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never accuse somebody of something without proper evidence to support your accusation. It's very hard to apologize now. If he's really innocent chances are he may never forgive you.
2006-09-25 16:13:17 · answer #8 · answered by Λиδѓεy™ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First you need to make sure of the facts. Did he or didn't he? If he did, don't apologize turn him in. If not, then go to him in humility and be very kind and gentle and ask for his forgiveness. Be sure you have all the facts before you do anything.
2006-09-25 16:32:43 · answer #9 · answered by Tatochka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not bother until you know if it happened or not.
If he is not responsible then eventually you will find out who is and he will know that at the time you were only thinking of your child.
You need to resolve this matter for the child's sake and stop worrying about their feelings.
2006-09-25 16:09:49 · answer #10 · answered by Queen Fromage 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋