Please can you give me some questions to ask to a girl who is confusing me. We are both 15 and best friends (im a guy), and I dont know if she likes me as more than that or not. She has been giving mixed signals. I do like her.
So what can I ask her (that wont make it too obvious what i'm trying to find out) that will help me to work out her position on things??? Also, what will possible answers that she gives mean??
Please give a few examples, I promise I will use them if they are good.
-thanks-
2006-09-25 07:31:57 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In my opinion, you can try ask her out for movie or dinner like good frens do....just be natural.. and also just spend more time with her...then from there you shall jokingly tell her that you like a goodfriend of yours and dunno how does she feels about you..then see how she answers..=)
2006-09-25 07:37:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it sounds really "adult", but the thing I find works best is the truth. If you are best friends you already have a leg up on the talking thing, what I mean is hopefully you can have meaningful conversations. If this is so, perhaps honesty might not be a bad thing to keep in mind. Be a good listener, a Real listener and hear what she has to say, you can tell a lot from what she is saying but also what she is not. I hope things work out for the best for both of you, keep in mind if she wants to be friends only, you will need to discipline yourself and decide if you can handle that or not. However it turns out, my hope is that your friendship doesn't become harmed, but hopefully enhanced.
2006-09-25 07:43:12 · answer #2 · answered by ron k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of mixed signals are you getting from her?
How long have you been best friends? If it's been a while...and I'm talking about more than a couple of months, you will be perceptive to the signals she's giving.
Suggest a casual date in a public place (i.e. picnic in the park; lunch; out for icecream, high-school dance) and see what kind of reaction you get.
2006-09-25 07:38:26 · answer #3 · answered by niteowl716 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her how she feels about relationships. (At 15, she may not want to be in a serious and/or exclusive relationship.) What qualities does she look for in a guy (honesty, a sense of humor, that kind of stuff more than simply the superficial)? How important is a relationship to her at this stage in her life (what are her priorities -- does she want someone she can date casually or a study partner, a good friend or a boyfriend)?
If you don't understand her answers, say so, and ask her if she can explain them more clearly. Communication is a key to any relationship; it needs to be open, honest and frequent.
Good luck!
2006-09-25 07:42:19 · answer #4 · answered by pat z 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Hey, there's something I really want to tell you. You're my best friend and you're beautiful, and I think I really like you. More than best friends, I mean...it's just that I can't find any other way to tell you. We see each other everyday and I don't want to hide anything from you...you're a fantastic person to be with and seeing you makes me feel so good about myself. I've never felt this good before and now I know why....I like you..."
Alright maybe the above script is more useful for a girl confessing to a guy (I used it), I'm sure if she likes you the same, she'll be so flattered! Good luck!
2006-09-25 07:42:37 · answer #5 · answered by Springboard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question. My advice is to keep it light and open-ended, so you safeguard the friendship. For example, when she's giving you a "signal" that makes you wonder if she's hinting at being more than friends, give her a nice smile and ask, "Are you flirting with me, because I like it." That will open the door to her dropping some more hints that will give you a clearer picture.
2006-09-25 07:36:42 · answer #6 · answered by Zebra4 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is playing hard to get and wants to test hot into her you are. She is going to force you to make the first move by doing this and you will have to run that risk of rejection to see, but she IS teasing you, right?
Try: Hey Jane, maybe I am going out on a limb here, but I was thinking we would be good as BF/GF, and I've been getting the same feeling from you, so what do you think?
2006-09-25 07:40:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're superb friends, so which you have already completed some issues jointly. next time you pass out. once you assert see you later, kiss her on the cheek. that's a secure place to kiss her. She could the two shrink back or kiss you decrease back. If she kisses you on the lips, you would be responsive to that she desires to be extra desirable than friends. If would not, do no longer pass any further then that. Do the cheek kiss back the subsequent time and he or she would have had some time to evaluate your dating ( probable together with her friends ). If she pulls away, she would not see you as something yet a chum.
2016-10-01 08:41:22 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her if she can be honest with you? Can she tell you the truth if you ask her a major question? Is there anything that you like about me? If so, what? Do you like me better than so and so? I like you, but I'm afraid you don't like me that well? Maybe if you would just be brave and ask her what you want to know. Girls are funny like that, and they like to string you along. What is the worst thing she could say to you? If she don't like you, then it's better you find out sooner than later, and maybe by someone else. Be Brave!! I'll bet she likes you more than you thought!! Good luck!!
2006-09-25 07:38:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first of all there is no way to ask her without being obvious. Best thing to do is either straight out tell her how you feel or have a friend find out for you.
2006-09-25 07:34:59 · answer #10 · answered by BabyBlues 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women like confidence, my dude. Don't be a pansy. Just step up to the table and play your cards, trust me on this.
You have NOTHING to lose:
If she digs you, in a month perhaps you'll be dating... in a year, you'll likely have moved on, with some happy memories.
If she doesn't, in a month, your interactions at school might be awkward, but in a year you won't care about it anymore.
And in 10 years, well forget about it, you'll look back on all the missed opportunities and say, "why the hell didn't I just say something."
2006-09-25 07:37:15 · answer #11 · answered by goatcane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋