my man is boring now that we live together, he don't wanna go out and don't want to much sex. what u think changed him. i know he is happy, but dam
2006-09-25 08:04:48 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Both men and women seem to get comfortable when they feel they have a secure relationship.
I'm not sure that the person above is correct by saying that he is bored with you. I know that sometimes when you live together the sex fizzles away a little bit because they know that it is at their disposal whenever they want it where as before they have to wait for their designated day of the week etc...
As for not wanting to go out, maybe take that as a compliment that he'd rather be at home spending time with you.
2006-09-25 08:10:02 · answer #1 · answered by Heather S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dunno...i get that way...once i get what ive been chasing after i just get bored with it...maybe u could make a big change? try buying a place together...if u have not already....get a pet...start a garden outside...u know something u both need to do TOGETHER...or maybe u 2 could take separate vacations for a lil while and when u get back together then you will have that old flame back...where u want to spend a lot more time together or something...i dunno...im just rambling cause i am bored as hell....but whatever u decide to do....GOOD LUCK TO YOU.....
2006-09-25 15:12:49 · answer #2 · answered by The Phoenix Wears Armani 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, been there & done that, too. We weren't living together but when I'd get to his place, I'd be all revved up to go out for dinner, see a movie, play golf, bowl - whatever!! - & all he wanted to do was sit on the sofa & watch tv, get a takeout pizza. BORING!!
I don't know why they change - I reckon they feel like the expended all that time & energy to get us & once they have us they don't have to try anymore!
2006-09-25 15:07:54 · answer #3 · answered by pumpkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age. He go older and sees things differently.
It's not what he thought it would be. most guys have the dream of living with a woman...carefree, sex all the time, good food and everything perfect. Then real life comes in and it's nothing like that at all. It can make most guys really depressed.
2006-09-25 15:07:19 · answer #4 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this is an easy one to answer he got the prize he no longer has to work for IT or even worry if it (you) will be there tomorrow.remember the saying of the cow and the milk because it fits here once you give the milk for free nobody thinks they have to work for or take care of the cow.and no I'm not saying you re a cow I'm just using it as an example
2006-09-25 15:16:21 · answer #5 · answered by turnaround 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what old married couples do. I think he's in his comfort zone with you. Try to spice things up. Have you ever read the book " Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus"? I would recommend it.
2006-09-25 15:18:39 · answer #6 · answered by honiebyrd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happens to every couple. why do you think there are so many books on the subject. Go pick up a few and put some spice back in your life.
2006-09-25 15:11:01 · answer #7 · answered by jassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE THINKS HE HAS YOU SECURED SINCE YOU TWO LIVE TOGETHER NOW THERE IS NO REASON TO TRY AND GET YOU CAUSE HE HAS YOU. THAT ALWAYS HAPPENS ONLY YOU CAN DO IS TRY TO SPICE THINGS UP LIKE ONE DAY HE COMES HOME AND SURPRISE HIM WITH A NEW LOOK OR A NEW OUTFIT. GOOD LUCK
2006-09-25 15:13:59 · answer #8 · answered by Solitaire 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Complacency is the cause of the failure of many relationships. He is lazy and unwilling to do the little things he did when you were first dating. You should express your frustrations directly and see if he is willing to modify his behavior. If not, move on.
2006-09-25 15:07:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think he might be getting bored with you spice up the sex a little and use a little dirty talk. maybe he's waiting for you to take the lead. do it girl.
2006-09-25 15:11:29 · answer #10 · answered by beauty2u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋