I am trying to raise a kid who is very shy naturally and not self confident. How can I make this kid (6 yr old girl) confident about herself and not shy? I love the kid and she knows it.
2006-09-25 09:02:16 · 5 answers · asked by jimbomediterraneo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Are you socializing her with other children her age or are you overprotective of her? Are you criticizing her and questioning her about everything or are you letting her mess up once in a while and living her anyway?
It is a fact that making accomplishments builds our self esteem, but for a child who lacks this understanding, an overly critical parent can destroy one's motivation to even try and risk failure.
Kids want to please their parents, and they are not immediate experts with anything. It would be wise to allow a child to mess something up, and instead of telling them they did it wrong, show them how to do it right. Encourage them to get back on the horse and have patience while they struggle. When they make progress or even succeed, lay the praise on them heavily. Just don't forget to praise the effort along the way.
Arranging "play dates" with other parents is a way to get kids to socialize without pressure. Since the adults 'want to hang out', then the kids have to turn to each other for amusement and entertainment. Model socialization with your peers, for her. Group engagement helps, too, like playing a game where everyone's effort is required, and no one wins or loses. Something like "parachute ball" (everyone holds the fabric and bounces a ball) or "hot potato". She might be too young for any "team" stuff just yet.
If your child sees you socializing, you are modeling a behavior for her. If she never sees you socialize, then she might not want to, either. And if you are always holding her hand and walking her through life, then you can expect her to grow up helplessly needing you for everything.
2006-09-25 09:22:25 · answer #1 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know, from my own research, a father is the MOST influentual person in a daughters make or brake of self-confindence. So you are her biggest key for future confidence in her self & how she will relate to men in adult years. There are really amazing books on the subject of father-daughter relationships. Is she yr daughter? Even if she's not, just having a male figure in her life that will encourage her, etc may play a big part in her confidence level. : )
2006-09-25 16:08:18 · answer #2 · answered by madraven4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Praise her. Make her proud of who she is by being proud yourself. Teach her that honesty is the only policy. That it doesn't matter what people think or say about you as long as you know the truth. Be open and honest with her when she asks a question. But most importantly, simple let her know that you love her. She will adopt your traits. People learn by example. But, it may take her time, so don't get frustrated. Be patient, in the end, you will be rewarded for your efforts.
2006-09-25 16:15:13 · answer #3 · answered by blackwidow 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Out-going or self confident?
My Dad influenced me to be outgoing by his own personality. He taught me at an early age to take up for myself and how to be able to stand on my own 2 feet....very invaluable lessons. He never meets a stranger. He has a great sense of humor.
You can teach them to be more self confident by using a lot of positive affirmations. Sincere compliments, not phoney ones. Encouragement.
Having a good sense of humor. Teach them how to laugh at themselves. Teaching them to like their bodies.
2006-09-25 16:12:08 · answer #4 · answered by shortfrog 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I learned from the best, my mom. There is a saying: actions speak louder than words I saw my single mom work hard for her money and that helped me to do better in life
2006-09-25 16:14:06 · answer #5 · answered by Photographer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋