I've been seeing this guy on again off again for 3 years. We both admit there is a "connection" between us. And he has told me he "cares" for me. One reason we haven't taken things to the next level is because I have a child and that scares him. But, I want to know if he is in love with me, I think he is but I don't know for sure.
2006-09-25 07:15:29 · 33 answers · asked by Ashley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, if that scares him then he might be right. You have a child and thats who you are now. If he doesn't love you for who you are now and what comes with you, be careful. He probably does love youm just doesn't know if he's ready to be a dad and the next step is committing to that possibility might happen. You need to talk to him about it, because if he doesn't want to commit because you need to find someone who will.
2006-09-25 08:18:33 · answer #1 · answered by ConfusedK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 years and the only thing he can express is that he 'cares' for you. I care for many people but can't actually say I love them. Further more, if he is scared to take it to the next level because you have a child, that is a huge red flag. The child is going to be a major, major part of your life, he either needs to commit to both of you or you must get on with out him.
Best of luck...
2006-09-25 07:30:24 · answer #2 · answered by Floss 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel that Love is all about accepting the other person as he/she is... and with what he/she has... But this looks like he is only fascinated by you, and doesnt want to carry the responsibility of a child...
Best way to see how he feels for you, is, stay away, for say a few number of months... Dont have any links between you both... not any calls, no meetings, NOTHIN'... if he comes searching for you, worried and all, he loves you... if not, he doesnt
2006-09-25 07:18:56 · answer #3 · answered by Little Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to tell is does he accept you and child he has to understand you guys are together and that is the way it is going to be.Your child is first above all things and if he really loves you he will be a great influence on your child and a supporter of you guys as a family if not itisn't worth your time.I've been there I raised my son who I adopted when My ex-wife and I got married.I loved her and I was willing to be a father for her son.That was 22 years ago and my relationshi[pwith him is a father and son realtionship even though we are divorced.If he is not going to be thre all the way it is heart ache waiting to happen.
2006-09-25 08:00:59 · answer #4 · answered by ga44male 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because when a man is in love, he tells that person. Men are simple and it sounds to me like he's been waiting around for you in some way. If he didn't have some pretty strong emotions, he wouldn't still be there.
You can't rush these things though. You really have to just wait and let him come to you. If he really loves you, you'll know.
Plan B, Tell him you love him and see what he says...
2006-09-25 07:18:25 · answer #5 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't know for sure then he hasn't given you what you need to feel secure in your relationship, I think he is using you...otherwise he would accept you and your child as a package deal. Hunny don't short change yourself, there are many wonderful men out there who love children, want to be a father, and want to love you with all of thier heart. I would express to him that you need to know and feel that he truly loves you AND your child....in true love there isn't fear. If he can't give you that, quit living your life in limbo and move on! You can do so much better!
2006-09-25 07:20:17 · answer #6 · answered by Shae 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Currently i am going thru a similar situation is that i like this guy but i dont kno if it is because i have a son that it scares him. It is frustrating when u love someone and is not sure. But i believe that if someone loves u they will accept u as u are
2006-09-25 07:18:58 · answer #7 · answered by Cleo-Petra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are very simple creatures. If they love you, they tell you and they behave in loving ways, like accepting all of you (your child included.) I would guess that he enjoys your company and likes sleeping with you but does not love you enough to be with you. Go find someone who treats you the way you feel you deserve.
2006-09-25 07:17:45 · answer #8 · answered by vicvic* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time you get the flu, like where you're throwing up for a couple of days and feel like total crap and have to sleep with a bucket and all that, make him take care of you and see how he does.
2006-09-25 07:18:16 · answer #9 · answered by holden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time will tell my friend. if you guys are or was just having a fling, the smoke and clouds will clear. but if its real.. the realtionship isnt going anywhere. now you may have ups and downs, but every one does.. if the love is truly there then no squabble can stop you from loving each other.
2006-09-25 07:18:45 · answer #10 · answered by mandi k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋