I just had a phone call from a friend that my cousin had sex with my friends girlfriend. Do i tell my friend about it. If i was him i would want to know or am i betraying my cousin even though i think he was wrong he knew she had a boyfriend.
2006-09-25 07:16:04 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
do as you like.if it is true.
2006-09-25 07:21:15 · answer #1 · answered by prince47 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure this is true (can your friend be trusted to be truthful and a reliable source)? You can always check with your cousin to verify that he had sex with this girl.
In other words, get the facts first. Then I'd confront the girlfriend with the evidence and ask her if she's going to 'fess up or do you have to. Finally, tell your friend. But be prepared for the possibility that he might get angry at you (I've seen this happen before).
I wouldn't worry about "betraying" your cousin. As you say, he knew she had a boyfriend. Besides, put the blame where it belongs: on the cheating girl.
The acid test for me has always been: how would I feel if I was in a similar situation (being cheated on). I would definitely want to know!
2006-09-25 07:29:53 · answer #2 · answered by pat z 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be honest and tell your friend, if you are thinking that it is wrong than it is. Would you want something like that happen to you? you are right, it was not right, your cousin knew that she had a boyfriend, if the friend means alot to you than , be honest with him and he will be forever honest with you. the girl also knew what she was doing as well , it wasnt only your cousins bad move but it was hers as well , if your firend finds out that you knew about it, he may be mad at you for not telling him about this scenario, good luck keep in touch
2006-09-25 07:25:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this is tough cause no matter what it seems as though someone loses! I think you should talk to your cousin and find out why he did it and it would probably be good to tell your friend that his girlfriend slept with another guy and maybe just not say who?! Your friend does deserve to know...he shouldn't be with a girl that is going to be cheating on him!
2006-09-25 07:20:40 · answer #4 · answered by Klombia 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a real friend would let him know but be prepared to piss off your cousin. the truth will set you free. step up to the plate with integrity and it becomes a win-win-win situation for EVERYONE. The universe will always come together to support your truth but you must live in integrityto grow or you can be a putz. It is not your fault the girl is a slag.
2006-09-25 07:20:44 · answer #5 · answered by larry s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it.When infidelity is involved,most people who cheat are exceptionally good liars.It is far easier to believe a lie that doesn't hurt than the truth when it does.You'll end up being the bad guy.Let them sort it out for themselves,and be there to pick up the pieces.
2006-09-25 07:24:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay stay out of it, if the girl was slutty enough to sleep with ur cousin when she has a boyfriend then, that shouldn't be any of your business, do not get involved or else you could lose your friend and your cousin might get mad at you. i had a similar case where one of my friends who had slept with some guy and he was now dating one of our friends and she wanted to tell her she slept with her boyfriend and i said she shouldn't bcoz it would bring animousity, i believe if people do not know about something it wouldn't hurt them.
but anyway stay out of it.
2006-09-25 07:24:11 · answer #7 · answered by lilykiss8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it be! Stay out of other peoples relationships even if your asked to tell. People say that they will be more hurt to find out later and from someone else....not true! If your hurt your hurt no matter when, how, or who told you it still feels the same. Sometimes it's better to just let them find out on their own.
2006-09-25 07:22:44 · answer #8 · answered by Mindy G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to stir up a big mess then go ahead. You say you would you would want know.Do you really or do you just want to fix things up for every one. You may find you are left out in the cold because you can't let people clean up their own mess
2006-09-25 07:21:19 · answer #9 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should tell him, he might not be happy if he finds out and then on top of it finds out you knew already.
2006-09-25 08:16:43 · answer #10 · answered by John H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think i would tell because it is your cousin
2006-09-25 07:20:02 · answer #11 · answered by jl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋