my girlfriend went to uni she really didnt wanna go,but i kinda forced her to go she is so brainy and i thought she would be wastein her life with me so i insisted she go,her father hates me,he always thought i would ruin her life so i didnt wanna prove him right so i insisted she go even though she was unsure whether to go,anyway she went and hated it and i mean hated it,she was cryin on the phone almost everynight,when weekend came she came home and visited me and it was amazing and i realised how much i missed her and i told her that and she said she missed me,so today she turned up at her dads and shes finished uni,now he thinks it was me who made her finish,but it wasnt,her dad says she should go back at the end of the week,but she said he wont go back cause she missed me so much and i missed her,so what should i do let her dad continue to hate me and think i made her finish..or should i just finish with her though it would break my heart,she would go to uni and make good of her l
2006-09-25 07:56:17 · 31 answers · asked by demi_lee7001 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and then she would make good of her life and forget about me,and make her dad happy please help what should i do.....
2006-09-25 07:57:16 · update #1
we live 500 miles apart and only see each other at weekends,but she said she hates uni and she never wanted to go,i do love her ide die to make her happy,but she just hates the place but i keep thinkin if she gives it time she may grow to like it..she,s 18 and im 26
2006-09-25 08:04:13 · update #2
Try to convince her to go back. It really is best for her if she has the opportunity to go. I quit Purdue for a guy & I regret it everyday of my life. And, I broke up with the guy later anyway.you guys were meant to be, you can get through this. Send lots of mail to each other, get web cams, talk on the phone. It's not that bad, really. Even help her study via mail or internet. Not only will it help her, the dad will see that you are looking out for her best interest too.
2006-09-25 08:02:39 · answer #1 · answered by tigerlily27 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't finish with her just to make her go to Uni, if she hated uni that much she's not gonna go back whether you dump her or not and then not only will you be unhappy cos you've lost your girlfriend but she'll be really upset because she's lost her boyfriend.
It doesn't seem to me as if she's bothered about what her dad thinks of you therefore you shouldn't really bother about it. If she likes you that much her father will eventually see that and will learn to like you too, after all, your making his daughter really happy.
As for the Uni situation, well that's up to your girlfriend to decide, she knows what she wants to do with her life and even if she doesn't want to go now, she may want to go in the future.
2006-09-25 15:20:25 · answer #2 · answered by nic_ozz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you love her don't you? then don't you want the best thing for her? the best thing for her would be to go to the university. just because she went there wouldn't mean that she would forget about you - she would still be able to come home as often as she wanted to. maybe she should look into a community college instead, where she could stay at home but still take college classes and get a degree. stop worrying so much about what her dad thinks of you, or how your actions and her actions are going to make her dad think. think about what's best for her. if anything, you both will come out of this experience a stronger couple, and if you do break up, then maybe you weren't meant to be in the first place.
2006-09-25 15:01:39 · answer #3 · answered by mighty_power7 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would suggest that she tries to change her course to a uni nearer home, in which case she could come home at night but still fulfil her potential. You have to show her dad that you can be mature about this. If you finish with her you will mess up her studies anyway, so I dont think this is the way to go. I hope everything works out ok.
2006-09-25 14:59:55 · answer #4 · answered by Ally 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't break up with her, you encourage her.
It was great when you got back together, and that's
how it could be when you do. She could have helped
her Father feel alot better about you, by staying in
school.When she gets older she's going to regret
not going back. A chance for a education that might
help her make better money. Can't she go to a school
closer to home? I had a classmate who did the same thing.
She's sorry now.
2006-09-25 15:16:12 · answer #5 · answered by elliebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don;t finish with her. Obviously she didn't want to go in the first place. Maybe you should ask her if she could explain to her dad that she never wanted to go. If he's worried about you ruining her life, she ought to tell him that the worst thing you did was encourage her to go to uni. Of course, it is up to her if she wants to back or not so don;t put pressure on her either way. You could try talking to her dad and explain that you encouraged her to go because you thought that was what she wanted but you realised it wasn't. It's not up to her dad what she does, there are plenty of decent hardworking people who never went to uni. To be honest, I know a lot of people who go to uni because either they don't know what else to do or just to please their parents.
2006-09-25 15:01:16 · answer #6 · answered by Evil J.Twin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for your dilemma
The first hting you should do is talk your feeling through and really see what you both want.
There are 2 options that i can think of
1. Can she find a college nearer home
2. Have a year out of college to see how she feels but also study from home
She must explain to her dad that she wants to stay here for the moment & he must NOT pressuriser.
Love is hard to find
Good Luck
Jeff
2006-09-25 15:02:59 · answer #7 · answered by JEFF K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her dad is a dictator. He probably would hate any boy she going out with, its not you. She needs to decide what she want to do with her life and she needs to set goals for herself. She really needs to talk to her dad and tell him what her goals are and that she is expecting some moral support from him. It's never to late to go back to school at a later time. For you, I wouldn't worry if he likes you or not, you don't have to live with him. It's just to bad that this man is controlling her life. Don't let him destroy your friendship with her. Be courteous and proper with him, maybe he will learn to like you.
PS: Sounds like her dad might be the type to kick her out of the house, if she is not going back to school, because she is 18.
Is she prepared for that situation? She might need to move in with you.
2006-09-25 15:06:12 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if she is old enough to attend University she's old enough to make her own decisions. Who's to say she can't attend college classes closer to home so she can make her father happy and herself by spending time with you as often as she can?
Is there any way you can live near where she attends University? There are a few different solutions to your problem. If you really want to see her succeed you will help her to realize that University might be a good option for her and you move near her.
2006-09-25 15:00:47 · answer #9 · answered by Heather S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Her father is going to hate you, regardless of what she does. You need to be a man, and face the father. Tell him you have encouraged her to go to school, and that you do love her. Tell him that whatever decision she makes, you will support her in that decision. At least you know you are being more mature than her father.
2006-09-25 15:01:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋