My boyfriend wants to get married about this time next year and I love him and his family very much. The only problem is he's a big time momma's boy. I think it's great that he loves his mom.....but I don't want to live down the street or even next door to his parents. His parents live down the street from his granparents so we would all be in the same neighborhood. I love that he's family orientated and his family is great....but him wanting to live that close to his mom is....i don't know....weird.
2006-09-25 08:30:18 · 29 answers · asked by Amber R 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
On the one side it cool that they are a close family, but remember you can always later in time move away and get another house. Don't go and break up the marrige because of where you gonna live, its not worth it.
Good luck
2006-09-25 08:34:41 · answer #1 · answered by ogies_01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then tell him that. If he really loves u, and wants to be with u, just tell him that u dont have a problem with his family, but u would appreciate some space between all of ya'll since everybody lives in the same neighborhood. If he cares about ur opinion, you all should be able to work out a compromise and maybe live in another city not to far away, maybe 15-20 minutes. That way he isnt that far from his family, no more than a short car ride, and you dont feel so close to the rest of them. And ull do it without makin it look like u hate them.
2006-09-25 15:34:06 · answer #2 · answered by scorpioangel22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't be worried. I don't consider it a momma's boy. My parents always told me that you can tell how a man will treat you by the way he treats his mother. If he's good(respectful) to his mother, you shouldn't have a problem. A close and strong family is very essential in today's times. You can still have your individuality as husband and wife and still live relatively close to his family. How close is your family? I say don't worry about it. My brother is recently married and his wife doesn't understand the closeness he has with his family b/c she comes from a different background. A son is very close to his mother as a daughter is to her father. It's an impartation for a son that only a mother can give. Never break family ties. You can't compete w/ his mother so don't try. Learn from her and you should do well with your new family.
2006-09-25 15:46:31 · answer #3 · answered by DaddysGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well atleast your not living in their parents house i dont think is that bad unless his parents dont give u privacy n hes running to his mother everytime u guys get in a fight but i think is not that bad just put the rules down to him before u guys get married. the other thing is not that bad cause one day u might need help or an emergency happen n u can call them so dont be too selfish. u already know hes a mommas boy so thats something u cant fix and second u get along with them so i dont see a problem. just sit down and get a plan that both of u agree
2006-09-25 15:38:24 · answer #4 · answered by jose m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is what he is. Are you hoping he'll change, or that you will change him? You marry what you marry, not the person you think he should become. If you want a big time mama's boy, then he's the man for you. If you don't, then find another man. It's pretty simple. If you are wondering if you should be worried, you probably need to envision your future with this man, his family and your future kids: is that how you want to live? If not- cut him free and find someone more compatible with you.
2006-09-25 15:35:10 · answer #5 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men dont change, he will always be a mommas boy, but you need to tallk to him, and tell him how you feel. Just let him know that you love how much he loves his mother, but that when you get married, you want to have your own life with him and just him. Communication is the key to any relationship.
2006-09-25 15:35:19 · answer #6 · answered by Kuiper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
Yeah, You need to call this to his attention,
i'd tell him that you would really like to live atleast a few miles away,
Tell him that you want the two of you to have your own identity,
you guys' can always visit them but if your like four or five miles away (or more) there will be some kind of a barrier so he won't want o go over there All of the time
2006-09-25 15:37:08 · answer #7 · answered by the d 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful, my mother in law turned out to be a huge backstabber after we got married. She acted like she loved me until I married her son and then she tried to talk him out of marrying me. Here I am 7 years later and she is still making my life a living hell. I wish you the best of luck with your guy and soon to be mother in law. I am not going to lie, it is going to be an up-hill battle for the rest of your life. I love my hubby enough that I try to deal with it the best way I can. But it has been fight after fight and tears after tears. My mother in law finally showed her true colors in front of my husband a year ago and now he sees how she really is and things are fine. But that took six years. I would NOT live that close to them, HELL no! Good luck:)
2006-09-25 15:37:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to break family ties . It will not work . A man who loves his mother is not a mama's boy . You can learn a lot about a man by the way he treats his mother .
2006-09-25 15:33:52 · answer #9 · answered by missmayzie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that's what you accepted when you started dating this man. Don't expect a man to change...because he won't. If he's family-oriented and a mama's boy...that won't change and I hope that you don't think you can change him....you should probably re-evaluate your relationship and see if this is something you can deal with...if it's not...you should probably get out now.
2006-09-25 15:34:54 · answer #10 · answered by aak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋