My brother had never married this girl but they have a 2 year old daughter together and she is pregnant with another kid who will be here in a couple weeks (i know he has made some mistakes, but that is not what we are talking about). Do you know of any websites that i can use to see what rights he has with these children. The mother has been on drugs in the recent past and may still be. Neither parent can afford a lawyer or go to court. The dad is deffinitly the more fit parent! He has an older daughter (with another mother) who is 6 that he has custody of. She is doing great with her dad, but would love to have her baby sister around. The mother had taken the 2 year old and hasn't let us see her since last Christmas (maybe a few short occasions after that). Her mom is threatening change her last name and many other things. She has told the government that she doesn't have a job so my brother is paying alot of childsupport. but she has told us that she does have a job.
2006-09-25 08:57:16 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I need any info you have, but more importantly official websites that i can go to and read, possibly print off
2006-09-25 08:58:08 · update #1
http://www.fathersrightsinc.com/
try this web sight!!
2006-09-25 09:04:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Without knowing what state you are in its difficult to help. Do a web search for an organization called "fathers for equal rights". He has the same rights that she does in that he can walk into the local Child Support Enforcement office and be helped. If the mother fails a drug test (especially while pregnant) it may seal his case.
Filing a fraud complaint about her having a job when she claims she doesnt probably wouldnt get him very far since shes about to have another baby. By the time she was investigated she would more than likely be on maternity leave anyway.
More and more fathers are getting custody of children these days. Its easier than youd think!
2006-09-25 16:02:55 · answer #2 · answered by lindsay74 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Here's a summary from a legal website:
What Custody Rights Does An Unmarried Father Have?
Unmarried fathers can take action to be awarded custody of a child. A father's rights depend on his suitability to have custody. An unwed father cannot win primary physical custody over a mother who is a good parent, but may be able to establish some custody or visitation rights.
Specifics tend to vary from state to state. Texas for example, generally gives fathers more rights than many other states. You can google your state and "unmarried fathers rights" to see what comes up.
A friend of mine dealt with a similar situation. I don't have a good source for more into, but I'm pretty sure that if your brother reports her as a drug user, the court may be able to ask her to report for testing. She can refuse to be tested, but that will be taken into consideration in the custody proceedings. He should call a social worker or child protective services and ask them what they advise given his situation.
2006-09-25 17:04:57 · answer #3 · answered by ValleyGal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be the bearer of bad news but without a lawyer he will not get very far. However, he might consider trying to sit down with the young lady and a court mediator. A court mediator serves like a judge and the parents come to an amicable agreement over the child(ren)'s welfare. If that doesn't work he may consider calling up local lawyers and asking if they would consider taking his case probono.
2006-09-25 16:05:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without a court order there is not much any parent can do. Your brother is in a very good situation that he may not be aware of. With a drug problem, its a good opportunity to "kick her while she is down". Doesnt sound like the amicable thing to do but it doesnt sound like she is playing fair. I had the exact same situation and now I have full custody and peice of mind and it only cost me filing fees.
2006-09-25 16:05:40 · answer #5 · answered by freak_oftheindustry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you this the mother has more rights than the father this I know. Even though it's proven that some fathers take better care of the kids than the mother, the judge will still give her custody before the father.
2006-09-25 16:04:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need an attorney. Flat out. As long as their not married he really has no say unless there was proven abuse and it's proven he is more stable. Check this out -equal rights for fathers-. He is an absolute jerk off but could shed some light on this situation. He is blatantly rude and ready to go in for the kill but he does do a service to those who truly need it. He will help some guy even if he is a slouch that shirks his responsibilities too. He is based in Las Vegas but is sure to find help your brother......
2006-09-25 16:06:29 · answer #7 · answered by emeraldliliy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what state you're in. In my state, she can't change a name without permission and a court hearing.
Your brother should contact an agency for father's rights....especially if he is paying child support. He is going to have to hire a lawyer to help him. Maybe he can find one under free legal advise, some firms do free work.
2006-09-25 16:03:22 · answer #8 · answered by jm1970 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No matter what you read or what his rights are, nothing can be done without going to court. If he reads something saying he can take custody of the kids, and goes there and takes them, than she can get him for kidnapping. It all has to be done legally.
2006-09-25 16:12:06 · answer #9 · answered by monroe1172002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
check out child welfare in your state he can go to the court and file his own child support papers or ,do you have a minster to talk to,seem he and the mom need to go and sit down and talk to someone, if he know where she work he can report that but if he do his part as a dad he will he fine ,it is very impressive for a father to go to welfare in concerns with there children
2006-09-25 16:06:34 · answer #10 · answered by elizabeth_davis28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is almost exactly the same as my best friend's mom's situation.
Go to children services.
Tell them EVERYTHING.
They will fill you in on everything you'll need to do, and after you learn it, you will need a lawyer.
There's a 90% chance that they will give the father custody.
If I were you, I wouldn't wait any longer.
For all you know, she could be looking into the same thing.
2006-09-25 16:04:12 · answer #11 · answered by Jalena 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋