I've been in a relationship for almost three monthes. He works alot(which is great). However the majority of our relationship has been spent on the phone. I only see him a short time once a week at best. He doesn't wrk wkends anymore, but always has an excuse why he's to busy to get together. I've told him we need to spend more time together, and he gets upset and tells me its not his fault its his busy life. I think I'm falling in love with him, but i'm not satisfied or happy that he refesuses to put effort into spending more time with me. He tells me its my choice, he doesn't want to end it & i have to be ok with a limited time together. What should i do?
2006-09-25 09:02:47 · 20 answers · asked by madraven4 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
get a clue he doesn't want to be with you;any thing or anyone you want you make the time for you can't be that important to him or he wouldn't be so cold towards you
2006-09-25 09:06:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your choice. If you want someone who thinks you are a priority, then meet someone else. He doesn't consider you a very big priority, so only gives you a few hours a week of his time. He is what he is. Accept it and don't expect more, or meet a man who values you and your time together.
I thought dating was about meeting, being together, doing things together, enjoying each other's company, getting to know each other, having romantic evenings, looking forward to spending time together... NOT making excuses about being busy and getting upset at the prospect of being with the person. (He kind of sounds like a jerk.)
(Personally, I wouldn't call this a "relationship" -- it's only been 90- days and you both seem to want other things. That's what dating is all about-- to see if you're compatible. Doesn't look like you 2 are. Big deal. Move on. Find someone who wants to be with you.)
2006-09-25 16:11:56 · answer #2 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is growing apart and he is staying with you until someone else comes by. Be somewhat forceful and tell him that you need time together or it won't work. It isn't worth your time waiting by the phone for him to call. Move on before you fall truly in love with him.
2006-09-25 16:14:04 · answer #3 · answered by Merlin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must not have thought why he doesn't see you and only spends tome on the phone with you. he is not being honest.No one can ever have a true real relationship dong as you two are. Tell him you are tired of over the phone talking and he cant possibly be as busy all the time as he says , see what his reaction is. he has week ends he could and should be with you, wake up he is not being honest.
2006-09-25 16:10:47 · answer #4 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he really wanted to be with you and spend time with you then he'd do whatever he had to do to be able to be with you. you're not happy and life is WAY to short to be in a relationship where you're not happy or satisfied. find someone that will give you exactly what you need
2006-09-25 16:18:27 · answer #5 · answered by *KiM* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your truly happy with your limited time with him, then continue the relationship. Sounds to me like you are not as serious to him as he is to you. I think he doesn't want to be serious with you. I hope that this doesn't get you down, but honesty is usually the best policy when it comes to subjects such as these. You should move on if your unhappy.
2006-09-25 16:06:34 · answer #6 · answered by Whitney S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never allow a man to make you an option when you should be his priority...if he can't fit you into his busy schedule...then you need to move on and realize that you're feelings towards one another are not mutual and you need to stop wasting your time.
2006-09-25 16:07:34 · answer #7 · answered by aak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really wants to be with you, he would make time for you above these other reasons. I would stop calling and trying to make plans. See how he reacts to your distance. In the meantime, reconnect with the girls, your family. Try something new.
2006-09-25 16:07:03 · answer #8 · answered by agentm006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your in love with someone, you do what it takes to spend time with them. Before you let yourself love him you need to move on. Just cut your losses and find someone who deserves you.
2006-09-25 16:05:44 · answer #9 · answered by Belle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is not giving you much of a choice. If he doesn't care to spend time with you, he doesn't like you much. Sorry, but you should lose him.
2006-09-25 16:04:36 · answer #10 · answered by Sarah 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋