Should I put kids in timeout?

Question

Some people beleive that time out is the answer for bad behavior in children but some are very contraversial about the subject. If my children are hitting one another is putting them in timeout answer?

Answer 1

Time out would work (one minute for each age they are ex 7yrs old = 7 minutes). followed by a talk about how hitting is not ok and we do not hurt the people we love.

Answer 2

Yes you should. The best advice I've heard is on Supernanny programme which says you do timeout to correspond to their age - one minute for each year of their life. So if a child is 4 years old it's 4 minutes timeout. They also use a "naughty chair" on which the child sits when in timeout. When a child gets up in the middle of timeout, you take their hand, don't say a word to them, and put them back on the naughty chair. Keep doing this until timeout is finished (they may give up and stay there after a little while and a few times of this happening). Then at the end of timeout, you go to their level (them still sitting on the chair) and you ask them to apologise to YOU for their behaviour to their sibling. And then they are allowed to get up and go play again.

You do this every time the children hit, scream, disagree with you (the parent), or do anything else that's considered naughty in your eyes. According to the programme, the success rate is about a week to a few weeks depending on the parent's determination.

Good luck with enforcing these rules!

Answer 3

I think it's a start. Consistency is the key. We have been using time outs and 1, 2 3 magic behaviour strategy. Seems to be working for us. I would give a couple of warnings then issue a time out. Hitting is not acceptable behaviour....they have to learn you will not put up with it.
Good luck. I know it's frustrating!

Answer 4

Yes, totally. Just limit the time out to one minute for each year of age and include a little talk about not hitting and have them talk to each other too and apologize. Encourage them to use their words rather than fists/hands.

There is nothing wrong with time outs, it's a totally appropriate response to bad behavior.

Answer 5

Depending on the behavior you should put them in a timeout of strictly 1-3 hours and make sure that they don't have many ways to entertain themselves whilst in their rooms or wherever they are.

Answer 6

time out does not work for all children. I have three children and it has only worked for one. If you try time out, remember the "one minute for every year of age" rule and don't leave them in any longer than that. After time out is over talk to the child about why they were put in time so the child can start to understand.

Answer 7

I most definitely say yes. If you hit them, it sends them the message that hitting, even spanking, is ok, and it teaches them to fear you which could result in lying and secretive behavior later in life. When you put them in time out, tell them what they are in trouble for and when they get out, make sure they understand what they did wrong and make them apologize to everyone involved. Then give them hugs and move on.
Trust me, I was raised with a mom who used physical
punishment for everything and I know the devastating effects it can have on a child.

Answer 8

no, i think you should talk to your kids that hitting another person is wrong. be reasonable with them, teach them some lesson about hitting.. if you put your kids in timeout, chances are they won't know their mistake & they will do it more often just to get your attention.. =) they might like timeout..

Answer 9

Time-out is never the answer. It only teaches defiance and teaches children that they don't get punished for anything--they only have to sit in a corner for 5 minutes. In the real world--there are no time-outs to reflect on bad decisions. Besides, time-outs also isolate the child and make them feel bad about themselves instead of making them feel bad about their decisions. Time-out is a lazy way of doing things in my opinion.

Answer 10

useful reinforcement is a proactive reaction to a concern or action. Punishment is a proactive reaction to undesirable habit. consequently, punishment alongside with spanking is beneficial (no longer unfavorable) reinforcement. unfavorable reinforcement is a loss of action, to illustrate ignoring a toddler's undesirable habit. I hate using those words by way of fact so few people understand what they propose. My young ones are way previous that age, yet while they have been youthful we used spanking and time-outs besides as different techniques. With us it grew to become into no longer a query of how many circumstances an afternoon we punished our babies, it grew to become right into a query of how many days, weeks, and as they have been given purely a splash older months, between punishment. I stand by making use of the occasional spanking being the extra effectual attitude. Edit: As constantly I replied the question formerly I examine the different solutions. I actual have on no account incredibly found out what the priority is with people who use time-outs somewhat of spanking till this question and those solutions. babies can not be punished daily, (or diverse circumstances an afternoon), as maximum of you look to think of is effectual. There could be diverse days between punishments. once you're putting a toddler in time-out even 4 or 5 circumstances a week, the time-outs are actually not working, no rely how properly behaved you think of your toddler is. that's lots extra effective to spank a toddler as quickly as a month (or on an identical time as quickly as a week, for that rely) than to place them in time-out daily.